Reasons why my boyfriend losing erections during foreplay and Sex , not interested anymore?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend just turned 30 this past February I can’t remember when I started to notice how he would be hard then next second he could be soft. Not extremely soft but he would definitely lose some erection. He is still young to be having this kind of problem and is really getting to me now. I have talked to him about and he claims he into me but I been with him for 10 years I know he would like to me if he really wasn’t fully enjoying me just to not hurt me. I started to pay attention when exactly this problem would happened and it was either when we about to start and he was in the process of putting it inside me or when he went a couple of strokes and I would feel him less hard. I started to think that maybe he doesn’t enjoy me or maybe I’m loose? I don't know so many things came to mind. I does cum while we having sex and understand it takes a few minutes to get back and started around round but even when he doesn’t cum this problem happens. Just last night we had a problem because I masturbated he was so bothered. I never seen him argue all night long until the morning. He started bringing up so much stuff. I tried to calm him down because at one point he had a breakdown , I also tried to touch his dick and told me not to. Any reasons why this is happening? Is kind of stressful especially when I want have sex with him but I’m losing interest because I’m the back of my head I know his dick will get softer and I’m in a awkward position to either stop or continue the sex

[Luggit]

I can only think of two reasons. I know you said he's only 30, but doesn't mean he may not need any enhancement. Normally this happens with men around 50 or so, but I wouldn't be surprised if it happens at a while being younger.

Asexuality could be settling in. It can happen with both genders. You start losing interest in sex slowly as aging goes by. This could be very discouraging for him of not understanding what's happening. The fact that you masturbated, may have upset him of not being able to perform like he once could, but he may not realize this inside. It wasn't anything that you did wrong, as much as it is what is going wrong.

[Markm3212]

i think that you said he had a breakdown in the argument may be a good point to start. maybe he is having a hard time and has a few personal issues. i dont like the fact that you are upset for not having sex when you man is possibly having some kind of break down. you should be supporting him and not wining about not getting it one night

[Asker]

He has been going through money issue and I been there for him. But also this erecting thing has been happening too. He always gets so defensive over things and is hard to communicate with him. He claims he likes it and has also admit that he gets soft but he doesn’t tell me why he get soft. Is kind of hard to do things like that.

[Markm3212]

firstly, it sounds like he has things on his mind with the money issues, this will be on the back of his mind and playing a part in the problems. i know what you are experiencing as i have had to support someone through money issues and it was a lot of money, so i know how hard that is and facing that issue takes a lot of courage, as its easy to stick your head in the sand and let it pass over and get worse. this will be on his mind and will be effecting him. secondly, yes he may know that he is getting soft, but i would imagine that he does not know what the reason is and the anger, defensiveness and poor communication is most likely something to do with his lack of knowledge. its hard for guys, who have to be seen a matcho and manly to suddenly not be able to perform like we used to and difficult to talk about. as a man we are not great communicators and do not openly talk about issues but rather bottle them up. and the more people talk about it, the more we just want to forget about it and hide in the corner as we are embarrassed about our deficiencies. all i can suggest is the softly softly approach and let him lead the conversation (however limited that may be) and try and assist when he asks. but i would bet money on the fact that it may stem from the money issues, esp if its a big some of money.

[Steve-ram]

Maybe you do something wrong turn him off?

[Asker]

I suck him up , position my self to have sex. Where can I go wrong? 🤔

[MasterKS]

pretty bored!