Guy checks me out a lot?

[Anonymous]

We went on two dates but he seemed like he was looking for a short term sexual thing rather than something meaningful. I was more interested in knowing him and I think he sensed that and we stopped seeing each other because he wouldn't reply to meeting up. I stopped texting and he started to initiate conversations in person but I still didn't text. He started getting cold and bitter and would make passive aggressive statements at times.

However he never deleted my number from his Whatsapp list and continued to watch my stories and posts on Instagram every 15 days. He was also very curious on knowing about my personal life and stares at me each time he gets a chance. I had sent him a text last month but he didn't reply to it so I thought he would delete my number in case he forgot but he didn't delete.

Yesterday, after nearly 1 month we saw each other but I ignored him initially. But I saw that he was writing something and when he heard my voice (talking to another friend), he quickly turned his head to see me, twice.

Then I bumped into him and he started saying how are you , how's everything and if have any news about my life etc. I also noticed that he was also looking at my legs, chest (I wore a long skirt with thigh split and corset kind of top).

I dont understand him. I ve seen him meeting different girls at bars and he works as a bartender too.

If he doesn't care and is not interested then why do all of this?

[summiter]

I think he is interested but most likely he wants sex more than a relationship. Did you two have sex when you went out with him?

[Asker]

No we never had sex. But today he was looking at my legs a lot even though my legs weren't that visible but I'm like he is a bartender snd already meets a lot of girls or hooks up then why bother with me when he won't text?

[summiter]

He is not worth it. You can do better and it sounds like he may be a player.

[Asker]

Okay but do you think he has some sort of feelings?

[WhitneySnow]

I said this before on my own comment but I’ll say it again. No he does not have feelings for you. He just wants to have sex with you.

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow you said he won't meet me because he knows i won't have sex with him. Then why will he want to gave sex with me

[Asker]

Will he want sex with me when he knows already?

[WhitneySnow]

He’s still hoping you’ll give in and sleep with him without demanding a relationship

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow and how? When you said he won't text or meet me, how will this happen?

[WhitneySnow]

You would have to find some way of letting him know you’re dtf if that’s what you want. Believe me, he’ll be all over you if you do that. But I don’t think that’s what you want. I think you like him and you want him to like you back.

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow but I haven't slept with him nor do I chase him. So I'm not the same as other girls he meets?

[summiter]

Forget about him.. you can do better

[WhitneySnow]

He doesn’t see you as special. Just annoying because you won’t sleep with him like all the others.

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow if he saw me as annoying why won't hr delete my number? Why does he start conversations, stare and turn around the moment he heard my voice?

[WhitneySnow]

Cause he still wants to have sex with you. If you think this guy likes you for real you’re buying into the story he’s trying to convince you of so you’ll go to bed with him.

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow he's not even talking to me through messages. He only talks in person and after I have kept talking to him whenever I see him otherwise he was really cold and bitter before. But I think he's realised that I ve only been nice to him and his anger has now subsided because he no longer makes passive aggressive comments

[WhitneySnow]

That’s good. I still don’t trust him though. I still think he’s pissed you wouldn’t sleep with him.

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow okay but he has options because he hooks up with other girls then why still talking to me?

[WhitneySnow]

Because he wants the one he couldn’t get

[Asker]

@WhitneySnow but without texting bow is it even possible?

[WhitneySnow]

He’s hoping you’ll approach him and let him know that you’re willing to hook up

[WhitneySnow]

You’re the one that got away. He wants to have sex with you and is mad that he didn’t get the chance to. He does not like you like you.

[Asker]

And how will he have sex with me without even meeting me?

[WhitneySnow]

He won’t. He can tell you’re not into him that way (or at least you’re not just gonna hook up with him) and he’s pissed. He wanted a quick conquest, a notch to add to his belt.

[Asker]

Then why is he talking to me?

[WhitneySnow]

Cause he’s still hoping he’ll get lucky. Repeat: he does not like you like you. This is a basic player move.