Does he deserve me?

[Anonymous]

• Long story short my boyfriend ( M 22) and I ( F 23) have been together for a little over 2 years. He has been emotionally and physically abusive towards me in the past however we’ve worked through that and the physical abuse is no longer an issue not to justify the abusive behavior. I probably sound so stupid even writing this. We share a car together and I recently found out he's been texting some girl as he says that I’ve been following guys on Instagram and he no longer sees me the same. Anyways he had this same girl in our car August 2021, picked her up and drove her home I even saw messages that he was supposed to come over but her brothers came home and he couldn’t come. I caught him another time with a girl he used to mess with in our car in September 2021 and it ended up with me publicly humiliating him and the girl in the street, he tried to justify it stating that he needed information about his best friends girlfriend as that girl and her are best friends as well, I don’t give a fuck it took me a long time to get over that. But learning this new piece of information about this other girl from August 2021 has me angry all over again. We split the payments and he has the car all the time as I’m afraid of driving, the car is in my name and the lease expires in 2 more years. I’ve also read messages of him flirting WITH HIS COUSIN (he’s also been sexual with 2 of his cousins from in the past too, I truly think he has a sex/porn addiction he constantly sexualizes everything he’s even asked me to leave the room so he can pleasure himself when I don’t want to engage in sex which I don’t mind because do you but he has an attitude about it)! He’s constantly slut shamed me about my past. I love him but I feel like love is not enough anymore. I’ve been disrespected but leaving a relationship as toxic as this is difficult and not easy, I wish I could pull a Gone Girl and act like he’s dead to me but because of the circumstances I can’t. Any advice?

[SueShe]

You should have left him the second he abused you emotionally and physically the very first time. Once a person abuses the partner, the relation should be severed once and for all.

There is always a chance for the abuse to be reignited, mainly when people fight with each other. That first time should have been the catalyst for you to separate.

Even though you share costs of the car, this should not be an excuse to keep being in a toxic relation mainly in view of the fact that he seems to have a pornography/sexual abuse history.

You may still love him but I am not sure that this love is reciprocated. Words are useless if not supported by actions.

You owe it to yourself to start anew, away from the toxicity of this relation.

[melanieeeB]

The fact that you literally have to ask this... you know the answer yourself, get out of your toxic relationship

[melanieeeB]

Why the fuck would you wanna go all in like Gone girl. It's just stupid to do, just leave. It's so simple, no wonder this shit is toxic.

[Vikkrram]

Maam when you wrote that line that physical abuse is ok i didn't read next line even... And i am sayin that please don't be wid him he don't desreve you.

[summiter]

You can do way better. dump his ass and take your car with you. Also get a blood test to rule any STDs you may have picked up from him.

[UniquelyBasic]

The whole situation sounds toxic. Just move on already

[Iron_Man]

No he doesn’t deserve you, you deserve better

[CubaPirate]

Absolutely not time to move on and find someone else who does

[Anonymous]

I don't understand if you were a slut in your past or not. If you were, he's right. If you were not, why do you let him say?