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I think my boyfriend isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, what do I do?

Over the last few weeks, I've noticed that my boyfriend won't initiate sex or anything physical besides hugging with me. He use to be very sincere and sweet and affectionate with me. But now it's like he's done a complete 180, he hardly even kisses me anymore. I'm a very physical person, and it stings that he won't even make out with me anymore. If I want/need sex i always have to ask him and even then he just seems to do the bare minimum. It use to be exciting and a beautiful thing for us but now it seems like a chore to him. I know he jerks off on his own, so it's not like his sex drive is low. He hardly compliments me on how I like, and when I try to make myself look extra good/special he either doesn't notice or says I'm just looking for attention. I just don't know what to do. Like do I tell him what he's doing hurts me or wait and hope it blows over?
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  • See, this is the thing I feel women don’t understand.. this whole attitude of.. “he doesn’t initiate sex…” what the fuck do you think? Lol if every time this man has to ask for sex, has to do every little thing to get you to do something.. it is a chore. Now, speaking from personal experience, I was in a relationship where my girl said the same things as you to me. I talked with her, I wrote her letters, I communicated as best I could my needs and she brushed them off. I kept telling her one day, I’m going to stop asking, and stop initiating things cause this shit is getting old. I mean, I would do everything. I told her, it would be nice to have Morning sex, wake up to a bj or when I get off work do something spontaneous. But she was super lazy in bed, not to mention, she wasn’t good in bed. Just laid there most of the time. And the times she would get on top, she had zero rhythm, strength or stamina to go for long.. so it was a huge chore for me. So I did eventually stop did exactly what your boyfriend did and broke up. You need to be more assertive to what he likes and figure what is spicy for him and try to pleasure him the way he wants instead of expecting stuff that you like. In my experience that’s the problem when women run into that situation.

    • I mean think of it like this, if you live together, and he leaves his dishes every where he lays them down, and you have to tell him every single time to put it away. At some point it gets old, right. Imagine if that was both you to take your dishes out or he takes his and yours and you do the same for him. It’s so much more satisfying. That’s a weird way of putting it but the concept is the same

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  • Is he fooling around with someone else? Does he have any sexual issues like getting hard or having an orgasm? All younger guys jerk off frequently so that probably is not the issue. Have you just asked him if anything is going on? It is ok to talk about sex after all. Your thoughts?

Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe he either 1- gets off to porn instead of you, 2- has a little honey on the side, or 3 - needs to go to the doctor for a possible hormonal imbalance, such as low testosterone.

  • From personal experience, look through his phone. You might find the answer in there.. and if it's clean, then have an open conversation with him. Communication is key

    • Start with talking

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Completely change your look to give him variety? Bring another girl in to treat him to a threesome?

  • How long have y'all been together?

    You mentioned the new job... does that seem to be causing more stress than usual for him?

  • Like a vehicle maybe it’s time to trade him in & I always say a blowjob a day keeps side chicks away & in your case he better start licking your taco.

  • Unfortunately, it sounds like he might have fallen out of love... I'm sorry

  • I'd bet that he is upset with you for some reason and that is why he isn't interested like before.
    Try asking him if you said or did anything that upset him recently.

  • Okay see my profile picture odds are he's doing this with somebody else. You better get tested along with him.

  • Some guys don't really understand what they're doing unless it's made obvious to them. Considering that you've been feeling bad about whatever's happening, I think you should tell him. As long as he's a rational guy he'll understand. at least you'll know what's on his mind then or get him to realize how his lack of physical interest is affecting you.

    • I tried talking to him about it before, he said he'd do better but that last two days and then it was back to the way it was before, just me with more hurt

    • I'm sorry to hear that, are you sure he's not going through any sort of stressful situation?

    • He started a new job a few months ago

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  • stop having sex with him for a week

  • Could be a medical problem or you might be correct.

  • Talk to him

  • the majority of American women are overweight to the point that a man will be unlikely to be able to remain instinctively physically attracted to them over time. Some men will overcome it with love, many won't. The current obesity epidemic has created a unnatural situation like never before in history

    • But I'm not overweight, at most I'm 150 of slim muscle

  • Get a new boyfriend

  • May be he is sick, or have other girl to have sex

  • Sounds like he cheating

  • Are you thinking of cheating on him to get sex?

    • No never, I'm not going to go that low

    • Well then that’s good but what I would say is talk to him let him know how you feel see what’s going on and if there is anything to fix. If he doesn’t think so then you could always try counseling

  • Suck a new guy off

  • Find a new girlfriend

  • Stop being so needy.

  • Ask him what is up, did you start gaining weight? That’s something that would turn a guy off

    • I've actually lost weight, but even before I wasn't that big

    • Has anything changed? Did you have kids? Change your hairstyle or dress differently?

    • No, everything is the same, he got a new job but that's all that's changed

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  • Cool how often do you give blowjobs?

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