I'm a married woman having dirty dreams about other men. I feel terrible about it. How do I stop having those dreams?

Im a married woman having dirty dreams about other men. I feel terrible about it. How do I stop having those dreams?
Lately I've been having recurring dirty dreams about other men. I'm a married woman and it makes me feel super guilty. I truly do love my husband with all my heart. I also think he's a great husband and a great dad. He's always there for me and always makes me feel loved. It's also not like I think he's some boring, non-sexual person. I'm very sexually attracted to him and he does make me sexually satisfied. Consequently, I'm not sure why I'm having dreams about other men. Whenever I have these dreams I'll do something either that morning or that day after work that I know he'll really enjoy sexually (in to make me feel less guilty). However, that doesn't totally get rid of the guilt
I haven't told him, and I don't really want to. I just want them to go away. What can I do in order to quit dreaming dirty things about other men?
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  • Our brains will fuck us around over getting their bang of opiates called Endorphins.

    This means it will shove various fantasies and thoughts in to our brain.

    When we act on the thought, masturbation, sex with partner, our brain ticks that box and knows it’s a way to get smacked off it’s tits on endorphins.

    Dreams can be really fucked up at times as our brain works out how to get us horny and then keeps at it.

    they are just dreams, however if you feed them, you get more and often a bit darker or hornier.

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  • If I were you, I would try to understand the mraning of those dreams. Are you satisfied with your sex life? Is he taking sufficient care of you? Etc

    In other words, ask yourself the right questions. Find out what's missing (or the problem) and talk to your husband about it.

    Maybe there isn't any problem (which seems unlikely, but could be). In that case, just be patient, it will probably go away on its own.

    You cannot control your dreams, remember. It's your mind trying to convey a message. I wouldn't feel so guilty about it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't obsess over those thoughts. Let them come and go. The more you notice these thoughts the more they are likely to repeat like intrusive thoughts.

  • It's just a dream. You're not doing anything wrong.

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  • They're just dreams, you can't control dreams and they don't mean anything. I've dreamed about things I would never do, there are girls I'm surprised I don't dream about.

    Usually when I dream about sex with a girl who's not my girlfriend, or someone I recognize like a friend/coworker/body's gfriend or wife the only thing I wonder is where do I know her from or where have I seen her, cause we can't create faces, everyone in our dreams we've seen somewhere.

  • What desire is he not fulfilling? You owe it to your partner to find out & communicate what's missing. & he owes it to you to fulfill them.

  • Play Tetris before you go to bed. Then you will dream about Tetris.

  • Having fantasies is something widespread among humans, as well male as female. Being aware of that should remove the guilt, and help you keep in mind that a thought is not an action. Maybe something you'd like is missing. Without telling your husband about your dreams and other men, you could try and have an open conversation about what you both would like or not, and things may clarify. A matter of confidence in each other.

  • I have dreams about other women sometimes too and I am also happily married. It is normal and just means that some memory in your sub conscious is coming to the surface.

  • dreams are utterly random as long as it doesn't happen it fine

  • It's normal and natural.
    Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan

  • Having a dirty dream is normal you can indulge yourself in some kind of activity so you can not think about men cuz if we think about something then we get dream related to that thought or you can read books before you go to sleep it helps you to avoid that dream but having dream like that is not bad and you are not doing anything wrong you just have a dream.

  • It sounds like you have no intention of ever cheating, so I think the guilt is misplaced.

  • as I always say, women don't deserve loyalty.

  • Dont worry about dirty dreams everyone has them

  • It is not bad, just keep it to yourself his ego might not handle it well.

  • Dreams are an interpretation of a wide field ranging from emotions to experiences to preferences, etc. Don't say anything!

  • To be perfectly honest reinact some of these dreams with your husband, PM Me

  • Oh no! Jesus or god or which ever invisible gods you follow, will be disappointed in you lol. Maybe you arnt satisfied enough? That's unfortunate.

  • I don't have a clue. I've had sex dreams about plenty of people I'd never have sex with.
    (that nun was pretty hot though)

  • You don't. You're human. It's fine

  • Wish I can help. I am somewhat male version of you. Others may say, aren't all men like that.

  • Well tell him it might lead to something

  • does it make sex with hubby better

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