Do you believe people can control who they find physically attractive?



I feel I can control what comes out of my mouth and whether I choose to call somebody pretty, handsome or ugly.

but I have seen many people in my life who I thought were pretty, handsome and ugly and all these thoughts felt very uncontrollable to me to be honest. These were just thoughts. I never told most these people my opinions about their appearance.
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  • no not at all. you can not control who you find attractive, you can control yourself and what you do but no way can you control your thoughts. you may see your mates wife and thing she is gorgeous, you wouldn't act on it, but you can't not think that they are nice, you just know that they are out of bounds.

    i met someone to day walking the dog, she was very pleasant and pretty in my opinion, but i would act on it as she was married and had kids. but nothing stopping me from thinking she looked nice

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  • Absolutely I do think you can control it. I have known many women that are super attractive but I would never touch them with a 10 foot pole.

Most Helpful Girls

  • No, you can't control that. You can change your general opinions after a few years, but it's not something we choose to do either, it's only based on relationships and environment.

    And of course you can control what leaves your mouth, but that doesn't mean it's what you really think.

    • So it's hardwired into the brain what you find attractive?

    • No, I meant that it's out of our control what we like, but it can change over time. Think of it like food, I don't like fish, but maybe somewhere in the future I'll enjoy it. I can't simply force myself to eat fish every day until I like it, that is not how it works.

  • To a certain extent, yes. You can be flexible in who you find attractive. E. g. Dating someone who is taller or shorter than you prefer or someone who doesn't fit your ideal. However, if you have zero attraction for someone then I don't believe you can really change that.

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  • If you could, there would be no pedophiles. NOBODY would choose that.

  • Their character can tip the scale either way.

  • We can conciously question it, but it would take deep thoughts and long time (or a strong experience) to subconciously control and change who you find attractive.

    • I've read many saying is not possible. In reality it all depends of your level of motivation anf insight.

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  • Yes, if its family or a relative.

  • No, no more than you can control your sexuality.

  • No. It's just how the brain rssoinds to certain people. Can't change how they feel attraction

  • You can "control" what you say for sure.

    • Yes. I said I do feel I can control what words come out of my mouth

    • You can't control who you're attracted to though. Two different things.

    • Thinking something and saying something are different things. I can think another person is ugly or good looking but not say it