Guys, if a man is a virgin and is short/unattractive/ugly/etc, is it worth it for him to go to an escort?

[MCheetah]

I've seen questions like this asked on GAG before. If a man is short, or has an ugly face, or is overweight, or is too old, or otherwise unattractive to women (in the lower 80% of most men), and he is extremely lonely and otherwise stands no shot in Hell at getting laid organically, is it worth it for him to go to an escort or brothel and paying a woman to have sex with him?

For $200 an hour, the man can pick a lady and have his way with her, as long as he isn't violent or hurting her. He can choose in-call (you go to the brothel or a hotel) or out-call (she comes to your place; usually costs extra for cab fare and such).

Is it worth it for a man, or is that 'simpery'? Should a man pay money to take care of his loneliness/horniness by seeing an escort? Or should he just keep trying to find a woman who'll willingly sleep with him in 2022 that isn't a scammer or planning to rob him? Or should be abstain and endure the loneliness and conquer it?

I already know my answer, but I won't say it. I'm curious what GAG thinks.

[IHateBeingaMan]

depends on the guy, works out well for some but not others

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

[MCheetah]

Why not?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because an assisted orgasm is not worth catching stds or having unplanned children, it's also not worth paying for. I'm not ugly, and I get more than enough women wanting in my pants, but I'd rather stay a virgin than have casual sex with someone, even if it was free. Even a sex robot is a better option than an escort/prostitute/"friends" with benefits type of deal. It's just a shitty option to me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also, even if she could prove she is clean, sterile, and said "no charge", I would still say no, unless commitment was involved and we were "two peas in a pod" personality wise, because I don't want to enjoy it, get emotionally attached from touching, and then not be able to keep her. And if I have sex, either I'm getting attached, or I'm not enjoying it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

For me physical interaction doesn't let me separate emotional attachment the way that just watching porn does.

[MCheetah]

Thank you for explaining.

[TheSpaceGnome]

👍 your'e welcome.

[HighlyVolatile]

I went with "no" but mainly because I don't think it helps loneliness to be with a woman who charges by the minute or hour or whatever it is. Being with fake people who pretend to like us isn't a cure for loneliness and might even make it worse. If someone is struggling so hard with that, I think their money is better spent on a therapist who might be able to offer help to find real friends and real lovers.

[KlinkyCoder]

A therapist can't make it go away that a guy is considered undateable.

[hahahmm]

Think it would be a bad idea because it's very likely he'd become addicted and have to pay for sex every week or every day. Now that's a significant amount of money adding up which he would have been wiser to put into learning a trade, buying tools or whatever to improve himself. And when he reaches a certain level of confidence in his ability to be successful/compete he will suddenly find getting women to be easy and not need to pay.

Yes, I realize that some guys who already have women pay for hookers but that's another topic.

About this: "No; that's a sign of weakness/simpery, or you should only have sex with a willing woman who cares about you." -- Hmm. This implies that if a woman is willing to have sex with you or (pretends to) care about you that one is less of a simp than otherwise. Lots of simps have had tons of sex. Many have been married for decades too. I say simp just means you're led/controlled by women. Like a mindless robot that is too stupid to know it's being led. Something like that.

[hahahmm]

A good sign of simping would be if a guy believes everything a woman says with zero evidence. Especially if he doesn't even know her at all.

[MCheetah]

A simp is specifically a man who worships and gives attention and/or money to women who don't respect him or even acknowledge his existence. A cuck would be a man who's woman doesn't respect him and unremorsefully sleeps around with other men. Or a man who reluctantly raises another man's children just to be with the woman he desires. And a White Knight - what you're thinking of - would be a man who obeys all women and defends them at all times at the detriment to his own ego. One could argue they're all beta males or weak men, but they're not the same thing.

[hahahmm]

I'd say Will Smith is an example that fits every case you named. So a simp can cross multiple categories. But it doesn't always. Depends on the guy. Like a guy could be a simp but not a cuck. in my opinion.

[Adam1978]

Only he can decide if he wants to pay for something he can't get otherwise. Sex isn't needed in life. So he won't really be better off paying for it.

[Drumlin2001]

If you want to do it then do it.

[DownIndaDumpz]

Yeah probably. I find it hard near impossible to get laid n I'm aight/decent looking. If I was short n ugly too you can jus forget about it lol

[FatherJack]

I could never do that personally.

[joeldalton]

You have it all wrong. You are not paying an escort to have sex with you. You're paying the escort to leave.

[KlinkyCoder]

I would rather be able to be with a woman organically. Something else will need to change.

[CaptainSmartass]

What does this have to do with ugly dudes who can't get any:

Probably not the Escort they need. Or is it?

Simples...

[cookiecrusher]

You pay for sex either way.

First off. I would say. Take 12 months.

Get a personal trainer or a class. Get fit or improve a lot. Not only for yourself but it will really help to boost your confidence being naked around a hot woman. Thus more likely to have a good time.

Visit a hairstylist and a clothing stylist.

And keep yourself fairly trimmed and clean 24/7.

Get pro photoshoots done, for better pictures.

Get 10 sessions on theraphy to talk about your issues and self worth.

Then you are ready for an escort or a woman. Not only better presentable for them but you will feel a much better about yourself too, resulting in a much better outcome.