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Should I tell him? would he care?

I’m seeing multiple guys casually none of us are exclusive and the others knows I want to date around till I click with someone. I went on 2 dates with a guy we can call ben and I would say I click with him and really like him. Once I find someone I like I don’t want to persue anyone else so I tried cutting off the other people. One in particular gave me an extremely hard time and kept asking me for sex. I share my location and got scared to block him because he’s the kind of guy who would drive up and confront me so I caved in even though I didn’t want to. I have only been with 3 guys all of which I have really liked so hooking up with him really impacted me and I feel so guilty and ashamed. I’m not exclusive with ben but I feel like I betrayed him. Do I tell him or is this something I keep to myself? Also am I in the wrong?
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  • For future reference, the way to handle pushy, confrontational guys who don’t take no for an answer is to tell them in a loud voice to f*** off and if that doesn’t work to file a restraining order. As for Ben, at least get tested to make sure you didn’t catch an STD from the guy before you might become intimate with Ben. Also make sure you are really ready for a relationship. If you need time to process what happened, you won’t be doing Ben any favors getting involved with him before you’re ready. Otherwise, you can try to leave the incident in the past.

    • Thank you this was really helpful the guy I was with was tested and he didn’t have any but I will make sure just in case. I don’t plan on on getting intimate with ben for awhile because i wanna get to know him a lot first I never wanna randomly hook up ever again.

    • You’re welcome. I wish you the best!

Most Helpful Guy

  • Did you tell him you were not seeing others? Did you know that he believed you were not? No? If he just assumed that you were not, then he's naive. Not your problem.

Most Helpful Girl

  • You don't have to tell ben, you should tho when it's bothering you.
    I would more ask yourself why you gave in?
    That was honestly pretty stupid thing to do, I hope you have blocked him by now.

    • I blocked him right after and every other guy I was talking to I don’t wanna see any other guy

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  • I wouldn't unless he asks but if u feel bad that feeling won't just vanish as clearly u feel like u betrayed yourself

    • Some guys would care others wouldn't from what u know of him do u think he would

    • His last girlfriend cheated on him I feel like he might be sensitive about the topic but it’s also we aren’t together so I feel like it’s not wrong but I do think it might hurt him and I’m worried to tell him because this isn’t who I am. In a relationship I wouldn’t even talk to other guys

    • Just because it wasn't wrong don't mean u ain't hurt him by the actions sure he dont know but if he asks what u gonna do lie?

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  • Forget telling anybody, anything. Your business, your sex life. Why complicate it by telling anybody involved.

  • It's called "mind games" and you should be honest so he knows what you're doing. Hiding something means you have something to hide.

  • Keep that to yourself and never behave that way again. I hope your man and you have a great relationship here on out. No sense hurting him when you don’t need to.

  • Only if he somehow might know someone who know those guys. If he does know anyone admit it to save time so you don't risk him getting mad thinking you can't stay with only one guy like a cheater. If you know a way he will never find out then hide it because it's not worth the risk of being called a hoe for no good reason

  • So ur fucking 3 guys?

    • No I was dating them this guy just kept asking me and trying to persuade me and I don't know why I gave in

    • Ahh ok. So u have a potential to hook up with 2?

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