Is it weird that as a guy I’m not really into hookups?

[Anonymous]

I’d say I’m an average guy, maybe slightly below because of my weight. I can gain the interest of enough women I suppose, but I’m not really interested in sex with them. Now don’t get me wrong, once in a while, I get horny and it crosses my mind, but sex has always appealed to me more as an intimate bonding, and I’m really only interested if I like that girl enough emotionally. For example: there’s this fairly attractive girl, a couple years older than me, decent body and all, and we’ve been talking for a couple months (online, FT, SC) she lives a couple hours away so we haven’t met up yet. And we might have the occasional sexting, but every time she asks me to come over, I find an excuse. (Typically that I have to work the next day and it’s too far, which I think is valid.) Then there’s this girl I just met this weekend, my female roommate’s new friend. I found her extremely attractive almost instantly. And she typically isn’t my physical type, she’s fairly skinny, and maybe slightly tall. Not that it’s a problem, it just hasn’t been my type in the past. However, I became so attracted to her in two days, I had to try not to make a move currently one sided feelings most likely) I’m just not sure if this is common for other guys, to have sexual feelings based on emotional feelings first.

[Mary087]

I wouldn’t say it’s weird but actually quite surprising because more often so guys are naturally sexually craved by nature but I respect and applaud you a lot for having manners and being gentlemen that doesn’t wanna just fuck any girl without some emotional connection. It’s actually quite rare these days. I hope I meet a guy like that.

[Anonymous]

Hookups require way more work than they're worth. (assuming a hookup is a one night stand... I'm never sure what people mean by "hookup")

It's much better to have a comfortable relationship with a trusted friends with benefits. All the bullshit is out of the way, and you can just be yourself.

[Anonymous]

I don't like hookups either. I can't have sex with someone unless I care enough to be in a relationship otherwise there's no connection and you get syphilis for no reason. Any woman who has hooked up or kissed someone who's not a boyfriend before is a red flag to me

[Now_Here]

Same here, my friend. Not into hookups either. A strong emotional bond is a very necessary condition.

[Randy888]

I dont understand hook ups. To me its just something that should not be done. Sleeping with a random person? ew

[Nagatoro]

No, it actually makes you pretty normal
I'm also repulsed by "hookup culture"

[Wise4myage]

No, not at all. Lots of guys are not into hookups.

[Twalli]

I am thr same. While I might find a girl physically attractive, sex isn't something I want immediately

[Andysfun36]

Every day

[Anonymous]

no

im not either

had sex with a girls

and after that I did not want to have sex

basically the women have to change their minds

[Anonymous]

Not weird at all. Ignore what you hear, a lot of it is exaggerated an untrue, and often does more damage than good. You’ll do much better and go much further in life if you stay true to yourself and follow your own path - that is what takes real courage.

[Opinion Owner]

In my experience, most of my male and female friends don’t do hookups either. They tend to take a fancy to someone and go from there.

[Anonymous]

There is a stereotype that says all men want casual sex, but it is not accurate in my experience. I have no interest in casual hookups and most guys I now don't either.

[Anonymous]

I don't do hook ups o you're not alone. But lots of women do these days so it's becoming harder to find ones that don't. It's better to have a girlfriend than just some girl that fucks a bunch of men.