My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and I'm extremely nervous about giving my first handjob. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so like the title says my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now starting the next coming week. We've already had our fair share of sexual experiences together, but we're the very first boyfriend/girlfriend that we've ever had so we're both kind of just left to doing our own research and finding advice and pretty much hoping that we end up doing things correctly based on the collective information we've gathered both online amongst other resources (while being safe, of course), but we've managed to make do and have gotten a good swing of things. But my boyfriend suggested that we do something a bit more, "hands on", and I got extreme performance anxiety just thinking about it. What if I hurt him? What if I don't read his body language correctly and end up doing something wrong? What if I get nervous and awkward and ruin the mood because I apologize and don't know what to do with my hands or something? I've been trying to gather information on this but most of it is more geared towards more experienced individuals and it only makes it harder for me to get used to the thought of it, let alone actually doing it. The thing is I have yet to have really reciprocated in that way and I feel terrible because I want to be able to do that for him but every time I think about even suggesting or trying it my nerves shoot through the roof, and he's been so patient and understanding with me about it but I know it's not fair to him. I just want to be able to show how much I appreciate it and do for him what he does for me with some form of confidence without becoming awkward or getting anxious about it and worrying about whether I'm doing something right or not. Honestly, any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated. Maybe some do's and don'ts or anything else like that. I'd really appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Edible, (just in case it goes there), oil.

Assuming he's not already hard in anticipation, start by rubbing his entire package, gently. Balls, shaft and head. Gently pull on his flaccid penis and gently squeeze and twist his head between your thumb and forefinger. Switching back and forth between modes of simulation you should begin to feel his penis start to swell and thicken as it fills with blood. This half erection is called a chubby.

Now that it's beginning to become erect, you can switch to one hand and begin to gently stroke his semi hard shaft with a soft grip. As he thickens and hardens, it'll become easier to hold and you can squeeze his shaft tighter. You'll be able to tell you're squeezing too much, strangling his penis by his scream, or the fact that the head turns red, then purple. Loosen up a bit. You're not choking your mortal enemy to death!

Cup and gently massage his balls. Do NOT squeeze them, it's painful!!! Tickle them. Gently scratch them. Gently stretch his sack pulling into taut, then releasing. Just DON'T SQUEEZE... anything!!!

By now he should be fully erect and hard as a rock. Continue stroking the shaft, and depending on your hand position, extend your stroke to involve his head with either your finger or thumb, or while hand. If unoiled, do NOT rub too hard. You'll give him a brush burn. Masturbation is a delicate mix of tightness around the shaft and gentle stimulation of his head. It takes practice, but you'll get it.

Some like a slow and easy stroke, some like it fast and a little rough. Watch his face and listen to his reaction as your cue. If he seems to like one way, more than the other, focus the majority of your effort doing that. If hard and fast seems to make his motor run, do that about 90% of the time, but occasionally go slower and gentler. Switch between the two.

If his penis is too big for one hand to handle, don't be afraid to put one hand on top of the other. using the top hand to stimulate his head, the other, his shaft.

So going along as he nears climax, you'll feel his penis jerk. Sometimes it's a false jerk as he's shifting gears and becoming further aroused. When it's time, you'll know it. His breathing will increase, his legs may stiffen, (warning,... if you're hand is between his thighs playing with his balls, you may end up with a crushed hand, lol), he may moan, growl or grunt, and finally you'll feel his penis begin to jerk quickly, and he'll start the ejaculate process.

You can continue to stroke at the same speed and let it fly, or slow down a little and prolong the process. Some like to just sit once they start, don't stop. Some like you to slow down, sometimes to a literal crawl until they shoot so they can feel it boil up from their balls and shaft. Either way, once it starts, it's going to jerk and pulse at its own speed. Slow is more sensual, but like I said, some like it quick.

At this point, his head will become UBER sensitive! Be careful. It tickles some men, others itt makes want to pull away, some get a burning sensation. As you stroke, and he begins to ejaculate, maintain the stroke speed and tightness on his shaft, but involve his head about one in every three or four strokes. Warning number two... he's going to spray everywhere! Be prepared! It could shoot a foot, or two, or three... all over you, your chest, (so you may want to be nude or covered with a towel), your face, and/or your hair if you're in the way of it's spewing, and definitely your hand. It'll be warm, even hot, and sticky... and clear, or white and creamy.

Eventually he'll stop squirting. You can continue to stroke the shaft only after he's shot his load... slower and slower... just as tightly.. You take your chances playing with his head, lol. If advise not, lol.

There! You just completed your first hand job. Remember his quirks and what you learned

[Dargil]

Sparing you a word wall here
When I think "hand job", I envision a vigorous milking motion on a penis until ejaculation happens. But that's not what a hand job really is. It is an erotic massage pretty much from knees to navel. It is far more therapeutic than it is sexual. There are several small things to do to add to sexual tension and build to the finale. , but each of these things blend together to an experience that is both exciting and (!) restful. A soft erotic massage will put me to sleep and a vigorous one will make me cum like a race horse.
An erotic massage is not tricks and teases, although some things can be very hot. It is delivering pleasure where its needed. I can get long on this if you feel like reading.

[Anonymous]

All of those experiences with each other are meant to be fun, not some sort of test. Neither of you are professionals, and this is your first time. So give yourself a break, and stop over thinking. So what if it’s not a perfect first time, you just start going and ask him questions as you do so. Ask what feels good, don’t be embarrassed, laugh together if you mess something up and just enjoy the moment together.

[Jmmmfi4]

What she said

[Honesttguy]

Have u held his penis in your hand?

[Lynx122]

You can't really hurt him as long as you stick to rubbing up and down if you rub the tip with your hands that is uncomfortable for me so I would ask you to stop that but it's not like an injury. I don't know how it is for circumsized guys if they're more ok with that. The main thing is that you can't feel what he feels so it can never really be as good as masturbating so maybe help with your mouth a bit too ^^ But not much can go wrong tbh.

[Avicenna]

There's nothing to worry about here, Just enjoy yourself and remember that you're giving your boyfriend pleasure.

[Citizenkirk]

It's okay to be a little nervous but if you feel like the pressure is too much then feel free to post the phone this experience until you feel like you are ready.

[MysticDevice]

First thing is you gotta relax. Its not a test or anything. The first few times will be awkward and uncoordinated. There's simply no getting around that.

Just start out very slow and very gentle. As you start getting a feel for it, pun intended, you can pick up the pace and pressure.

Maybe watch some amatuer porn videos and get an idea for a technique.

If you mess up just laugh it off. You can only learn by doing it.

[Wise4myage]

Hi, just dive in and go for it.

[vald9inches]

Do a blow job not a hand job 🤦

[noohair]

Well, maybe he should show you how he does it. He probably knows what he likes.

[LegendaryIcon]

wait, have you even had sex yet?

[fireforeffect]

Don't. it is that simple. Sex should wait until you are married.

[Anonymous]

When you do it, ask him what he likes and doesn't like. Every guy likes different things.