Am I the arsehole if I leave?
My partner (m) and myself (f) have been together for nearly 6 years now. 2 years in I found out he was on dating sites talk to men! He told me he was just looking as he was curious. I said fair enough as long as you wasn't meeting anyone but I don't like fact he was on dating sites and not just porn sites, he agreed he wouldn't go on the dating sites again!
Six months pass (if that) and I find out he's been talking to someone on Facebook, another man, but this time it turns out he's been talking to this man for years (at this point we over 2 years into the relationship) I tell him that it's cheating he's basically had an affair in my eyes! He tells me that is was an accident, he was just curious and it was only because I was working nights at the time he done that (I used to work 12 hour night shifts). This hurt us for a while but we worked through it a lot of trust was lost but we worked through it,
About a yr later I find him back on dating sites talking to men!
I really do love this man but he's breaking my heart. He's convinced he's straight and he doesn't like men he won't even admit to being bisexual to me but on his dating site that he showed me when I confronted him he said he's bisexual on there. And now I just feel like I'm waiting for him to do it again.
Now I wake up in the middle of the night to him watching gay porn, he's never once cheated with a woman!
I can't talk about it with him or how I feel because he turns it around and tells me I don't realise how hard it is for him and how hurt he is about it all and how it was all one big accident. How heart broken he is by it all.
But my main point to this is. I love this man with all my heart and I want things to work out we've been through to much to just walk away now, but I can't stomach the thought of him with a man, am I stupid to believe he means it when he says he is straight, I can't keep getting my heart broken,
I really don't know what to do I feel so done
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