Telling your date you masturbate?

Question

I went on a date and we both were having a conversation. Then naturally it lead to the question if either of us were seeing or sleeping with anyone else. I mentioned that I’ve never slept with anyone. He, just like almost everyone else was surprised lol.

I guess curiosity got the better of him and he asked if I ever have urges or feel the need to release. I’m quite honest, and I said yes but I tend to pleasure myself and I enjoy it. He was quite normal and we continued our conversation.

But as an over thinker, I’m now wondering if that was tmi or what? Should that be private information?

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

Not your first date sort of discussion but it shows an openness to talk about such things.
Probably was a turn on for him.

So a couple of examples of different attitudes towards sex and masturbation.

My ex hardly talked about sex, was a starfish in bed and was repulsed by the idea of pleasuring herself so sex with her always seemed like a chore for her and I had to put all the effort in.
My current girlfriend is very different. Open to talk about sex, willing to try and suggest new things and just as often initiates sex as me she even asked me once if she was being too demanding. She has tried masturbation but prefers the real thing and shares the effort in the bed!

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong with it if that's the conversation that you having I mean I don't know how many times I have told everybody on Gag that I do it and then I'm also looking for somebody to do with whether it be through role play or phone sex I'm not going to say that it is the right move but since covid-19 and waiting for it to play out I have passion and desire that I need to share and why not nobody knows who I share it with or even if I do share it it is an experience and something that can be very beautiful at the same time

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Should keep some things private and not volunteer some details either. Not really their business.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Once you told him that you are a virgin, it was inevitable for him to have that question. Actually, if I was him, I would be relieved to hear your answer. At least I would know that you have sexual interest and desires and that you are not asexual.

MCheetah · Answer

This seems like something only a modern woman or a literally mentally retarded person would do. Like on some Chris Chan level stuff. It's not like most of people do that, anyway.

RobT312 · Answer

Never had conversation like that in a first date, but nothing wrong with it either. Sounds like both of you are open to talking about sex which is good in relationships I think

ushagomez · Answer

That’s perfectly fine.

IMuser · Answer

You guys had no problem discussing whether you are sleeping with someone or not YET you think talking about masturbation is weird?

DonkeyDan · Answer

Don't really see the issue, most people masturbate, and talking about it just shows me that you are an open person.

Dargil · Answer

I think that should remain confidential. There is good reason for him to guess that you do. When you reach the fingering stage, your reaction should a big hint.

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

I don't think it was TMI. It's normal and healthy.

4afriend · Answer

I think it good information to give. And totally hot

magiusX26 · Answer

yes its a private thing but you choose whom to share that info with and it seems you deemed him worthy of a sharing so told him.

awkward_author · Answer

It came up in conversation, so you're fine. Definitely not too much.

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s not something you get into on the first date masturbation

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's totally no big deal. Don't worry about it. You're both adults. It seems like you both handled it maturely. I think this is normal.

Staximus · Answer

No, he probably liked it

Wise4myage · Answer

Yeah, its too much too soon in my opinion. And it made him look desperate in my opinion.

joeldalton · Answer

everyone masturbates.

jahaims · Answer

Seems normal to me

JonAsk69 · Answer

If I was on a date with you and that’s what I learned it would drive me wild for you. First of all you’ve never had sex so you must have high standards and good will power. Big turn on. Secondly you just told me that you like to masturbate so I know you’re still horny enough and then I’m thinking about what it is that you think about when playing with yourself. That’s it I’m done. You got me. Lol