My daughters told me they can hear me/my husband having sex. They don't want to hear us at all. How can we have sex without them hearing us?

[Anonymous]

BACKGROUND: I just got remarried a couple of months ago to an absolutely incredible man. I have two teenage daughters from a previous relationship of whom I have full custody (I don't want to go into the details here, but just know their biological father hasn't been apart of our lives for a long time). My daughters get along super well with my husband/their stepdad. We've got a very good thing going on family wise.
With that being said my daughters recently told me my husband and I are too loud when we have sex. They said they can usually tell when we're having sex because they can hear us because of the noise our bed makes and when we knock against the walls (and sometimes because of my heavy breathing when they're passing by our bedroom). They're very happy about my relationship, but they don't want to be able to hear us having sex at all.
I'm actually a bit embarrassed they could hear us. I thought not moaning or talking would make it so they couldn't hear us. I've been trying to think of ways to be completely silent, but I just don't know if we can do that. I think if we're going to have sex the bed kind of has to move around and we're going to make some noise against the wall. I also don't think I can prevent myself from breathing heavily when I get excited.
I honestly want to think of a way to have sex without having my daughters hear it, but I think the only way I could do it is by completely restraining ourselves to the point where we couldn't do much anything at all. But am I missing something? Is there a way where we could be completely silent during sex (at least so my daughters can't hear) and we could still move around the bed (which I think we kind of have to do during sex)?

[VikingWarLord]

Reminds me of this time I nailed this Single MILF / Cougar in her early 40s.

She was tiny (5'2 or something around there and 105 lbs) and had Vaginismus (it's an anxiety disorder that makes a pussy feel pain and tighten up). She ended up with this shortly after her last kid. She actually got divorced, due to this. She thought it possibly could be that she didn't have a strong physical attraction to her ex husband and wanted to find a hot guy on Tinder to see if it would 'cure' her vaginismus and that's when she found me. She had custody of her three kids (8, 11 and 12).

Long story short, we met in San Francisco, she was outside a restaurant we met at smoking a cigarette.

I snuck up behind her and she got sort of scared, but immediately said WOW YOU ARE HOTTER IN PERSON, SO THIS BETTER WORK. I didn't know about her Vaginismus so I asked her what she meant. She told me and said it was ok if I wanted to go home. I also didn't tell her I was in P0rn so I have a huge c0ck. I thought this would be super fuuckin fun. And it was... LOL I told her we were for sure gonna fuuck, and to forget eating (we originally were gonna have dinner). Her kids were asleep and we went to her room. When I took my c0ck out she gasped and said OMG... YOU ARE HUGE WAY BIGGER THAN MY EX... I DUNNO IF I CAN HANDLE IT. I threw her on the bed, stripped her naked and started fucking her without even lubing her up.

She was moaning like crazy and the tightest biitch I've ever fuucked, I don't think I ever got in more than halfway because of her vaginismus problem. She said it was painful but hot how I just had my way with her and that her ex wasn't like me at all (not forceful) so maybe that's why she wasn't "in to the sex". I would fuck her on occasion after that and she was always loud because it was painful due to my size and her vaginismus, and told me her oldest could hear her at night and wondered why she was yelping like that. We both laughed.

[Asker]

You're going to have to make your made up stories believable if you want people to believe they actually happened

[VikingWarLord]

I don't care if you believe them or not

[VikingWarLord]

But I'll say this, who would come up with a story that includes Vaginismus? Think about it

[VikingWarLord]

Oh and I still have the Text messages as well, I'm always ready to show in private message for proof

[Asker]

Sure you do

[VikingWarLord]

Send me a DM and I'll show ya

[summiter]

They have to understand that sex is a wonderful part of being married and you two enjoy the great orgasms. What I'm saying is that hey have to get over it. I'm sure they are masturbating so what is the difference?

Maybe move your bed a few inches away from the wall. Consider getting a new bed without springs (like a foam mattress) they don't squeek. Just enjoy the orgasms and maybe try not to moan tooooo loud. They have to understand that sex is part of an adults life. Sit down with them and discuss it in a mature manner.

[Anonymous]

I used to hear my mom and her boyfriend having sex when I was a teenager. It kind of weirded me out at the time because it’s hard to think of your parents as sexual beings, especially when you’re blossoming into one yourself at that age. It makes you a little uncomfortable but it’s not traumatizing. I think that’s what is happening here. Most kids do hear there parents at some point. Sex between a man and his wife is completely normal. It’s not going to scar them to hear evidence of sex going on in your room. Just sit them down and explain that. I wouldn’t diminish your enjoyment by restraining yourself but you might take some steps to make it less obvious, like moving the bed away from the wall enough that it doesn’t bang against it or replace a creaky mattress/box spring. Someday they’ll look back on this and get a laugh out of it. I do with my mom.

[Asker]

What's the most uncomfortable they could possibly get if they heard us doing it? Sometimes I'll moan and/or we talk dirty to each other (and it can get super dirty). Even when I/we do that i/we try to keep it down, but I'm a bit worried they might hear us. Do you think that could have any significant negative impact on them? Or do you think it's no big deal if they occasionally hear us (even if it's moaning or very dirty talk)? I like the idea of getting a a bed that doesn't make much noise when we're moving around/having sex on it. Do you know what one of those beds would be called? Do you know where we could get one?

[Jessica405]

My brother and I had a similar situation a few years ago, when our mum finally got a new guy. We had lost our dad about 11 years earlier. Although our rooms were at the opposite end of the apartment, we could still hear them making love.

The difference for us was that we were just pleased for our mum. It does get less noisy after a while. Mind you, I have moved away and bruv is at uni.

I don't really have a suggestion, unless you can change rooms so there is some space between you two and them.

Well done, anyway! Enjoy it while you can!

[Asker]

What do you mean by 'enjoy it while you can'? Do you think there's a point where I won't enjoy it? I'm not offended or angry. I'm just curious what you mean

[Jessica405]

There comes a time when sex is not so important. "While you can" was probably the wrong way of putting it. My mum and her guy have been together a few years now. Bruv and I noticed the frequency of love making has gone down, but judging by the less frequent noises, the quality is just the same.

[Asker]

I don't think it's too crazy of an idea that a couple could enjoy/desire sex with one another for years and years on end (and basically for forever). It certainly takes effort to keep it going, but I very much think it would be worth it (I'm very motivated to keep this incredibly pleasurable sex up. Haha)

[Jessica405]

I hope you can.

[Jessica405]

😊😊😊

[Aerissa_Jade]

Get them some really good ear buds so they can listen to music, maybe they won't hear you then.

[Hotwifebecky]

I am very loud and vocal. My daughters have heard me too. You have to talk to them about it. I did and my girls are fine with it now.

[purplepoppy]

Do it when they're not home or put some music on to drown it out.

[Asker]

Since they both live in the house that would cut down the amount we can have sex pretty dramatically. In all honesty if it's between that and them having to hear us sometimes they're just going to learn how to deal with it. However, I really would like to figure our how we can have sex in a way that they never have to hear us (and we don't have to decrease the amount of sex we're having)

[KrisPW]

Stronger / different bed frame? Maybe sound isolating insulation in the shared wall. Radio by the door playing to mask any sounds when they walk by.

[Apple1996]

Tell them to get over it. I use to hear my parents having sex and I'd just ignore it

[bubblegunnn]

Do it when they are asleep, try to do it on a rug instead or standing sex.. is ur room close to them?

[Asker]

Not really. It is in a pretty narrow hall though. I think when they walk past it they can sometimes hear us.

[bubblegunnn]

Ohh that make sense.. maybe if u guys hear someone outside u can stop makin noise? Maybe.. Cuz i can't think about how not to breath heavily while have sex

[Asker]

I don't think we could stop in the heat of the moment and keep the pleasure going. Do you know how we could do it without ever having to stop or worry about having to know exactly where they are while still making sure they can't hear us?

[bubblegunnn]

U guys have ur own private bathroom in ur room? That can help

[Asker]

Yes, but they've said they've heard us having shower sex a couple of times

[bubblegunnn]

Geez are ur kids eavesdropper tho 🤣

[Whatever2929292]

Then you need to do it when they aren't around?

[RJJ33666]

Well, this does pose to be a very serious issue. Well, their is not a lot that you can do about the place you are having sex in, but if you want you can invest in having your room sound proofed then it could help in many things. Now when it comes to the noise that the bed makes, you could just put a bed mattress on the floor and do whatever you want there, it will prevent in making any noise because of the bed frame and it would be more comfortable as their is no bed frame to restrict certain movements.
What a lot of parents with children also do is that they schedule their sexual activities so that when they know that this day is when they are going to have sex they give the eldest or the most responsible one some money and tell them to go out for a while or you could send them to relatives or grandparents for a few days under the pretense of grandparents missing the children. That gives you enough time and space for whateve noice you want to make.

[Asker]

Do you know if it would be possible for us to soundproof our room to the degree that we could moan loudly and talk dirty (loudly) to each other without having to worry if my daughters can hear us?

[RJJ33666]

I mean, it is very possible, its gonna be very tedious but it is possible. As a drummer, many of us have to soundproof our music rooms that contain our drums. You can get insulation wool and put that up to the wall. But you have to be ready to do some work for it. Sorry for the late response.

[Asker]

I'd be willing to do quite a bit of work to soundproof our room in order for us to be able to be as loud as we want without having to worry about the girls hearing us. About how long do you think it would take to finish soundproofing our room to that level?

[RJJ33666]

well, if its only one room then taking into account the time to move stuff out and work on the walls and tiles, it could go from 1 week to 2 weeks. 1 week if everything runs smoothly, 2 weeks if their are some problems. But before you start anything check the integrity of the room so that their are not damages during soundproofing.

[VanillaSalt]

Remind them you pay all the bills and your husbands good at sex so you’ll do what ya want lol. I feel for my neighbors when I had sex with my ex. She’s loud af. And she says some of the most embarrassing things. My neighbor came out one day and asked how was it? I didn’t understand until she said never mind daddy… lol my neighbors a good sport but I feel for her having to deal with that.

[20yearsolder]

Pool noodles between the wall and the bed. Buy them some ear buds. Explain to them that that's what happens between a loving husband and wife. Ask them what you can do?

[Asker]

What exactly are you talking about when you say 'Pool noodles between the wall and the bed'. I'm not familiar with whatever that is. Could you explain what that is, how it works, and how it would help my situation?

[20yearsolder]

It's a long tube used to float in a swimming pool, you could tape pieces of it to the headboard that are banging the wall. It would work as a shock absorber to stop the sound

[Asker]

How effective do you think that would be?

[20yearsolder]

I think it would stop the sound of the bed banging against the wall

[20yearsolder]

You can't scoot the bed out? Like a foot away from the wall and then he can fuck you as hard as he wants

[Asker]

That's a good idea! I think we'll do that. Thanks!

[20yearsolder]

My pleasure

[Texasgal95]

Have background noise

[AviatorTom]

Try a spoon position and make it last as long as you two can. That's a relatively quiet position.

69 each other... and keep the meaning down.

Save the loud rough sex for when you and your husband are home alone, maybe during the day when your daughters are out.

[libsaretards]

Tell them to put on some headphones and mind their own business. You are the ones paying for the house and it is not like you are doing it in full view of them or being excessively loud.

[Asker]

I've certainly thought of that, but I get that the idea of your mom having sex is crazy weird. You know she does it, but I get not wanting to not know anything about it and not wanting to hear your mom having sex. For what it's worth if it's a choice between me/my husband not having sex (or even just decreasing the amount we have sex) or them having to hear us then they're going to just have to deal with sometimes hearing us bang each other. However, if possible I would like to have sex without them having to hear us or think of their mom doing it (again, I get it's super weird)

[JustinTheGreat]

You’re never gonna be completely quiet unless you soundproof the wall somehow. Buy them some AirPods and tell them to put them in when they don’t want to hear lol

[Asker]

I'm interested in soundproofing our room. Do you know where we'd need to go in order to get the stuff to soundproof our room? Could we do it or would we have to hire someone else to soundproof our room for us? How soundproof could we make our room? Do you know if it would be possible for us to soundproof our room to the degree that we could moan loudly and talk dirty (loudly) to each other without having to worry if my daughters can hear us?

[jamesgoldman]

Soundproofing the room would probably work but would cost money

You could move the bed away from the wall to reduce the noise as a possibility

[Asker]

How could we soundproof the room? Also, if we soundproofed the room how loud could we be? Could we moan and talk dirty without them hearing? Or would it just soundproof the noise from the bed and heavy breathing? If "yes" to the former how loud could we get without them hearing?

[jamesgoldman]

Like recording studio style, almost no limit whatsoever to the noise albeit unresearched

[Asker]

How expensive would it be?

[jamesgoldman]

I'd think it comes down to the amount of material involved in the soundproofing... I'd hazard a guess at expensive given how small recording booths are but that could be for other reasons

[Asker]

Could you estimate how much you think it would cost?

[Mate100]

Don't have sex when they are in the house. It's really disgusting to hear parents have sex

[Asker]

Since they both live in the house that would cut down the amount we can have sex pretty dramatically. In all honesty if it's between that and them having to hear us sometimes they're just going to learn how to deal with it. However, I really would like to figure our how we can have sex in a way that they never have to hear us (and we don't have to decrease the amount of sex we're having)

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Sound proof the room.

Or see id they can be shifted in any other room.

Or build new room outside or inside of the house so they can't hear you

[Jamie05rhs]

1. Buy a new bed that is more firm.
2. Position the bed at least one foot away from the wall.
3. Buy a new mattress as well (one without springs).

That won't solve the problem completely, but it may help a little bit.

[shanshu]

Have sex when they aren't home, have sex elsewhere, no kids want to hear their parent have sex, how would you like it if it come of age and they had sex with their partner and you were in the next room and could hear it all.

[Asker]

Assuming they were old enough (16 or 17 at the youngest), using protection, taking other necessary precautions in order to prevent STDs, and were doing it with a good guy I'd be perfectly fine with them having sex. In fact, there's a decent chance I'd be excited/happy for them. If they were interested I'd even give them advice on what to do I'm the bedroom. However, I get hearing your mom have sex is super weird. That's why I'm trying to figure out how to have sex without them hearing us at all. But with that being said, in all honesty if it's between that and them having to hear us sometimes they're just going to learn how to deal with it. However, I really would like to figure our how we can have sex in a way that they never have to hear us (and we don't have to decrease the amount of sex we're having)

[shanshu]

Well why don't you roleplay like if you were doing it in a public place but have to be quiet. Also I'd say do it on the floor instead of the bed so there's not any mattress squeeking.

[nawtee_me]

Send them to friends or a movie