Toys and marriage?

Question

My husband is very against me having a personal massager. I have tried talking to him about it but he considers it cheating. We have been together over 11 years. I finally ordered myself a wand but didn't tell him for obvious reasons. Its not that he doesn't satisfy me because he does!!! But I just really enjoy clitorial stimulation. Anyways , he found it recently and got extremely angry... Broke it to pieces and threw it at me while I was in the shower. Called me a cheater and told me I just destroyed our marriage. Is this normal, do men consider this cheating? Was I wrong for getting myself this adult toy? I feel horrible and misunderstood.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

"Called me a cheater and told me I just destroyed our marriage.
*You didn't. Ask him if he wants a divorce over a massager. If he does, your marriage has no future due to his temperament. Next time, he may hit you.
Is this normal, do men consider this cheating?
*I think it is normal and not cheating in any way. I Consider it "workout equipment".
Was I wrong for getting myself this adult toy?
*No. You should have hid it better.
The man has personal issues... not you.

My wife only cums from clitoral stimulation, but I am a champion at oral and fingering.
If my wife needed "more", I would buy her one of these and use it on her in sexual settings. Or she could use it alone. As long as she is sexually accessible to me, I have no problem with it.
www.adameve.com/.../...next-generation-104151.aspx
Read the reviews. And hide it better next time.

RobT312 · Accepted Answer

Huh. Sounds like your husband is over reacting.
i don’t know anyone who thinks toys are cheating.
so is masturbation cheating too?
my fiancée and I have toys, we had better call the wedding off... lol.

nothing wrong with personal stimulation. Think about this statement:
”we are getting a divorce because I cheated with a toy”. That just makes no sense!
I guess If I were u I’d want to have a big talk with him. Does he have very conservative or religious beliefs when it comes to marriage and sex?

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

What he did was abuse. And way out of line.
What he could have done is ask you to get a toy with a remote so he could participate in the play. I don’t know how you live with someone like that. Awful knee-jerk behavior.

rockytherock · Accepted Answer

No you weren't wrong. It's your body, your choice and he has no business governing it. Seems he's just insecure and is taking it out on you.

Daveluke · Answer

Me and my girlfriend have many toys including a wand. I use them on her and tease her with them until she has a huge orgasm and is begging for more all the time. It’s very fun using toys with your significant other

Aqueeld · Answer

There is nothing wrong with you.. Your husband is just unstable and he needs some therapy 😕😕

4afriend · Answer

Thats not cheating. I ask my girlfriend to get it out when we get busy. He is jealous of a toy. I had my issues at first, but toys and stuff like that just brings out the freak in me. You should buy a new one and keep it safe somewhere. But first use it in the car while parked somewhere where it's not obvious u are playing but kinky enough to help u cum big. Our little secret wink wink

Nagahime · Answer

Your husband has got some serious issues if he thinks you using a toy is "cheating".

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

It sounds like he has some issues that require serious counseling. It's just masturbation. Let he who has a free hand cast the first stone.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I'm all for toys for my partners. It just adds to the experience.

jahaims · Answer

That is why you make sure your morals, values, and goals align before marriage. You shouldn't be lying to him.

chilldude33 · Answer

if you are a girl and you don't use toys, you're missing out. sucks that your dude got anger issues

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Ya his insacure that toy be better than him

2021biguy · Answer

No it should be fine and he should help you use it, not break it. He sounds like an ass.

KeithLane · Answer

I disagree with him. Massagers can be so much fun.

bananathunder · Answer

is he bad in bed? Not sure why he would be so mad...

Yellovv · Answer

Nothing wrong with that when you ordered toy for you but I think he is angry to you because you didn't told him about it, he is thinking if you doing that behind his back, you could do something else as well, that's why he is getting angry...