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Would it bother you if your Bestfriend said your partner was attractive?

I invited my “Bestfriend” over for dinner at my partners house. She’s been around him several times. We all hang out together sometimes. He stayed in the bedroom most of the time and he ended up coming out in the middle of our conversation and she stated “I dont like black guys” “the only black guy I find attractive is him”(pointing towards my partner). This isn’t the only comment she has made once we were at Spencer’s and we came across this thing where you can make your own dildo and she said “you should use this on your boyfriend so I can have it” I just laugh it off. Her comments don’t bother me at all. My other friend thinks I’m crazy and I need to cut her off because her comments are unacceptable. I’m not worried about them at all. I think it’s funny. 😭
Would it bother you if your Bestfriend said your partner was attractive?
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  • No. I also say often to friends that their boyfriends are cute or good looking and it's just a compliment. (And they always smile so cute and produly and be like "yeaah right he is" )
    I'm not interested in them, I don't have bad intentions behind it or flirting you know and that's also where I draw the line.

    Complimenting is fine for me, but flirting would be too much and in your scenario I don't see the problem, like okay her dildo joke was a little too much but well it was once and it's fine

Most Helpful Guys

  • If my best friend repeatedly said my wife was attractive they wouldn't be my friend anymore

    Now of course there's a difference between saying oh yeah your wife's hot versus The friendly greeting of "you look nice today how are you" which is just someone being polite

    But I've barely read it and I can already tell this is a "your wife is hot" moment again didn't read into it much I'm just saying your wife because I'm putting myself in the shoes of my friend says to my wife that she is hot or says to me that my wife is hot


    It would upset me and I would tell him that he better watch his tongue and if he doesn't watch his tongue he is going to find his ass out the door and never coming back because that's just inappropriate and I don't want to hear that in my house and I don't want to hear that when I'm just trying to hang out that would just be annoying

  • Very unacceptable comments and obviously she's trying to get laid and wants your boyfriend to be the one fucking her.
    It's ok when she tells you in private that she thinks your boyfriend looks good but not more then that and never when he is arround to. I would definitly cut her off before she ruines your relationship

Most Helpful Girl

  • Not really, unless she goes out of her way to try and flirt with him behind my back or spend lots of time with him etc.


    I tell my friends that their partner is attractive, because why not? It lets them know that their partner is a catch and it gives them the ego boost/validation that I approve lol.


    I like hearing my friends tell me that my boyfriend is attractive lol, like “I know!” So it doesn’t bother me to hear it.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I just dont trust females most of the time. My little hoe of a cousin flirted with he same guys she knew i liked. One time i introduced her to a guy i was with and she was all over him saying “Oooo he's fiiiine” and he was blushing and i was like “fck u smiling for” 🙄
    😂

    • I’d say i rather they say my guy isn't their type... but the ones who told that lie were all over the guy soon as we broke up

    • Well she’s not his type at all. I’d be mad if she was all in his face smiling

    • They werent my exes type either but free head was free head

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  • No, I wouldn't. I'd rather hear them saying nice things about him, giving him compliments than talk bad about him behind his back. I would choose to trust my partner. So, it wouldn't bother me.

  • Not really, no. A few of my friends have been flirty with my guy before, but it was all in fun to make him blush and wasn't hidden behind my back or anything. If I felt there was any seriousness to it, I would tell them to back off.

  • I want my friends to think my partner is attractive! I love to feel proud of my partner and I want my friends to be happy for me. And I want my friends to date good people as well.
    (I don't mean to be shallow, in my opinion personality make a huge difference in how attractive someone appears to you. So if my friends don't find my partner attractive, I worry that it is because they don't like him as a person)

  • I think it’s ok to talk. Just talking and being honest is much different than an action.
    im with you, no reason to worry about it. My best friend is attracted to my girlfriend and I know it but I trust.

  • Ice heard it countless times from lots of friends and my thought was always, "Yeah, he is!" It's been over 20 years and now I feel a mental eyeroll come on. 🙄

  • My best friends are all men. 😁 I wouldn’t trust woman. But I trust my SO irregardless.

  • My best friend is my husband’s little sister, so it’d be weird if she said that!

  • Nah, they have eyes.
    Nothing wrong with acknowledging the fact that my man is sexy af 😛

  • not in the least... and I would hear that all the time, from many different people... kind of just stating the obvious, lol

    • also, most of my best friends are women as well...

  • if they want a beatdown

  • Sounds like friendly banter. As long as you trust both her and your boyfriend I think it's fine. Just start taking some jabs back at her and talk about his dick or something and how she wishes she could have it.

    • Lmao

  • If I had a girlfriend and some friend of mine made comments about her
    It wouldn't bother me much but it would make me wonder

  • No, I know that he would not betray me.

  • Not in the slightest. I'd appreciate it. I know my friend only has good intentions when he says something like that. If you question their intentions, then maybe they're not a real friend.

  • Just don't let him know.
    Forewarned is forearmed.

  • Nope
    My bestfriend is asexual and my other bestie is a guy.

    Even if they were straight females, I wouldn't be worried about it tho.

  • If they simply say she’s attractive, I’d say I agreed. If they’re getting personal or something they need to back off.

  • No not really. I mean I know she's attractive why do you think i was attracted to her when I first saw her

  • No, my friend isn't blind. I've found some of my girlfriend's friends sexually attractive too. One of my girlfriend's friends said to her (before we were dating, if you don't want him, I do).

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