Guys, Can men be intimate with the same partner again if it has been damaged?

[Anonymous]

My husband has been watching porn since we met but when we got married he hyper focused on porn and forgot about my needs it turned into an argument about his porn use and how its affecting our sex life. He would not stop using and left me feeling neglected. He was not interested in sex with me, he would check out girls in front of me, he would ignore my advances. He feels he is addicted to porn and unattracted to me and attracted to other woman, just not me anymore and that he was not that attracted to my body in the past but he just ignored it since we had great sex and he liked me.

I used to Love to tease and play with him through out the day before it leading up to sex back when we were wild and intimate, which was in the begining of our relationship and the sex was amazing. Through out the years I tried to do these things as they come natural to me but he would say he does not feel anything when I do these things, he was not attracted to me. Eventually I just stoped trying because he did not even enjoy sex with me anymore or wanted to have sex.

Presently he promised to try to stop watching porn and go to therapy because he does not want to lose me, I am just so hurt by all this, it feels awkward and uncomfortable to act sexy with him and do all these things with him again knowing what he truly feels of me. I don't know what to do. He says he feels is actual attracted to me but it seems to only be that way when he is happy with us and sometimes he just feels numb but when it comes to porn and checking out other women its different so it confuses him. He told me he does not want me to go, he is asking me to give him a chance to show his best self before I make the choice to walk away.

I guess my main question is it possible for things to be how the used to be? Or is this something that will never revive again for us?

Should I just be patient and let him show me things can be different?

[CuriousMufuxka]

This has nothing to do with marriage. This is the lifestyle that you both slipped into and if this is merely a problem with porn and him checking out asses, therapy is not needed.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, haven't you heard of makeup sex?

[In_Trance]

it'll never be the same