Should I hook up with a guy who only wants sex from me?

[KitKat504]

I like this guy who only wants sex from me. He has asked me if I wanted to hook up several times and I always got myself out of it because I was not sure if I could hook up with someone that I'm not dating. I'm done a lot of thinking on it and I still don't know if I want to hook up with him, he hasn't asked in a few weeks, meaning that if now I wanted to hook up with him I would have initiate the conversion and part of me is afraid that he was so no. What do you guys think I should do? Should I just go for it and hook up with him?

[MrOracle]

Just be very clear that this is JUST SEX. Do NOT expect him to develop feelings for you or want a relationship, or to get relationship benefits. It's JUST SEX, and that's almost certainly all that it will ever be.

in my opinion, if you're an adult, and you want just sex, that's fine. But most women - and some men - can't have sex without developing feelings for the other person, and then, when the other person doesn't have those feelings in return, they get very disappointed and hurt, and sometimes even get angry at the other person, because despite knowing full well that they were agreeing to JUST SEX, their feelings make them forget that agreement, or they rationalize a way to blame the other person for not developing feelings. THAT is wrong.

Can YOU have sex without developing feelings? Only you can answer that, but the answer to that question will play a big part in the answer to YOUR question of "should you hook up with the guy?".

[DaveJord]

If you want to, and this guy has asked in the past I seriously doubt he will say no. So do not let the fear of rejection be an excuse.

The issue here is are you 100% comfortable about it and if you are not then I would say do not do it. But in general I do not think there is anything wrong with hooking up with anyone as long as you are honest about it and really desire it. If not then don't.

[Anonymous]

The smart thing is not to rush things and think things through with a clear mind. I’m not a fan of hook ups. Guys don’t think like girls, so they often neglect a girls feelings and they can be quite cruel. And of course they don’t act responsible most of the times.
If I were you, I’d search the internet and wouldn’t just rely on these opinions. There are lots of advices and you could know more about how to handle this situation and how to take care of yourself.
Good luck.

[Daniela1982]

Either you are in or out of the pot. If you want it go for it. If you don't then you don't, so fold your hand. It is your decision, no one else's. I mean isn't that what a hookup is, for having sex?

[OlderAndWiser]

What is your current body count and what is your goal in dating for the next 3-4 years?

[Seinna]

Don't do it. He'll just use you and hurt your feelings. Anybody can do better than that so don't lower yourself to being someone's plaything.

[ohshee]

In life when we we're born we were all given a gift that gift was choice we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things that we say and that we do make that choice

[Mary087]

Your body.. And also if you're cool with just that.

[SkipPerk]

If you are debating this hard, probably not.

[spartan55]

It definitely sounds like you aren't ready for that. I would strongly recommend you don't. Do you have something against being in a committed relationship?

[KitKat504]

I don't have anything against being in a committed relationship I just got out of one like 5 months ago. Just I am having trouble finding guys that want a relationship and not just sex.

[spartan55]

There are definitely out there. Sounds you are going for the wrong guys.

[Berethor]

Hook ups are slutty.

[TheBootyChest]

If you denied him several times because you weren't sure of something then you were right to deny him and you should stick with it.

[riidges]

If it is only gonna make you catch more feelings that you might end up regretting afterwards... Then I suggest you don't go for it.

[Truthatanycost]

Perhaps there is no right or wrong, only wise and unwise.

[Air_Force_Guy]

If you want to

[InYourHead]

Only if you're OK with that. I've had sex with guys just cuz I wanted sex not a relationship

[HighValue]

No. Many good guys won't want a partner that has done hook ups/casual sex, so once you start doing that you will lose a lot of options in the future for relationships.

[Dargil]

How would you benefit?

[HIlary48tgkgkgg]

Absolutely not. I wasted 4 years of my life hooking up with someone who did not want a relationship. They then DITCHED ME for another girl without any apologies. It was horrible!! So my advice to you is NO. You should not!!

[Nagahime]

No, no you should not.

[Kabluie]

Hook it up and get naked for that private workout.

[RebeccaBI2000]

Only if you wanted just sex

[CallmeTheKnight]

And like every girl your age, once you get pregnant you'll freak out. Don't sleep with someone if you want more than just sex. Use your brain

[GlassTop]

If you already. Have sex with other guys as hookups, then it’s kind of hypocritical to want to date this guy. If you don’t want to hookup, then don’t. He told you he just wants sex. If you don’t want that, then don’t talk.