Sexual Relationships
+1 y

What are your reasons for not wanting a relationship?

Based on my bad dating experience, my ex was a porn addict. He couldn’t live without porn even if he was dating me. The worst part was he is a liar, he lied about his age. I wouldn’t be surprised he lies about everything. Personally I wouldn’t want to marry a man unless he quits porn forever as I have read porn destroys marriage and relationships. Porn stars had unrealistic bodies where women in real life usually don’t. Porn has the ability to make men treat women as sex objects and also think women in real life will perform all the acts depicted in porn. Porn is not the only thing that successfully destroys loving relationships. Erotica also has the ability to do the same which is the equivalent of porn but it’s meant for women. As someone having an addiction to erotica, I realised my views of men changed. Erotica always showed attractive men with unrealistically ripped bodies as a description. The men is always seductive, extremely romantic, an expert in bed even though he doesn’t have many sexual partners in the past. All the erotica I read was all about seduction, sweet talk, etc while the woman doesn’t really need to make effort to keep the relationship going it’s always the men doing all the work. I decided to quit erotica and I didn’t want to get into a relationship since it’s so common for men to view porn and it’s very hard to find a man who quits porn that’s why I’m staying single so I don’t have to worry about whether he finds me less attractive because of all the porn stars he has seen. It’s good to be single because you don’t have to worry about whether your partner will be turn on by other men or women and not find you attractive enough. You don’t have to worry if your partner is cheating on you too. I’m single and I’m way happier than being in a relationship.
0 1

Superb Opinion

  • A lot of women still feel the way you do about porn, but they are disappearing more and more every day.

    Just like anything pleasurable to humans' senses, it can be abused and people can become addicted to it. Alcohol is no different. There is no question it does an incredible amount of harm in some people's lives. Does that mean we should make it go away? Nope.

    What I find is that many women who are opposed to their man watching porn are just trying to make a source of insecurity disappear rather than confronting it and seeing it for what it is.

    My girlfriend and I watch porn together all the time. It has been a very positive influence in our sex, and thus in our relationship. Do we want to do everything we see people doing in porn? Nah, a lot of it doesn't appeal to us. But we have tried a lot of new things as a result of watching porn that have enhanced our sex and made it more exciting and enjoyable for both of us.

    What you described about your experience with erotica... the same thing can be said about chick flics and pretty much every other genre of modern films. Each of us just needs to have the honesty and self awareness to keep our expectations real while enjoying the positive things about modern media, including porn.

    • The reason why I don’t want my boyfriend to view porn is because he’s getting turned on by other women sexually, the fact he is imagining himself having sex with them is enough to hurt my feelings. I would rather he watch it when he was single than continue watching when he’s in a relationship with me. I was raised where erotica and porn were damaging to relationships and marriage that’s why I don’t approve. I’m not saying he should only make sacrifices but I will make a rule where me and him can’t view any explicit content.

Most Helpful Guy

  • After 9 years of marriage I'm happy having fun at the moment.
    With regards to porn, yes it can be damaging to the users mind and to relationships when it is used in excess. But if used in moderation, with control, and no expectations of realism, then it's just like anything else people enjoy. Anything can become an addiction, it all depends on their the personality and self control, and whether they have addictive traits or not, if somebody has addictive traits it will either be porn, drugs, alcohol, smoking or food etc etc.
    Yeah the lying about age is a massive red flag, I can't abide by liars, and it would cause me to believe that they are lying about other things, especially if they are prepared to lie about something as big as age.

    • It’s more scary if his true age was 16 years old.

    • How old did he say he was?

    • At first he said he was 25 years old, then 2 weeks later he said he was 17.

    • Show All

Most Helpful Girls

  • Personally, I just want time to work on myself.

    I want to explore my sapphic side, try having friends with benefits, and just work on making myself into the person I want to be.

    From there, if a relationship happens, awesome. I'm open to it.

    But right now, I'm focusing on myself. Making myself happy with my life, my body, and my day to day.

  • Well it's not I dont want one but I'm scared here to admit that I'm lesbian, I don't know how to meet girls without coming out and this country is not safe for gay peope

    • When I was a teenager born in Asia, lesbians, gays and bisexuals were treated with disrespect and that there’s something wrong with them. I’m not sure if the government accepts them as a person yet.

    • This is how it is to me living in east Europe, most people are not respectful it's only recently not mental illness offically and some still think it is.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

Related Questions

If women don’t enjoy penetration then why do they like sex?
What makes someone of opposite sex good in bed for you?
Is getting a circumcision the right answer in my case?
What is the safest way to dispose a used condom that was not your husband?

What Girls & Guys Said

0 8

  • For the most part I have been a relationship guy.
    however, there was a time in my early 20s that dates were bad, I was stuck in a rut, and decided just to have fun. It lasted a couple years before I found my current girlfriend. I enjoyed it, think I needed it, but like being in a relationship better.

  • I'm always ready for a relationship (unless I'm already in one) and will never give up trying to find that one woman for me.

    As for your details, I'm sorry to hear about your experience with that guy. Self control is very important towards a potential partner. Porn I only use when single. When I'm in a relationship doing sexual things routinely with her, porn is pointless to me because I'm only focusing on her, and I don't need porn anymore.

    If too much info my bad, but I prefer to save my cum explosions for her. Exploding to porn while in a relationship is a waste. Much rather my explosions end up on her boobies or inside her rather then on myself watching porn lol.

  • Well I feel in my 20s not really looking for a relationship I was just having some fun going out with the bros and if we met some girls and if we had a chance we take it. I wouldn't consider me a sex addict but I guess I was just wanted to have fun and enjoying sex with different girls.

  • For starters. Loosing my sense of self in a relationship. Yes, I understand that to have a good relationship, there needs to be vulnerability. Those two things are different.

    As for the porn part in your description, I agree. Porn in a relationship is a no-no for me. So is erotica. It might be the idealist in me since I believe that your partner should be that for you. I'll take it so far as not even going to "breasturants" and places of the like. Other things for me that are a no no is "a list if you had the chance." This has the same premise of your "is my partner cheating on me?" type of thing. I could go on and on, I'll just leave it there for now.

  • If we're living together and having regular sex, I don't view porn unless we're doing it together. I think I've watched porn alone once when my girlfriend was here. I watch it a lot more when she's not here, but maybe 1-2 times a month at most when she's here, and pretty much always with her. Usually we're both horny but don't feel like having sex, so we masturbate each other and watch some porn. Since we were both virgins we're willing to try new things, and porn can teach us new things we can try.

  • It may be that he doesn't want you because of his porn addiction. Porn addicted men ejaculate sooner. A bad situation in terms of health, a normal relationship is always better

  • I ended my relationship with my ex once I realized how insanely entitled she was without putting in ANY effort of her own. I was in the wrong about everything, she'd smack me around for seemingly no reason (in public as well), and she got upset if I didn't bend over backward to make her happy.

    I'm now generally just bitter/hateful towards women and think they're generally just not very good people.

  • I would be in a relationship with the right girl, but it seems like heartbreak is just around the corner or after some time because women cheat or can't be satisfied or get bored after time.

Latest Questions

Sexually frustrated, am I in the wrong?
I caught my girlfriend reading erotica on her ipad -- should I be concerned?
How to stop feeling self conscious about my butt?
Girls- Do you like to swallow a guys cum or is it nasty?
Home >  Sexual Relationships  > What are your reasons for not wanting a relationship?