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Do guys prefer submissive or dominant girlfriend / females in bed?

I have a 10 year relationship with my boyfriend. He meet me when I was 16 and he was 19 . We always had a submissive (me) and dominant (him) in sex. It was really hot and we would have a lot of good sex. I really never fucked him back and by that I mean. I wouldn’t get on top as much or move my ass during doggy. I would let him fuck me. He never told me anything and he showed me he enjoyed my body. I don't know if it was because we were younger that he liked the S/D things but things Changed over the years. I found out he was entertaining other females and so my trust changed. I always knew he was cheating but I never had actual proof the only proof I had was he messaging females ( just talking ). 3 years ago I found a app where you can message people with a different number and so did I found the evidence I needed. He was indeed fucking escorts. Our sex had change drastically and I have kept my body fit so I assume he was just sexually pleasured by me. We ended up having a break then getting back together. But the sex never got better. Our sex right now last like 5 mins. He cums and then that’s it. We always loved doggy. Now I barely feel him in doggy. He lose erecting and he now does missionary with me and we never really did missionary. He use to last longer now he doesn’t. And for some reason I don’t feel him inside me like I use to back then. Is like he isn’t fully hard. Sometimes I thing my vag lose but is that even possible? I only had sex with him. When I told him all this he said that he realize he does all the job and I don’t do nothing but I asked if he liked girls taking over and he got pissed.
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Thanks for your honest answer and opinions! I went out for dinner with him and we had suggested car sex before dinner. To be honest I wasn’t excited but still had sex. As I knew he only lasted like 5 mins. I told him how it bothers me tht he last so little now and tht he only pleasuring himself and not me. Tht we barely go rounds now. He stayed quiet for a while and told me that I always talk shit about our sex or always put him down. He also said “idk what you be watching that you have
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High expectations “. Tht comment caught me off guards because in these 10 years he never said tht to me and made me feel like he really thinks our sex Is “good enough” he claims he don’t need to cheat and that he changed he always don’t want end this relationship but now I’m the one that wants to cheat and have someone fully pleasure me because he no longer does that for me.
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  • Nevermind what other guys like.

    You Details tell a sad story that he's no more your exclusive.

    And I think when the dynamic of sex changes drastically, plus you're convinced that he cheated, the relationship should be nearing its end.

    Moreover, he no more show you kindness and sex is more like fuxking than lovemaking. in my opinion, it time to make a decision to kove on or not.

    Of course you make the choice. Be wise and don't give in to emotions.

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  • 10 years is a long time for a female.
    Women age like SOUR MILK. So you may be average looking to him now.
    I have done the same thing, she was hot, young and tight for a couple years, then I ended up cheating because she got a bit older and I found a hotter biitch. I'd have to see a pic of you now compared to back then. Send me a DM and I'll be BRUTALLY fuuckin honest!

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  • I like normal sex where we do all kinds of positions and we work together.

  • Depends really. It can be refreshing when the girl leads and does the job

    In your case, if you he is hiring escorts, why are you with him? (Unless you don't mind him doing so)

    • Regards to update: Leave him. 1. You are slowly losing respect for him 2. You are sexually deprived They are not a good recipe for maintaining a relationship. Both of you will benefit (even though it would be painful)

  • honestly everyone is different but most of like to “chase” and dominate with a few female aggressive sessions throughout

  • depends on the guy. though i did not read the full thing (the title question and something about being on top very rarely) the getting on top usually isn't about dom or sub. plenty of subs get on top quite often.

  • I prefer a dominant woman.

    At this point, you're no longer pleasing each other, so you both should move on. I think you're just sexually incompatible.

  • I'm a dominate, but your story makes it sound like he is a toxic person that you should run away from.

  • I prefure switch so that way we can have lots of fun

  • I’d want us to take turns.

  • Well first off he is getting older so he maybe doesn't have the stamina or testrone like he use to. But most guys like being dominate and girls like being submissive but you should switch up to keep the sex interesting I usually a submissive personally but I can be the dominant one if need be.

  • A balance of both

  • I will want a female to dominate me and break me in bed because I have an overly empowering sex drive

  • Dominant.

  • I like BOTH... that way it isn't Boring...

  • Slave, LG, or Sub.

    • she my slvae

  • Submissive

  • Submissive in bed and in life

  • He's not faithful, and he doesn't pleasure you. There is a channel on pornhub called Robby O. And another owned by Jonny Sins. Both give sex advice for men, it may be helpful. Seek couples counseling as well. If he's not willing to do those two things, end it. You're 26, only been when one guy, and if you're looking for a serious relationship, you'll find someone. Just dont make the right guy wait while you're out hooking up.

    My opinion about dominance in bed? It's fun to take turns. Some times I really just want to lay into my partner and let her have it hard. Other times I want her to take control. She also likes when I dominate sometimes, and let her take control some times.

  • I like switch girls 🔥

  • He cheated a bunch of times. It’s over.

  • Submissive

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