Does having a lesbian playlist make me gay?

I'm still figuring out my sexuality but for many years until a year ago I was positive I was straight.

When I was in my early teens I had a low sex drive and never had been instantly sexually attracted to anyone. However I had a few crushes I had developed, mostly on guys but one girl when I was 15. I didn't know if it was a crush or an intense want to have close friendship because it wasn't a sexual desire. Then my sex drive increased a few years later and I lusted after guys, I tried talking to girls and thinking of them sexually but it never attracted me. So I assumed I was straight. But on a coincidence, I ended up at the same college as the girl I had a maybe crush on. And it's still not sexual but I like her more than a friend. And I do find a certain type of women attractive.

I know sexual identity has nothing to do with the kind of music you listen to. But i just found out my entire playlist consists of lesbian and queer artists. I didn't pick them for that reason, it seems to have happened by accident. Im just trying to work out if me liking guys is a learnt behaviour. Tp put it plainly I think I like guys but it seems to be purely sexual and I like girls but it seems to be not sexual but more than friends. I haven't had any experience with women though so I can't tell if I would like a sexual relationship with one.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • That sounds like your sexual attraction doesn't match your romantic attraction. They are two different things that normally match (like being heterosexual and heteromantic), but in lots of cases it doesn't and you might be heterosexual and homoromantic, or heterosexual and biromantic I don't know but look that up

  • You are romantically attracted toward girls and sexually attracted toward guys. Hopefully when you get into a relationship with a girl you’ll find that you’re also sexually attracted toward girls.

    • Not necessarily, maybe she doesn't feel sexually attracted towards girls but yes romantically, I don't think that's wrong

    • @Destiel_24 not wrong at all but it could be awkward finding a partner who meets those standards

Most Helpful Guys

  • I think everybody love lesbian porn..
    But do u feel like u wanna try/do this touches from a guy or a girl?

  • There's nothing that you have said that would make me think that you are lesbian, or even bisexual at that.

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  • what is a lesbian playlist?

    • Probably with songs like I kissed a girl or from Cloud, Hayley Kitoko, Girl in red...

    • Kiyoko*

    • @Destiel_24 All of the above 👍🏻

  • Nope. 70% of straight women prefer lesbian porn. This was from the Kinsey study.