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I fake an orgasm so that my boyfriend doesn’t know I can’t cum from just penetration. 80% of women can’t, so what do the rest of you do?

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  • I am sorry that you are having this problem. I had a girlfriend who was the same way and she was never interested in having sex. I finally got it out of her that she was faking it for my benefit. I asked her if she had ever used a toy before and she had not.

    I spent a grip of money for toys that could help make things more enjoyable for her. I know that most men look at a vibrator as kryptonite and they steer clear of them. We had played around with them before sex. I think of toy play as a part for fore play.

    The Hitachi magic wand was a godsend. I could get her to orgasm so many times that when we would start having sex her clit was so sensitive that she could come when we had sex. Eventually she didn't have the problem with not having an orgasm with regular sex with no toys.

    I am not sure what you have tried or if your guy would use toys with you. It helped us how ever not every one is wired the same.

    Nowadays I ask my girlfriends if they have toys and if they would like to incorporate them into having sex. Some have said yes and others said no.

    Having great communication skills is key in every aspect of a relationship especially sex. Don't be afraid or ashamed to tell your partner that something is not working for you and more importantly what does work for you.

    One thing that drove both of us to having some of the best orgasms have been vibrating butt plugs. If you both are wearing them its insanity. If it's just in you. He can feel the vibrations and it can help stimulate your G spot. If it's just in him the vibrations can travel into his penis and stimulate your G spot. It will hit his P spot too.

    When you are using toys your time length having sex will be cut down a lot. I hope that you have gotten some useful information from me and the other people on here. I don't know if you want to chat about this in DM I would be happy to answer any questions that you have if I can. I hope things get better for you. Have a good one or more.

    • Solid opinion sir.

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  • OMG, get over it and learn what you DO come from! There may be some things yet UNTRIED! OK, you are a little young yet. At age 30, I met a 45 year old woman that could EXPRESS her desires in the most direct and "dirty" words. Young lady, intercourse was JUST FOREPLAY for her, to get her "all "wet" and sexy for what she really WANTED! YES! SHE WANTED to be licked AFTER I had come. I never even licked her BEFORE sex. She was holding the BEST till AFTER sex! YES, she had multiple screaming orgasms from it EVERY time! I ADORED HER for LETTING me DO "THAT" FOR HER and called her my GODDESS! I would BEG HER to PLEASE LET me do "IT" again. She also had multiple orgasms from anal licking alone! I ADORED her for THAT! 18 years later, when I was 48, I had a woman that could have 1 POLITE orgasm, from oral sex before sex, with some patience on my part! I CONVINCED her to let me lick her AFTER sex. Ready? She had multiple screaming orgasms from it her first time and EVERY TIME! SHE ADORED me for being patient and talking her into "THAT"! THERE is NOTHING on this planet SEXIER than a woman that WANTS her man to lick her AFTER SHE has had sex! NOTHING BEAT THAT except her TELLING him that SHE WANTED IT AGAIN!!! OMG, doing "THAT", for MY lady, elevated me into a state of "primal male ecstasy" EVERY TIME! Intercourse was ONLY a step on a path to something FAR BETTER FOR ME! The pleasure that I got from my "1 silly male orgasm" was NOTHING compared to LICKING my woman AFTER SHE has had sex! THAT IS REAL! I saw a woman, on the beach, at 7 AM in the morning, in her 20's, have multiple screaming orgasms from being licked AFTER sex and she KNEW I was watching. She had INTENTIONALLY waited for me to get within hearing range to start sexual activities with HER man. He also KNEW I was watching. My point --"IT" worked for her too! RAW SEX is AMAZING!

    • To the young lady, the MOST PRIMAL kind of sex possible is described here. A 45 year old woman taught me more about PLEASURE in 3 hours than my wife did in 10 years in 1977. Ann had to provide information to her husband to keep him INTERESTED in her "escapades. He did NOT believe that a man would "lick cum" FOR a WOMAN. In our third session, I was dressed up as a "pussy" in lingerie and a dog collar with 3 tags , and bright red lipstick. BAHL = best ass hole licker, DFCL = "dirty f------ cum licker", and TQP = the QUEENS "pussy"! I also had to wear a sightless mask because picts be would taken FOR HER HUSBAND. Picts 1 to 3 showed my cum on her ass, me licking it, and Ann’s clean ass. In pict 4, Ann was sitting on my face, making me lick her husband's cum. I had to read these lines into a microphone. 1. I am Ann's "pussy' because I lick cum for Ann. 2. I am Ann's best ass hole licker. 3. I am Ann's "dirty f------- cum licker"! 4. I will EAT your cum because Ann WANTS me to! In session 4, I was handed a note from her husband that said, "I ENJOY and I BELIEVE because of YOU! Thank you. The picts are GREAT! “

    • Oh, 3 little details for you. NONE of the 3 women that were highly orgasmic by being licked after sex had orgasms during intercourse. NOT 1! The 45 year old in 1977, and the younger one on the beach BOTH demanded of commanded anal licking. The one on the beach told her man to come as fast as he could so they could get to the licking. The one when I was 48 did NOT want anal licking. Then one night we moved in wrong directions and my tongue made contact there. I heard, OMG, go BACK "THERE"! Oh, WOW, she liked it and commanded it often after that. The pleasure sensors are WHERE they ARE! NONE had orgasms during intercourse and did NOT care! A woman is always going to get "wet" during intercourse. A gentleman is GLAD (will beg) to help out ONCE he witnesses or SHARES his woman''s PLEASURE IN IT! Good luck, be happy. A man can NOT forget multiple orgasms IN HIS FACE, ever!

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  • I’m just honest about it, and I only need to be “honest” if the guy asks, and they never do! I doubt your guy will! Now I CAN cum from strictly vaginal sex, but I still like to rub my clit when he’s inside me. And from what I’ve experienced, rather than saying “I just can’t cum from vaginal sex” when he starts, give it a minute or two to get yourself in that mental space, and as you’re falling in to place, reach down and start rubbing your clit, but say to him something like, “hey baby look I’m playing with my pussy for you, you like this baby?” He is never going to say no!

    • Ok, after 3 days I’ve re-read my answer, and this is a stupid answer! But now, sadly nobody will see this! Girl, you need to open up to him! Communication is the key to a great sex life, and just playing w/ yourself and pretending that you are doing it for him… well it smacks of dishonesty, and if there is one place you need to be honest it’s in the bedroom! Talk to him, tell HIM that 80% of women can not orgasm from vaginal sex, he will want you to to have an orgasm. I mean they are always asking us “did you cum?” Well they’re asking because they really do want us to enjoy it. What man wants to think that he can’t satisfy the woman he loves? (Yes, I know that to us, orgasms are not analogous with satisfaction, but to men they are so we need to work from their perspective.) just communicate with your man. We all know they are hopeless at communicating, but if you do let him know, your sex life will get. A lot better, and how can that be a bad thing?

    • I saw it. Good advice 👍🏻

    • @Still-alive Thank you sweetie 🤗

  • This is one of the biggest reasons for sexual dysfunction in a relationship. failure to communicate properly and more so on our side than their side. from most of the literature I can find on it most men are open to suggestions when it comes to what we need to enjoy sex and most want you to enjoy sex as much as they are enjoying having sex with you. if for no other reason than it being a point of pride. so open up with him about it.

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  • Why not be honest to your man regarding that you can’t cum from only penetration? This is going to be a rough relationship for you if you can’t speak up about I what you want during sex

    • I just don’t want to make him think he’s doing something wrong. I am the first female he’s ever been with sexually and so I don’t want to hurt his feelings when he’s just getting more confident

    • @hellothere543212 but he is doing something wrong and you also are doing something wrong by not addressing issues within your relationship. Again, it’s going to be a rough relationship for you if you hide issues within your relationship to save your partners feelings

    • You can even put it in nice terms “hey I would love to venture out and see how it feels to be eaten out by you” “I would love if you ate me out and explored my body” etc

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  • It's about 40% of women who don't orgasm through intercourse.

    You tell him. I repeat, you tell him. Do not lie about this. NO man wants to be lied to about this.
    Then you teach him how to make you cum (using whatever means necessary.)

    It's no big deal. Doesn't mean intercourse doesn't still feel fantastic.

  • Tell your boyfriend so he can do foreplay or more to help you orgasm. Faking an orgasm is a pretty shitty thing to do, you need to teach him, otherwise faking your orgasms will not make him learn.

  • I think most guys know that women fake orgasms. But guys know that women are supposed to cum as well, and it usually requires more than just penetration. But that does not mean women get nothing out of it... but it requires honest conversation and exploration.

    I personally initiate the conversation when it is someone I care about... and try to figure out what else I can do for her. Lots of women who have never have cumed, don't really know what your talking about. I have found women into their 40's that are wild cats in bed, but never cumed with a guy and don't really expect or require it from sex with a guy... but that doesn't mean that they don't get any pleasure from it... they just never met the right guy.

  • No penetration until I orgasm from foreplay first, several times is best. That way penetration actually can lead to another one or two.

    This is why I say, foreplay is more important than anything else, at least 30 minutes of it, an hour is even better.

    • @Aerissa_Jade This is what every guy should do 😋😋 Once first orgasm is reached by foreplay... Then 2ed 3rd 4th... Or Multiple orgasm r easily possible

    • This way penetration sex becomes even more pleasurable after first orgasm

    • @Aqueeld Exactly!

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  • Why don't you want him to know? Maybe he would try harder to please you, so why lie about it? Just rub yourself out at the same time and you will get the real thing.

  • I have never faked.. I tell the man how I work, he should not expect me to cum in ways that some other women cum. I don't always cum, but I enjoy sex regardless of hitting the climax. That is something a man has to accept if he wants sex with me.

  • I don't feel faking it is ever a good idea. I find I can get there with him inside me if he goes down on me to get me close then fuck me. It feels amazing but I cool down quick so I usually blow him until he's super hard and about to burst then stop. He goes down on me and when im getting closer he starts fucking me and I find that works. You have to have a generous lover who cares abput your pleasure too though.

  • I don't fake one, but I won't hide from the fact, there has only been a couple of time in my life that it has happened, tell me how can a man progress in learning if he thinks he can make a girl happy all the time,
    I won't lie,

  • Why do you want your boyfriend to not know how to make you orgasm?

    And also it looks like you're conflating orgasm with cum or maybe squirting. Female cum is like a foam and there isn't much of it, if any at all as it's rare. Squirting seems weird to me, despite what's in porn, I don't think it's normal for women (20%?) to feel so much pleasure they become incontinent. It happens to 0% of men too.

    Lastly, since you conflated orgasm and cum, how did you fake it? I didn't think women could voluntarily cum the foam stuff, though I guess you can voluntarily squirt; did you seriously just piss all over him?

    • I would like to point out squirting is not peeing and the liquid is not urine.

    • @charlietom No, it's piss. It often looks a little different because it's diluted, but it's definitely urine. Researchers chemically analysed samples, and it looks like urine. "There's no gland or reservoir aside from the bladder that can produce that much fluid" They checked by imaging the bladder to check where the fluid comes from, and the bladder is full beforehand, and empty afterwards. However you try to verify it, it's urine. I don't know how it can be made any clearer. It's been dubbed sexual urinary incontinence. On a related note, there's another fluid that's similar to male seminal fluid, but that comes out pre-squirt and looks completely different, like a white foam, and there's very little of it.

    • if you insist bro.

  • 95% of all statistics are simply made up on the spot because it's easy to do and it sounds like you should be more credible because of citing "facts."

    • Brilliant!

  • Shouldn't fake an orgasm. Try talking to your partner like anyone with a brain does.

  • Try communication.

    one of the most important things in a relationship, is communication.

    explain to him what you like, what excites you, guide him with how to do oral, how to use his fingers, introduce toys.

    he is not a mind reader, it’s counter productive faking things, as it reinforces him doing the wrong things.

  • I've heard women can only climax from penises at least seven inches long with a six to 6.5 inch circumference and the user has to be a really passionate lover and put in the foreplay and the whole nine.

    • Where did you hear that at, the barber shop?

    • @Daniela1982 From other women.

  • Fortunately I get orgasm from penetration, but not all the time, so I sometimes fake it, if I think the guy wishes to satisfy me that way.

  • Well I can tell you this you are completely right 80% and women cannot
    And there's 98% of men who only think about themselves while having sex so I would think that the average would be a lot higher for women
    What a woman needs to do is find the guy who is truly in love with her and makes everything about her from that very first kiss to when they're finished if he cannot make it all about her if you selfish and makes it only about himself then the girl is not going to be able to have the proper orgasms so she needs to move on and that's what it's all about if a guy cannot look into a woman's eyes read the color of her cheeks the way that she breathes the way that she moans the way that she moves her hips and know exactly what she wants and that given moment and she's not going to ever have a orgasm with that guy

  • find ways to maker her go wild... I don't like fake, that be sad.

  • Honest communication. Unfortunately few men take the time to even look at the study to which you reference, so unless you actually say you need something else, he's not going to know.

    The issue is making sure it's done tactfully, as a lot of guys have a direct (if misguided) link between perceived sexual prowess and their ego.

  • I would always prefer a girl never to fake it.

  • You've got to tell him your not getting orgasm's from penetration as you say a large proportion of women can't orgasm from penetration and you should let him know that.

    If you keep perpetuating a lie he will never satisfy you fully.

    I personally like to pleasure a woman to orgasm before we get down to penetrative sex so that I don't feel selfish.

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