I wanna get involved in some kinky sex, how can I convince my wife for it?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys i am a 27 year old man and i have a wife 2 years younger than me, it's been 1 year since we are married

She was on of the shy one but i have opened her much into sex and all, like blowjob, handjob, nipple play, pussy eating, intercourse, different positions and many more things

She have never really told me any of her fantasies, so i always asked before doing anything if it will be okay, and most of the time, she said yes.

But Bdsm is a whole new chapter of sex and kinkiness, i was too excited to do it that i spent half of my salary on bdsm toys and restraints (i have to told her that too, please pray for me).

So i wanna convince her now into this, but i don't if anyone will like to be tied naked or wanna use toys, she have supported in everytyoe of sex till now, but this time i am feeling scared that she will turn me down

So can anyone help me in how should I approach and how can I explain the kinkiness of it to her.

[RobT312]

I like this kinky stuff too.
i had the luxury of not being married when I asked my girlfriend if she’d try. She said absolutely not and thought I was a freak.
when I moved on, I asked my current girlfriend and she was open to it. We both had fun with it and still enjoy it. We only do light stuff, nothing painful.
my advice is ask her, start slowly, and make her be a part of it just as much as you. For example, let her take in a dom role and switch it up

[Anonymous]

GAG shouldn't even have a sex section, because most of the members have severe social disorders. That one bitch called you a psycho. Who would ever want a messed up person like her?

Anyway, take your girl to a toy store and just let her look around. Part of the thrill is just being in the store, and knowing others can see you.

My boyfriend took me to a regular hardware store, where we bought some soft rope. It comes on a spool, and an employee needs to come and cut it. When my boyfriend told the guy to cut four five foot sections, the man just had a big grin on his face. I was embarrassed and excited at the same time.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion

[SnakeBoop]

you can only ask her.
but yeah, bit trashy to have not asked her first and then bought a load of toys. THAT puts so much pressure on her for no reason.

[Asker]

I am not gonna tell her about toys until she says yes or she will beat the hell out of me lol...

[Andres77]

If your goal is to convince her without ever seeing if she's even interested... you already screwed up.
Exploring each other's fantasies without having an agenda is a good approach, intending to convince her (she might feel coerced if she's trying to please you) blatantly shows that she is not your priority.
Go to YouTube and search Bill Burr advice from your dick.
I'd slow down.

[Asker]

I have asked many times about her fantasies but she just have problem in opening up in sexual things She is my priority obviously i would'nt do anything that she isn't enjoy or is'nt ready to do

[Andres77]

Ok, good luck

[ChrisMaster69]

This is a bit fucked up.

the thing about a relationship is the following.

Trust, Communication, Respect, Honesty AND CONSENT.

you have failed on Communication and Respect.

you bought stuff without even asking about her consent, that is a lack of respect and fuck all communication.

The entire idea of this is that you and her talk about what SHE LIKES, also what she is happy to CONSENT to.

Zero respect for your wife.

[Asker]

The toys and all is not really a big concern And i respect her consent always, i have never done anything to her without her consent everytime I have asked before doing anything new

[SecretGardenBlood65]

I hope my husband doesn't become a psycho like you

[Asker]

Can you explain me, how am I phycho?

[In_Trance]

Let her use a strap on on you

[Asker]

Not into it

[In_Trance]

But you asked!!!

[Asker]

I didn't

[Anonymous]

I don't think it'll work. Most people have reservations with even minimal kinks like feet fetish, so bdsm is definitely not something most will get into, but who knows?