He doesn’t cum inside me anymore. Am I reading too much into this?

[Anonymous]

At about the 6 month mark in our relationship, he started pulling out and finishing on my body. He knows I’m on the shot and there’s virtually no chance I could get pregnant. When I ask him, he just says he likes sex better this way but that just doesn’t sound right to me. I feel like maybe he doesn’t see me as wife and mother material. It kind of makes me feel rejected. We still have sex almost every day like we always have. Am I reading too much into this? Should I chill and let it go or is this a red flag if some kind?

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. Bottom line, talk to him about it and how you feel. You are reading too much into it as far as "wife, mother material", nothing to do with that. Whatever his reason will be much less involved that that. It'll be something simple. Some guys have a fetish and like orgasming ON the woman (I think it might be a dominance thing?) at it could be as simple as that and nothing more to it at all. BUT, having said that, physically nothing feels better than orgasming inside a woman, so I think there is a reason. But don't over think it or stress yourself out. It won't be a serious one. Like I said, it'll be something simple and "nothing" to it. The most it'll be is he doesn't want ANY risk of you getting pregnant, and that'll be because HE doesn't want a child, period! Not that you aren't good "material". "He likes sex better this way" suggest to me this very well could be the reason? But like I say, just talk to him about it. And BELIEVE what he says because it's most likely the truth. And don't get yourself all upset when you talk to him.

[Opinion Owner]

In my opinion it's one of those two reasons (maybe both?), doesn't want a child period (eliminating almost ALL risk), or just likes orgasming ON your body. It's a fetish for some guys I think. You see this all the time in porn.

[Stevefiveo]

It might be his preference but I've never heard of it. On the other hand, if you are asking for cum inside you and he is not giving it to. You are going to have to explain that the boyfriend's job is to satisfy you 100% sexually. If he can't or won't do it, then tell him you will find someone else that can. Good luck.

[Asker]

If I bring it up, he’ll finish inside but then goes right back to pulling out. He claims it’s hot and how he likes to have sex. I can’t help but read something into it because that wasn’t how he was the first few months of the relationship. It makes me think something has changed. Granted I’m an insecure person and tend to overreact sometimes. That’s why I’m asking for opinions.

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, maybe preferences change. If everything else is ok, maybe it is just something new he likes to do.

[AmandaYVR]

Chill. You're on birth control so this is not about pregnancy.
A lot of guys like to see themselves ejaculate and if it's on her body, even better, in their mind.
It's common in porn. Guys are influenced and get ideas.
It means nothing more probably.

[Nine0wl]

nah no way. I had the same shit happen and when i was getting ready to dump the girl i didn't want to take any chances.

[AmandaYVR]

@Nine0wl Possible. But many guys prefer this other method. More of a turn on. It is definitely not "no way." Don't breed paranoia.

[Nine0wl]

Guaranteed I'm right.

[Asker]

@Nine0wl So you were pulling out because you planned to break up? That doesn’t make me feel better but I appreciate the honesty.

[Nine0wl]

Yeah I didn't want any risk because I didn't 100% trust them at that point. Sure busting on a girl is fun too, but not all the time. I'd say figure out if you have other red flags. By itself I wouldn't lose sleep over it. But it's worth thinking about it if there are other behavior changes.

[Asker]

@Nine0wl I’ve not noticed that he’s been different in any other way. I don’t feel like he’s about to leave or anything either. It’s just that I wonder how he could ever see me as a long term partner if he doesn’t even want to cum in me. Cuz everything was normal for months then one night he pulls out. I thought it was a little odd because I hadn’t had a guy do that to me since high school. I didn’t think too much more about it but then it started happening every night and I don’t know what to think now. Oh well…I guess all I can do is wait and see.

[Nine0wl]

If there's no other red flags, don't sweat it. Just keep an eye out for other small behavior changes 😊

[Asker]

@Nine0wl Thanks for listening. I can be a little neurotic.

[OlderAndWiser]

There is someting about this situation that we do not yet know. On these facts, this makes no sense.

[LiamSawyer]

He's crazy, finishing inside you would feel the best for any guy.

[oliversamuel]

It feels way better to ejaculate into a woman, but maybe he just likes cumming all over you? Weird.

[Yourfriend2021]

Maybe he thinks you're trying to get pregnant?

[Asker]

Although he says that’s not the case, it’s a possibility. I’m not sure what would give him that idea though. I’m on the shot…. there’s no pills to miss and we’ve never even had a conversation about having kids. I’m clearly not ready for that.

[Yourfriend2021]

Try talking to him about it if you can.

[ImNoOne111]

It doesn't make any sense. There is something you are missing here. Talk to him about it!

[chulo1992]

He probably got scared after hearing about someone accidentally getting prego while being on BC and now he's shook up and paranoid.

[swettannie]

nah, some men do like that

[Tonyblony12]

Yes you are, yes coming outside of you especially on top of you is the type of birth control don't read too much into it until you're ready to be a mommy.

[KrakenAttackin]

He knows you are thinking about trying to baby trap him.

[In_Trance]

Have you asked him why?

[OddBeMe]

Force him to stay inside.

[Nine0wl]

If it happens like half the time, wouldn't matter. If he never busts inside, it's cuz he doesn't trust you or doesn't want you or something is up. Could just be a phase, but yeah if it doesn't go back, def a red flag.

[abc--123]

Personally I prefer pulling out and giving a cumshot. Maybe he is like me

[CubaPirate]

Don't panic he's just marking his territory

[guyinterested]

talk to him more and say sex doesn't turn you on if he doesn't cum in you.

[fireforeffect]

You should not be having sex unless you are married.

[Anonymous]

That is kind of strange because it feels so much better inside

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he saw something in porn and is enjoying acting out those behaviours

[Anonymous]

On the contrary, you're not rejected if he finishes on your body. It's simply much better. If he didn't like you he would not cum. I never cum inside, because I love to cum on her face. It's normal!