If you’re getting to know someone and on the verge of dating them, but they sleep with someone else during that period, would you still pursue?

[DizzyDesii]

I was watching a show and the guy called it quits because the girl screwed someone while trying to build up something with him as well. It wasn't cheating since they both knew they were getting to know others, but i do find it disrespectful.
She got mad at him for finding out and at the other guy for possibly ratting her out. But you’d think she’d be mad at herself for even doing it or keeping it secret. She claims it no one elses business what she does but i feel others should be told that they’re not the only one you’re likely banging within a short period of time. What if one of them would’ve caught something or given her something?
I’m glad he had the standards to walk away. But I dont expect others to agree and just want to see where everyone stands. I’ve stated before that I’m not for casual sex and have to be in a longterm relationship to consider sex. If he just goes around banging people while getting to know me, I wouldn't be able to take him seriously. I’d assume he lacks patience and/or acts on impulse and easily gives into temptation. #FeelFreeToList #RomancingTheStone

Updates:

4 mo

On another show, the guy slept with two girls and told the third, “But you’re the one i love THE MOST.” Lmao she wanted to save sex til later in the relationship and he thought by telling her thag, he’d still get to hit. She had so called standards and broke up with him. But she came back like a month later and is now dating him 🤣 I guess she just needed time to make sure he was “clean” again

4 mo

To go into more detail about this first scenario… So its a show similar to the Bachelor/ette, so of course all of the men know she's dating them/getting to know them. Bt i just find it disrespectful that you sleep with em (especially so early on in the show) and expect more than a handful of guys/girls to still Want to date you. Of course she felt no shame and said she was an adult and could do adult things but still. She had no respect for the other suitors in my opinion

[RJJ33666]

Well when the girl had sex with someone else while building up a relationship with some other guy is not a completely right thing to do, its not completely wrong either. Of course, having sex while try to build a relationship. The biggest mistake was not making it completely clear that until they are in a proper relationship, its ok go out to other people, which is completely reasonable. And one could say that the girl was just really tempted and couldn't control herself, which could be the case, but in the end if the relationship between the guy and the girl worked properly and actually into a more romantic relationship then that issue goes away as she now actually has someone to come back to for more "Stuff". Again, not making it clear was the biggest problem here, its very necessary to make it clear whether a person is comfortable with having sex with other people while building a relationship or not.

[Anonymous]

For me it would depend how many dates we've had, how things have gone etc. It wouldn't be a "good thing" for sure. Especially when I personally focus on one person when I'm dating (I couldn't image dating more than 1 at the same time), but to each their own, I'm not saying it's wrong or anything. But I would feel she's not into me at all (or question it a lot), and would feel like I was probably wasting my time dating her if I learned of that. But again, depends on how things have gone. Example if we've only had say 2 dates, I would probably be much more "forgiving" vs if we've had 5

[Buntyp]

Curious question, because it made me realize the similarities between two relationships where that was the case. They both dragged on for way too long and involved a lot of painful betrayal.
Even now, I think, hey, life happens, but that is very interesting that both followed a very similar course.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That would be a no.. if they're really interested in you and want to date/be in a relationship with you why would they sleep with someone else? Actions speak louder than words and that would tell me they weren't the right person for me..

[Andres77]

Lots of low self-esteem here...
Loving yourself enough to not drop ones standards is a big deal.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't persue, but if I did, I'd immediately lose interest in her over that.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the dude should've been faster on getting things going with her. She was clearly ready to go and he wasn't doing it so she took the option of the dude who WAS ready to go.

[slimshady59]

Screwing 20 dudes hope she's getting payed goo she gonna need a stitching doctor. She a ho ho.

[exitseven]

I probably would not. I think that it would show me that she would not be serious about a relationship.

[Cherry234]

No, definitely not. That sounds like trouble and isn't worth going through.

[Jbird1979]

I likely would not pursue thay person any longer...

[douride2]

If he sleeps with someone else while we are dating that ends it.

[TheAfrikan]

Lol if they do sleep with a nother dude yet we getting to know each other. God better be ma witness I would lose that interest first class.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, he should have walked away and she's the guilty one.

[Uptowngirl88]

Dudes can dish it out but can't take it. Single until married. She didn't do anything wrong they're not together

[hafinjun]

Depends on what we are to each other

[the_sinner]

No I’d be too heartbroken to pursue that person.

[Tim-loves-it]

i probably still would continue to pursue her

[Dargil]

How would I know?

[talka20]

No i won't continue

[Dchrls78104]

No, that would be the end of our correspondences.

[AimeeKyle]

Probably not.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hell NO!

[Cubus]

No, why would I?