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If women enjoy sex as much as we men do then why do they always complain about men only wanting sex?

I never understood this, this always sounded like some sort of oxymoron to me.

I mean if you love doing something I assume that you would do that specific thing as much as possible especially whenever you get the chance to.

I don’t see why the need to complain about it unless you actually hate it or you’re obviously expecting more than just one thing

It’s like me with and video games. I play video games all the time especially when I’m free because I always enjoy them. However if I play them at Chucky Cheese and Dave & Busters where you get rewarded tickets for playing then I’ll probably will get upset if I didn’t get the tickets I thought I deserved, nevertheless I still be happy that I got to play
If women enjoy sex as much as we men do then why do they always complain about men only wanting sex?
Because it’s complete 🐎 💩 women do not like sex as much as men do
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  • The part that you are missing is that most women can't have casual sex without getting emotionally attached to the guy - and this happens even if she goes into the situation knowing she was agreeing only to casual sex. Because of these feelings, the girl is hurt when she realizes she has feelings for the guy that he doesn't share, and this is emotionally painful for her. This is why women, despite loving sex, don't want CASUAL sex.

    As a man, you have the ability to have casual sex without falling in love with the girl, so it's easy for you to have casual sex - it doesn't come at an emotional cost for you. This is no one's fault - men and women are simply different, and these differences cause conflicts.

    You also have to factor in pregnancy and reputation - other factors that women have to deal with that men largely don't. You put all that together, and it's not difficult to understand why women are reluctant to have casual sex.

    Yes, we all know that some women are exceptions to this rule - a few are just naturally able to detach their emotions, but a lot of those exceptions are girls who suffered some form of abuse (emotional, physical, sexual) growing up and had her ability to attach to other people damaged by that abuse. Still, such women DO exist, and they often have sex whenever they please with whoever they please, because they can enjoy sex without growing attached, like men do. They often have other issues and liabilities, but that's a different conversation.

    The point is: casual sex is often a low or no-cost thing for men, but comes at some cost, and sometimes a high cost, for women, so most women prioritize their emotional well-being ahead of their horniness.

    • "This is why women, despite loving sex, don't want CASUAL sex." well that's too damn bad, if they can't handle the heat then they better stay the fuck out of the kitchen. yet it makes me wonder why prostitutes in the other hand never get emotionally attach after sex. " This is no one's fault - men and women are simply different, and these differences cause conflicts." yet for some odd reason it was women themselves who created the hookup culture "You also have to factor in pregnancy and reputation" the last thing they give a fuck about when it comes with free stuff. ". Still, such women DO exist, and they often have sex whenever they please with whoever they please," just as long as that person will give them free dinner and their Netflix password. " casual sex is often a low or no-cost thing for men, but comes at some cost, and sometimes a high cost, for women" totally disagree. its the other way around because it is us men who pay for everything such as dinner and gas money in hopes for the bimbo to sleep with us and even then they can still friendzone you.

    • "yet it makes me wonder why prostitutes in the other hand never get emotionally attach after sex." The women who are prostitutes or who just sleep around a lot are those exceptions: many were abused/experienced trauma growing up, or are just part of the small group of exceptions who can separate sex from emotions. There are always exceptions to every rule, and that doesn't invalidate the rule. "yet for some odd reason it was women themselves who created the hookup culture" Hookup culture was created by Marxists - under the guise of Radical Feminism. Marxists are intentionally trying to destroy western society, so they can replace it with Marxism, but they realize that people won't accept Marxism if there is any other choice. Destroying relationships between men and women helps destroy the society, so feminist leaders encouraged women to have casual sex to further that goal. "totally disagree. its the other way around because it is us men who pay for everything such as dinner and gas money in hopes for the bimbo to sleep with us and even then they can still friendzone you." I was talking about emotional, societal, and reputational costs, rather than financial ones. But the guys getting the most sex - the hot/popular/wealthy guys - don't need to take women out or spend money on them or even treat them well to get laid. Many treat women terribly, and the women still come back for more, or will happily take them back. It's guys who aren't top-tier (in most women's eyes) that have to work to impress women with dates and gifts and trips and other things.

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  • Girls want a lot more than sex, although in my opinion, they enjoy sex equally, if not more, than guys.

    "A lot more" includes:
    1) pregnancy and kids welfare. It's real and although she wears IUDs, eat pills and takes Plan B, she still has pregnancy as a primary concern.

    2) concerns for pregnancy leads to the desire for a committed relationship. She wants the assurance of support in case she needs it.

    3) and she wants the kids to have a father. Hence she chooses carefully a responsible guy than a fling.

    4) oh sex is great. She loves it! She wants it. She just worry he's a Player. So she holds back.

    So there are things that us guys won't understand. We just poke in and ejaculate. Then we can go to another. We're at the other end of the "worry" spectrum. That's why we think girls overreact. No. We under react.

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  • I think the problem is when women feel their partner ONLY wants sex. I had an ex who would only touch me affectionately if he wanted sex, and it just felt like:
    1) Is that all you want me for?
    2) Why can't you kiss me without it turning into sex?
    3) Oh here we go again, he expects sex. The pressure to perform is on.
    The expectation is a total turn-off. If I'm EXPECTED to have sex with you now that you've started touching me affectionately, now I'm just anxious because I'm expected to perform.

    I think women enjoy sex as much as men, but we don't think about it as often. Men think about sex and become aroused, women become aroused first and THEN think about sex.

    • Wow not saying you are but are you asexual? Because my ex was the polar opposite of you, she would complain that I never touched her intimately or ever initiated the sex

    • No, I don't believe I am. I enjoy sex and kissing etc. Perhaps my answer is skewed due to some trauma. I suppose I mean like, give me hugs and kiss my cheek to show you care for me. Grab my butt because you think it's a cute butt. Don't only do those things if the end goal is ALWAYS sex.

    • but how do you know it "only do those things if the end goal is ALWAYS sex?" you dont have psychic powers and there are a lot of guys that would grab or smack your ass simply because they are bored and want your attention or just feel like teasing you

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  • Women want sex along with other things. Guys don’t seem to care very much about those other things.

    • I know, we are obviously more than happy with just sex alone. but thanks for being honest

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  • Because they don't want it as much, or as often. If you're in a normal, average mood and I offer you a beer, you may want it, or not. If you take it, perhaps you'll enjoy it. If I offer you a beer when you're desperately thirsty, or overwhelmed with reality and need some reinforcement against it, you'll want it a whole lot more. But will your enjoyment of it be any greater? Probably not- you may FEEL that it is, simply because you're satisfying a desire, but that's a separate thing. A woman who doesn't feel the overpowering NEED to have sex, pretty much constantly, won't have the same appreciation of it as a man does.

    Talk to a woman who's had to take supplemental testosterone. They can tell you. It's not a coincidence that after they recover from whatever condition necessitated their taking it, many make a priority of apologizing to the men in their lives. Usually with something like "I understand now".

  • Because they want sex ONLY on their terms, when SHE'S ready, when SHE'S horny. Your sexual desire/need/penchant doesn't count and never will. Take what you can get while you can. She controls the disbursement and always will.

    Not frequent enough... LOSER!

    Want more, freak/pervert!

    It's that simple and that complicated.

    There's is NO figuring them out!

    She wins, you lose. She loses, you lose. You never win!

    • Amen! this is why I prefer prostitutes and other types of sex workers

  • They can actually get way more pleasure out of it than we can. But it is also usually harder to get them there.

  • I never had a woman tell me this. I love sex.

  • I've never in my life complained about that. Have actually found myself multiple times complaining that I don't get enough sex

    • is that in or out of your relationship (s)?

    • I've been in a relationship for the last 9 years

  • Most want security within a relationship. Fucking and leaving isn't the security they want so they complain that it's ONLY sex. Not complaining that you want sex. It's the only part

    That said most girls are okay with it. Just depends on the guy. Most girls who are honest would say as much. Depends on the guy, if he was honest, and she was attracted to him.

    They'll understand the situation and be okay with it. Some wouldn't. Most would

    • yeah even the ones you're trying to hookup with want that "security" so I guess we can say this is a red flag

  • It's just like you can't take them to Taco Bell on a date, guy! They want the extra fancy-dancy lace that goes with the dinner, plus... they want conversation and mental stimulation!

    That's what they are complaining about!

    • yeah cause today even the ones that are good nothing but fucking want that special treatment... to bad its not gonna happen

  • Because many of the women that want a relationship often go for the guys that are pushy (the hook up kind of guys) and not for the relationship oriented kind of guys. then they complain that he only wanted sex, yet she will continually go for the same kinds of guys and expect different results.
    Plus there are as many (I think more now) women that just want sex as men.

    • you had me going till your last sentence

  • Because sex is a celebration of the relationship. That's when it's in its best and truest form, and that's what women are craving. The vast majority of women would only want to have very frequent sex in the context of a thriving and healthy relationship. Where the great amount of sex is a celebration of the great quality of intimacy she shares with you. But if the relationship is suffering, if it's empty, then the sex will feel empty to her as well. And she just won't be as interested. Sure she'll get horny sometimes, but even the quality and quantity of that will decrease.
    So if you can create a thriving and healthy relationship you will create the space for the kind of woman who wants to have sex as much as you do. Both the sexual and romantic aspects of your relationship will feed each other and both will be enhanced.
    There are some exceptions to everything I have said here. Some women who don't feel that way. But they are the minority

  • they lie about everything, i even seen a post from them jus now saying men are jus as emotional as them, what bs

  • I’ve thought about that too but they just don’t want it to be only sex

  • They want commitment from the men that give it to them whereas guys don’t really care as long as they get the sex.

  • Because women will piss and moan about anything they can that puts men in a bad light especially when it’s things they are more guilty of doing than men.
    It’s shame deflecting.

  • Women just think men are animals and don't realize how emotional sex is for us.

    "How do men experience sexual rejection?

    When men say they initiate sex not just to experience physical pleasure but for a moment of emotional connection, then rejection feels personal. They say: “I feel she doesn’t want to be close, that she doesn’t like me.” They talk about how this makes them doubt themselves and doubt the relationship. She said no to sex, but she’s saying no to me."

  • Women hate sex because it's all about our pleasure. We get 100% pure pleasure and no consequences. Meanwhile they get domination, humiliation, disgust, and pain. And that's just before the pregnancy and birth.

  • women enjoy sex if they feel like it is getting them somewhere/something

    • reason #1 on why I quit using Tinder and all those other bullshit dating apps

  • Everyone enjoys sex.. but women are the most sensitive yet the most beautiful creatures.. they want or needs love more than sex.. Also they don't get turned on as easily as us (men)..

    • yeah take them out on a date and pay them the food or give them your Netflix passwords and watch how EASILY they get turned on

  • C. Because women always complain.

  • Women always like to use shaming tacticts because they benifit from it.

  • Because it’s complete 🐎 💩 women do not like sex as much as men do, and most women are queer anyways, so it doesn't matter.

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