Were you terrified the first time you had sex?

[ElliotsRipley]

What were you most worried about?
What made you the most nervous about it?
How did it end up going for you?

[Sangita93]

We both had studied life science at master level, including reproduction systems – but that was theory only, practical things are quite different and our first time sex was most pleasant, it was very well planned.

Sex is important part of women’s wants and men’s desires between the sheets to keep human life never ending on earth. It is a different thing that some women experience crippling fears that stop them from engaging in sexual activities altogether. A condition called genophobia or coitophobia is “the fear of sexual intercourse, or afraid of all kinds of sexual acts”. Some most common fears are:

‘What If I Fail To Orgasm?’

‘Will I Be Able To Please Him?’

(Performance anxiety)

Afraid Of The Pain (– first time penetration.)

‘Will He Judge Me?’ (It typically holds a woman back from expressing her desires.)

‘He Will Not Like My Body’ (Fear of getting naked and genuine factor contributing to the development of genophobia or coitophobia)

Mutual trust and LOVE is the only key to overcome such things.

[EmyyWolf]

I felt more nervous than scared. I had already lost my virginity to a sex toy, by being rough with it in my teen years.

I was nervous because I didn’t know if he’d like my body and the shape of it.

[JohnK123]

Wdym by being rough?

[EmyyWolf]

@JohnK123 Ramming myself and banging myself with a full-length GLASS DILDO

[Lliam]

I was just very excited. I was 16 and she was 14. She had had one previous boyfriend so wasn't a virgin, and she was on the pill. We had been going together for a short while when she invited me into the house trailer her parents kept in their back yard. To see and touch a real live woman was beyond thrilling. I had only had access to photos of nude women up to then and had been horny for years.

All I knew was that women had a hole that a penis was supposed to go into. But I was surprised when I put my hand between her legs and discovered squishy juiciness. That's how clueless I was.

We had sex that first time in missionary position because I didn't know of anything else. I'll admit that I probably lasted a minute.

From then on, we had lots of sex and I got much better at it. LOL

[Dragonpurple]

I have to laugh at the clueless part, cause that was me first time I had a girlfriend to make out with. We never had any real sex but I get you. Like whoa... what the. I had never even seen a girl nude and she was too shy to let me, I never did see her nude. We did try to kind of have sex but neither of us had a clue and I'm sure it was just what people call clit fucking, no vaginal with her. Some say that is sex some say it is not. In retrospect I should of got a room, but my responsible self said sorry I have to go to work and then before we got a chance she broke up with me, she found another guy she was interested in. I wish I had called in sick and got that room, she was so ready. Yet another clueless thing I did, so naïve.

[Lliam]

@elliotsripley. Thank you for the MHO.

[Drumlin2001]

Yep. I was late bloomer, didn't happen till is was 35. Was very nervous, first couple of tries couldn't get it up. Luckily my tongue and fingers worked so she had fun at least.
I'm not in good physical shape, not well hung, and with no experience I was worried I wouldn't perform very well. Was embarrassing to not get it up, but at least I had her screaming, once I new I could make her orgasm I was more relaxed

[Bulletproof04]

Not really at the time, I was six-teen and my friends and I were being dumb and drinkin stuff, most of the guys were REALLY drunk. It was like after a car show my guy best friend and I went to his house and yeah at first I didn't know what to think and then I was OK. Yes in my family you able to start drinking and a young age at least 13 or 15.

[JohnK123]

Whyyyy that’s so young to drink

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yes, I was, as I suffered from Haphephobia and couldn't be touched by him and was afraid it would hurt to be touched. It ended up working out and being very sweet though.

[theothersider]

I wasn't terrified, at first. but I was very nervous. I was 15 and it was the first time letting a boy see me naked. not helped by the fact that he was and had been my childhood best friend. he was drunk I was not so it made the whole thing very awkward. it didn't want to go in and after some awkward pushing he finally crammed it in there which hurt not bad but it definitely was not a pleasant feeling. he did ask me if I was ok and the thought was in my head to tell him to stop. but like a dumbass I said I was ok and he started thrusting. the whole time I was like "wow... this kind of sucks" then he came. I was kind of elated that it was over. that elation was short lived though when I looked over at my side table and saw the condom that we opened... but never put on. THEN I was terrified. I didn't end up pregnant but not only did it ruin our friendship but it put me off sex for quite a while. sorry that is not sexy or exciting but my first time was quite bad.

[JohnK123]

Why wasn't the condom on

[bigbluey]

I was really nervous but not scared.

I had masturbated a lot before so I had an idea of what it would be like

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't remember. It was right after the Spanish-American War.

[ChrisMaster69]

No the terror was getting a condom.

at 13 getting a condom is not an easy task

the sex was not a problem as we had done everything but that.

[demurefaithe]

I was worried it would hurt, but my partner was understanding and made sure I was comfortable so I wasn't nervous at all. It was after our date and was a nice experience, I don't really remember how it felt but everything before and after was what made it special to me.

[ushagomez]

Not at all. It was wonderful to at long last enjoy yourselves fully. It was all planned romantic and deeply satisfying.

[SkipPerk]

No, I was thrilled

[Nonameee9]

Wasn’t worried. I did bleed a lot once it was entered.

[JohnK123]

Is that normal

[Dinklex3]

Minus all the pain, it went great. Lol
I wasn't scared.
He made me feel super comfortable.
He was super warm and smelled intoxicating.
I was most nervous about the pain, but got used to it.

[Lyndsielee666]

He coerced me into it so yes, absolutely petrified.

[GenaBaby1995]

No I was 13 him 19 playing footise he climbed on of me top pulled my shorts to the side and took me

[JohnK123]

How did u know him

[Dragonpurple]

Not at all terrified but nervous, it was a hot July night on a hilltop watching fireworks, under a blanket. We had sweated together into one big stuck glue pile.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Not terrified though it went badly

[JohnK123]

What happened

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 I bled a lot

[JohnK123]

Is that normal? How did u stop the bleeding?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 no it's not normal. I tore. I wore a liner then thought it was ok, took it off went to sleep then must have done something in my sleep and ended bleeding through my underwear, shorts and the sheets.

[JohnK123]

Tore? Tore what? 😭 what’s a liner That sounds really bad I’m sorry

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 tore my hymen, which is thicker than the average so it bled a lot. It's like a sanitary pad but thinner.

[JohnK123]

I thought hymens were like a myth…. I didn’t realize they were real things- oof

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 they're real, the use of them to tell if someone is a virgin or not is a myth however.

[JohnK123]

What do they do then? Also can I dm u with more questions 😭

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 the theory is that it's there so fecal matter doesn't enter the vagina when we are infants

[JohnK123]

From like diapers?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 I mean yes, also just dirt in general as babies can't stand so naturally they're laying or sitting on the ground

[JohnK123]

True haha… but that seems like a stretch…. Like why Are they so painful the

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 not really a stretch, makes sense. It's incredibly easy for women to get thrush. It's not painful.

[JohnK123]

What’s get thrush? Oh it’s not painful?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 thrush happens when bacteria throws off the pH balance of the vagina, it causes discharge which smells, and itching. It can also happen on the skin and in the mouth.

[JohnK123]

Discharge? What smell? That’s a lot of stuff from one bacteria 😭… so ur mouth can get affected by ur v?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 just google it

[JohnK123]

Ok 👍🏼 do girls always get that tho

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 it can happen often, especially if you're sleeping with someone who isn't super thorough with cleaning or rinsing the soap off. It's a delicate balance.

[JohnK123]

How do Ik or girls know if theyrr thoroughly cleaning

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 well you won't get thrush..

[JohnK123]

Oh- well I assumed guys have a similar thing too lol no?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 no it's pretty unlikely for men to get it

[JohnK123]

Oh. Have u gotten it many times?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 yes, it can happen from 9ther reasons too

[JohnK123]

How so?

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 soap, stress, unhealthy living environments, birth control...

[JohnK123]

Birth control? How-

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 messing with hormones = pH levels can be thrown off

[JohnK123]

Oh- so when u take it does that happen

[Razp_Sorbet]

@JohnK123 it can.

[JohnK123]

That’s wild. I’m sorry

[LovingJo]

Not terrified, but nervous.. I was 15.

[JohnK123]

What happened

[FunkyMonkee]

Hell no!! I loved it!!
My biggest worry was that my parents would hear us because my bed was directly above theirs!

[exitseven]

No. I was nervous but not terrified. I had just met this girl and she was not very intimidating.

[Kabluie]

I think the only thing that could have terrified if mom came home early. We had about four hours after school to have sex and take a nap. We were both into school sports so being stretchy was normal, there was no hymen or bleeding

[awkward_author]

I wasn't nervous at all. It was just a spur of the moment thing.