Is it sad or wrong when men take it to Internet to learn more about women, if they have no other option?

[AvaOneLasTime]

In today's world, as it is, with all the available (some questionable) information on the Internet, men can read and learn about women. Without having to ask them in person. Without the need to interact with women to learn basic stuff. Without having to force an answer, after asking 10 girls the same question.

They could learn about (our) women's periods, if someone missed telling them about that or if girls refused to share with them. They could observe female behavior from videos. They can learn how to perform Cunnilingus (pussy eating/licking), by watching the right videos - altho this knowledge would be still only theoretical. They could... study us, and safely.

Is it a bad thing or good self-initiative?

Pretty much, they could learn almost everything that needs to be known.
My Boyfriend - half of what he knows is from the Internet. There was no other way, he said. And he had to be picky what to believe too, because of misconceptions and how unreal porn can be. He says he had to read a lot of medical sites and THEN ask real women, to fact-check the medical sites and his own knowledge too.

So i wondered, is that bad? Or is it good?
I mean, humans always find a way, don't they?
And in his case: This self-initiative to find a solution, to compensate, because of certain circumstances in life.

Does today's era makes men lucky then? If they can learn what they need from the Network, compared to men 200+ years ago...

[Lionman95]

I think it's sad but not necessarily wrong. The problem I had growing up was that there was no place where I could learn anything about girls.
Though I grew up with far more girls than boys in my area I never asked them anything deeper or intimate because I was just too shy.
My biggest fear was that I created a fuss and appear dumb.
I got lucky once or twice when at a youth camp I went to for the summer camp had girls/boys days where at the end of the day the boys were able to ask the female leaders questions and vice versa.
That was the only time in my youth where I got answered some of the questions I had.
For all the rest I used the Internet.
I feel lucky to have it but I can see why it's sad. Yes most times I only get opinions like on platforms like this but that's what I would get offline from real women as well so that's not really a counter-argument.
What's sad in my opinion is that way conversations between guys and girls get rather unnecessary and guys don't learn to talk to girls.
That could lead to the problem that less guys know how to ask a woman out without making it awkward for her.
It could therefore lead to problems in the future but from a male perspective it's lucky because it gives an in public rather shy guy like me the opportunity to learn something about female behaviour and lifestyle without awkward myself.

[Makeushiver]

I think that it's possible to believe that all women are perfectly air brushed and/or dressed like porn stars. It can make reality a little disappointing if the majority of experience you have is from porn. Otherwise, I think the internet is a good source of finding out about things that many people don't feel comfortable about discussing face to face.
The only way to become a proficient lover- that includes sensitivity- at times. Internet exposure is tailored t your fantasies and reality is not, If you can live with that distinction and know that real sex with another human, one who doesn't cum in 45 seconds , one who you need to try different things with different pressure & in different moods is real. Unlike porn which is all scripted, life is improv. You need to learn how to relate physically, emotionally and intellectually as you go. There is no plan or set of instructions that will always apply. People can be scared left to their own reactions and how someone else may react to their wants, needs etc. It's much more difficult but much more rewarding

[Aerissa_Jade]

I don't think it is bad, people can learn a lot about everything from the internet. Some right some incorrect or wrong.

Learning online from the right place could be a good thing, but porn is not the right place.

My mom would joke about this and say, online is better than guys asking her to play doctor so they can learn on her. My dad would say his parents sucked at teaching him anything, said when you get married your wife will teach you everything you need to know.

I can't say that is better or worse, it is just different is all.

[AvaOneLasTime]

So today's men are luckier, compared to the ones 200 ages ago?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yes and no, luckier because they can learn vs. be ultra curious and get into trouble but no because porn can ruin them, so they think they know it all and what to do and aren't open to actually learning for real from someone.

[DizzyDesii]

Its sad when anyone runs to places like GaG more to learn about someone. I’ll always remind myself that GAG is nowhere near the majority and i’ll remind myself that a lot of things on internet in general are more opinion than fact. A guy and girl are best off asking the person they are into directly what they do/dont like and how things works with them. The internet often gives a false pretense thanks to trolling

[AvaOneLasTime]

That may be so, but when/if its about general/basic knowledge about the other gender, its not so bad?

[DizzyDesii]

Its not bad to do research at all but its bad when you rely more on google than real life conversations with the person of interest

[Andres77]

Hear! Hear!

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@dizzydesii Damn true!

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

But I would still prefer internet over a girl directly.

[DizzyDesii]

@The_Shadow_Dweller then you will never truly know. The girl you’re interested in could have a totally different mindset than randoms over the internet. You have to learn your specific target

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@dizzydesii So you are saying that I should approach the girl I am interested in. Get to know her slowly. Interact with her? There are only 15 girls in a class of 78 students. And there are smarter boys than me in the class. Can you tell me how to get her attention then, even for a minute or so? I understood what you mean, but how can I implement it in real life?

[AvaOneLasTime]

@The_Shadow_Dweller Your smarts depend on you. Geniuses are made, not born. If you really are 21, your brain is still developing. USE THAT! Many people think i was just born so smart. I was not. I used to be a dumb kid just like most people.

[DizzyDesii]

@The_Shadow_Dweller Dont think about the competition. That will always exist but it doesn't mean she will choose them over you. Just be yourself and get to know her. After getting to know her for about a week or two then try to ease in hanging out after school

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

@avaonelastime I really am 21. I have many fake accounts, throwaway email ids in case things go south. But this account is 100% legit. You said, essentially, for me to be creative. I will take that into account. I liked your line about the smartness being made not born. Thanks!

[AvaOneLasTime]

@The_Shadow_Dweller Also, its not the competition that matters, but how you interract and deal with her. My Boyfriend would say, that's its mote important to have advantage over the woman, than comparing yourself to the other men. Spoken like manipulator...

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i just told him not to worry about the competition

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

This conversation is really good. I just saved it in my Keep. @avaonelastime and @dizzydesii I really cannot tell you, how much I appreciate both of you. This is something I could not have asked my friends with confidence. I will continue on asking questions if any arise.

[Ghen30]

What? No. That's why the internet is there. To research things! I'm a young woman and I still look to the internet sometimes for answers about guys and their flirting techniques and what not. I mean... we're on this site, aren't we? xD

[Femphile_xoxo]

PLSPLSPLS I find it so funny. I'm in quarantine rn and that's the only reason I joined this platform today (really just to joke w girls and argue with sexist dudes). Porn creates just a fantasized disgusting portrait of women. I mean you go to any porn site and it's calling women "sluts" and making them seem so dependent and "whorish".

[AvaOneLasTime]

That might be true. But if they learn about female anatomy from medical sites, it's not a bad thing.

[Femphile_xoxo]

I'm someone who strongly believes in co-sex sexual education. In the US, sex education isn't required in all states, and in some states that do it, it's not even required to be medically accurate. All I'm saying is I just think it's funny they learn about it on medical sites cause this is something I learned when I was in school (my schools always did co-sex sex ed). And besides, my response was mostly focusing on the other thing rather than someone harmlessly looking up "female anatomy". Porn isn't a medical site.

[summiter]

Ava you bring up a good point as long as it is factual info they find. I think some young teens get a distorted view of sex from the porn they watch ( I did... but it was fun to jerk off to) I think the same can be said about girls learning stuff from the internet.

[Apple1996]

Not a big deal for men to seek out info if they are curious

[Berethor]

Periods? there is no such thing! :)

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NoPeriodsPeriod

[AvaOneLasTime]

quit with spreading disinformation please. Why you even Google for such weird stuff? Instead of actual facts?

[Berethor]

Why you so angry, are you on your period? :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZTuzDt-dGxA

[AvaOneLasTime]

What was i supposed to feel from that?

[Berethor]

Nothing.

[Emilyis]

I have told my husband to go online and read about women. He actually has and I have even found him things to read about us. He is actually interested.

[Snsl153]

It isn't sad or wrong, it's just different. In many ways it's a positive development, because they're far more likely to understand what women are all about, and therefore less likely to screw things up when it comes to, for example, their relationships.

[MrTuxedo]

Well, women can do the same thing for men.

[AvaOneLasTime]

True, but in my exp., men know less about women, than women know about men. On average at least. Doesn't applies to everyone.

[ManOnFire]

If a guy has no sisters, girlfriend, or female friends, then I think it's good he can learn whatever he needs to learn from talking to one online or watching videos. In my early youth even I did a little of all of this from time to time.

I think women too could definitely benefit from learning more about men as well.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I would have preferred to ask girls about their problems, but since 12th standard, I have stopped asking anything to anyone. Especially to girls.

In 12th, I sort of said I like you to a girl. She rejected me. No big deal there.
The sad part was, she went and told everyone about it. I had not told anyone, but she spread it. I faced a lot of problems after that. She was the one with even bigger problems after that. I really don't know what she thought about it before telling anyone.

Now I think, if I ask any girl anything honestly face to face, would she genuinely tell me or would she just make it a big thing and just let everyone know about it. This is where the internet comes.

It was in 10th standard when I and my friend had asked a girl, about what happens in them when they are horny. She told us what happens. We were really good friends at that time, now that I think about it. Not weird or anything, but just plain and simple. Direct.

[AvaOneLasTime]

What a stupid idea, to tell half the city that you rejected someone. What she expected, a medal?

[Dargil]

No, it is not.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its not a bad thing to learn in general.

[bowenw]

We don't like to appear dumb, so getting as much information from the internet as possible helps.

[elizamichale1]

i dont think its wrong, to me wherever u can get any info from you should

[Yourfriend2021]

It's not bad to learn and that's what GAG is for too. Of course you learn things in real life too.

[motownplayer2000]

Because I think women are terrible communicators for what they want and what they like.. so have to go get an idea from somewhere

[Shy_Steve]

It's because most of us Guys are too afraid to Approach Women and ask those Questions Because it would make us look Juvenile or less Manly and we know that's not what Women find Attractive in a Guy.

[Xtendable]

Love this. Yes! Interaction between people is being replaced with internet stuff and we wonder why social skills are dropping

[Ram-man]

Odd you ask this. Especially on this forum. Isn’t this the purpose of this site? I will never knock what people ask. If I think they are trolling I leave the question. But this one really made me think. What are you doing. Not everyone knows and guys and girls have questions they are to uncomfortable asking their teacher , their parents or their friends so they come to a forum like this. Right. Isn’t this why places like this site exist. So why are you bashing guys for the very thing that both sexes do? It’s not sad. It’s for many reasons they are too uncomfortable or in fear of asking. Think about that.

[AvaOneLasTime]

I never bashed. You say I do. If I BASHED, this question would have been removed by a mod. By now.

[Anonymous]

It is very sad, especially if they come to sites like g@g for information.

[AvaOneLasTime]

Why, sometimes there can be good tips given here.