How do you drop a fuck buddy without hurting their feelings?

[DonkeyDan]

Have you ever had to do this? How did it go? How did you do it?

[arodriguez664]

There is no way around hurting their feelings. Rejection will always sting no matter the situation. The best thing is to be honest and give her closure without placing blame. Basically this arrangement isn't going to work for the future I'm working towards. I'm very sorry but I think we should end this and be just friends again. Or something to that effect

[DonkeyDan]

That's the way im planning on handling it so yes thanks for the feedback, glad to see that I'm handling it correctly.

[arodriguez664]

I'm glad you're planning on communicating openly. Many people struggle with that

[DonkeyDan]

Yes, I don't have any issues in being totally honest, she knew from the outset that I was seeing other people, as is she. Honesty is a huge policy of mine, I never like to lead anyone on. Its just that one of my other friends with benefits has developed further and we've agreed to stop seeing other people that we would regularly see for sex.

[dustybiker]

You’re already honest and respectful. Just be yourself. Go with your gut.

[DonkeyDan]

Thank you ♥️

[dustybiker]

Thank you for mhg. I hope things worked out well for both of you.

[DonkeyDan]

You're welcome, yeah it was all very civilised.

[RobT312]

I have done this. I just walked away and stopped the fucking around. No drama, no talk, no explanation, nothing. it worked and it was understood I was no longer interested.
I’m not into dramatic breakups, I have no patience for that, and there was no commitment in my situation as in a real relationship.
maybe a little heartless, but I just needed to end it. Three weeks later I did get a text that said “WHAT HAPPENED?” and I politely answered.

[DonkeyDan]

I think I'd rather handle it than just leave it.

[RobT312]

Cool man, do what works for you. For me , I just needed to cut the cord 100% because I met a woman that wanted a real relationship and couldn’t jeopardize that.

[TrueConfection]

I've never had one, but my guess is if you're not in the mood she'll find someone else.

[DonkeyDan]

Its more complicated than that, and it's in relation to an agreement with my well I would say friend with benefits but we're a little more than that now. I don't want to just leave her dangling and I want her to know where she stands but in also not an asshole and don't want to hurt her feelings. I guess I can just say I can't see you anymore, but I know she'll ask why and I don't want her to feel like I chose someone else over her.

[TrueConfection]

I don't think you can avoid the hurt feelings. I would want someone to give it to me straight and honestly, but not in a rude or mean way. Just facts.

[DonkeyDan]

Yep, I'll just have to deal with whatever her reaction is, she might be totally fine with it too.

[TrueConfection]

At least you aren't going to leave her wondering what happened or why. I wish you the best!

[DonkeyDan]

Oh no I could never do that to someone. Thank you, if you never hear form me again you'll know it didn't go well 🤣

[TrueConfection]

😳 😂😂😂

[NathanDavis]

I've never done anything like this... especially when it sounds like someone is just disposable like that... lol

[DonkeyDan]

She's a fuck buddy not a relationship, I have to stop seeing her for the benefit of another girl, also not a relationship but more serious, its very complicated.

[NathanDavis]

she's a person... and you should be a man so be a man... simple

[DonkeyDan]

I am man which is why im asking how others have done it with out hurting their feelings, if I was a dick I'd just block her but I'm not.

[NathanDavis]

alright... meet her in person like a man should, don't just text her and then, just be absolutely honest with her about what you want, you feel and you need to for yourself, and how is not going to work out with her anymore... no excuses, no lies, just communicate the truth if she has questions or doubts, you talk it out a bit, and that's it, she might not like it or she might be okay with it, hopefully... given that she also entered in this dynamic, probably expects it to happen sooner or later and it is that simple... while being concerned about not getting people's feelings getting hurt it is a very good thing, the most important thing is that you remain honest and genuine, that will sure hurt less, if any

[DonkeyDan]

That is pretty much the way I planned on doing it anyway. I asked the question to see others perspectives.

[NathanDavis]

then you had right all along... genuine as well, that's usually the best policy

[Anonymous]

Never done this before as it's a waste of time and I don't view sex as a bit of fun.

There's two ways I see this going down.
Either she won't care one bit and was just using you as an expendable tool for sex and move on.
Or she'll be hurt and you will have the reality you used someone for sex and a bit of fun on your conscience. This can get even worse if the woman has developed feelings or the idea that you will eventually fall in love with her with time.

Just be honest.
You'll have to accept her blunt coldness, or the negatives of her being upset and heartbroken that come with a person getting attached to another with this kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Tell them that the other night you slept with someone who is HIV positive.
That should work.