Girls, do you think it's shallow for a guy to break up with a girl that doesn't like to have oral performed on her?

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I've been seeing a woman for 5 months. The overall sex is good and I do care about her but she won't let me perform oral of any type on her. I asked her if she is worried about how she smells and/looks she doesn't have to be, because I think she's beautiful but she just says she, "simply doesn't like it". I thought she would slowly let me satisfy her 'cause I did tell her it's important to me but after 5 months, I honestly don't see things changing. She is amazing, she likes having sex and always satisfies me but I love pleasuring a woman. I just don't think I'll ever be completely satisfied with that part missing. Would it be horrible and shallow to break up for that reason? Also, should I give that as the reason?

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Little_Bumblebee | 1.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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I wouldn't call that shallow but sounds more like sexual incompatibility.

But if you want to go down on her, to satisfy her, that it's because you want to do it for her pleasure.
But since she isn't into it and you feel like you miss something, then it's not just for her.

I'm sure you would be able to find other ways to satisfy her than doing oral.

But if it's because you like going down on a woman and that's a big part of sex for you, then it makes sense.

Either way, think about the reason. Can you find other ways to satisfy her?

Otherwise, it just sounds like sexual incompatibility. It's a fair reason I would say. As long as you've tried to work on it first.

If you do break up with her, I would give the reason that you're sexually incompatible.

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2 mo
That was a very honest and thoughtful perspective from a woman's point of view. Thanks. It actually made me feel better about the situation and that I'm not a total dick.

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That was a very honest and thoughtful perspective from a woman's point of view. Thanks. It actually made me feel better about the situation and that I'm not a total dick.

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SnakeBoop | 2.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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you can pleasure her in other ways.
it is shallow and silly, but it IS your perogative if oral is something you need to do in a relationship.

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2 mo
I would be honest with her but I don't want her to let me do something she doesn't enjoy just to save our relationship. Also, I don't think there is much I can do, she barely lets crab her butt during sex.

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I would be honest with her but I don't want her to let me do something she doesn't enjoy just to save our relationship. Also, I don't think there is much I can do, she barely lets crab her butt during sex.

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Anonymous

Has she given you an explanation for why she does not want to receive oral sex? I had a relationship with a woman abut fifteen years ago; she had been sexually assaulted and her assailant went down on her during the rape, so she didn't want to receive oral sex. I simply accepted that as an immutabe part of her and enjoyed the relationship without performing oral sex on her. She still enjoyed giving me oral sex and it was great!

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2 mo
I thought the same thing but I don't think that's the reason. I was thinking maybe a past partner made comments about how she looked or smelled, because the only thing she told me is she thinks it's "gross".
Opinion Owner

2 mo
Maybe you should play a game with her.
Need some excitement in the bedroom? Are you willing to take a challenge? ↗

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I thought the same thing but I don't think that's the reason. I was thinking maybe a past partner made comments about how she looked or smelled, because the only thing she told me is she thinks it's "gross".

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Opinion Owner

Maybe you should play a game with her.
Need some excitement in the bedroom? Are you willing to take a challenge? ↗

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RobT312 | 3.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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That’s tough. Not this exact issue but I did break up with a girlfriend over sexual compatibility. We talked about it , it was at least worth a try talking about it.
I’d give her a little more time, talk to her, she needs to open up to you. There has to be more than “ its gross”. Hope u can work it out but if not, I understand why you’d want to move on

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2 mo
That's part of the problem. If there was a past tramatic reason for her unwillingness and she shares it with me but doesn't change, I'd feel like an even bigger asshole for ending it. I'd almost rather not know. If that makes sense.
RobT312

2 mo
Yeah man I get it.
Me personally, I’d want to know

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That's part of the problem. If there was a past tramatic reason for her unwillingness and she shares it with me but doesn't change, I'd feel like an even bigger asshole for ending it. I'd almost rather not know. If that makes sense.

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RobT312

Yeah man I get it.
Me personally, I’d want to know

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Bethr | 94 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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It's not shallow but there may be a reason behind it she's not ready to share.

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True but what if the reason is due to a past tramatic event and she shares the story with me but doesn't change? Iike I told another opiner, I'd feel like an even bigger dick for ending it, so I almost wouldn't wanna know the reason.
Bethr

2 mo
If it's super traumatic and she shares it but doesn't change it's for a reason. She might need help overcoming it
boredguy007

2 mo
Follow me @Bethr

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True but what if the reason is due to a past tramatic event and she shares the story with me but doesn't change? Iike I told another opiner, I'd feel like an even bigger dick for ending it, so I almost wouldn't wanna know the reason.

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Bethr

If it's super traumatic and she shares it but doesn't change it's for a reason. She might need help overcoming it

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boredguy007

Follow me @Bethr

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Anonymous

Nope its fine, woman hate to hear this but it's fine to break up with women if their are sexual hangouts that can't be resolved

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2 mo
I actually agree. Sex is extremely important in a relationship and I'm sure women do the same.
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2 mo
Yeah i always find it funny when you're talking about breaking up with a woman because say she doesn't give blowjobs enough. Other women will come all out of the woodwork to attack you for dumping her for small and not worth breaking up over. And you just want to say "if its such a small thing not worth breaking up over then why can't she just suck more dick?" lol

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I actually agree. Sex is extremely important in a relationship and I'm sure women do the same.

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Opinion Owner

Yeah i always find it funny when you're talking about breaking up with a woman because say she doesn't give blowjobs enough. Other women will come all out of the woodwork to attack you for dumping her for small and not worth breaking up over. And you just want to say "if its such a small thing not worth breaking up over then why can't she just suck more dick?" lol

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BaldAvenger | 219 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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No it isn't. If he really enjoys giving oral and she doesn't want it OR like it, he would have to cheat in order to get satisfaction.

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Anonymous

Would a woman break up with you if you aren't sexually compatible? Yes! So the same things works for guys. If it can't be resolved there's a divide and you could try to work it out first, or move on.

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Anonymous

Hell no.
Women end relationships for much more petty reasons.

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Anonymous

A woman that doesn't blow will remain single. Leave her

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