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If you decide to be friends after sex, can this friendship last?

So you are friends with a guy and you start flirting to the point you decide to have sex with each other. Afterwards you both mutually decide that you’re better off as being friends.
Over the coming months you become best friends, spending time together but platonically.
Can this friendship last? Or is the fact you once slept together going to complicate things at some point?
If you decide to be friends after sex, can this friendship last?
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Wow! What a response for my first ever question. I’m taking all the opinions on board and you’ve given me lots to think about.. thank you to you all! 😘
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  • Definitely it's possible that it can last! I lived together with my ex for 6 years and was in a relationship with her all rhese years but we end up breaking up not seeing eachother anymore for 2 years.

    But when we did meet again 2 years later both are wounds were healed enough that we could see eye to eye again as plutonic friends and our connection is stronger then ever now!

    We don't do anything sexual anymore, this agreement we made togheter and were agreed being pure plutonic friends with eachother and our bond became unbreakable and we are best Friends now

  • 1. Very often, one pf the partners will agree to friendship because they feel they have no choice, but they are hanging on hoping for a reconciliation. Once they see you starting to have some new guy spend the night with you, then you will see jealousy very quickly come to the surface.

    2. Even if the two of you can control your feelings, when you start dating, you can either lie to the new guy about your male friend or you can tell him the truth and expect him to wonder why you are holding on to an old lover.

    • Thanks for MHO!

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  • I believe that once you fornicated, the true and genuine friendship will never be possible because you will always have a reference point that you will use to compare the relation before and after copulation.

    Mainly guys will not be able to keep the relation platonic. They are way too dependent of their hormones and are unable to keep them under control, at least until they reach a relatively advanced age.

    From a point of view of a girl, platonic friendships with a person of the opposite gender is no problem at all but the opposite is not really true.

    Being true platonic friends is very unlikely. There will always be the one that will want more.

    • Interesting- I can see many of your points! I’m cautious I guess of things going wrong but is that because it feels more than a friendship? Does that mean it’s already complicated? And should I walk away from my friend now? I feel like I’m losing such a great friend if I do that!

    • No, you don't have to walk away from him just to be cautious. He will not see you the same way again as he saw you before sex. He will think that he got into your pants once and that he can do it again. It's up to you to set limits of how far he can go but you don't have to cancel your friendship.

    • Good idea to be cautious- he’s very respectful and he doesn’t come across as looking for a repeat performance but I agree it may be that because we have already been there then the boundary to that is cloudy

  • If the sex was pretty mediocre for both parties then it's easy to move on and become friends.

    There becomes a mutual understanding that both parties can do better and that they both want each other to do better if that makes sense.

    If one partner is clearly the best sex they've ever had or close to, it gets more difficult because one party has a harder time letting go of that aspect which is necessary for the friendship to grow and develop.

    • That makes perfect sense- I think that’s where we are at! We have that mutual understanding with each other!

  • I am in agreement with most people here they say it’s possible. I do agree that it tends to fade with time. It’s probably a good idea to set some boundaries for the both of you and anyone you may date in the future.

  • Sex is always going to complicate friendship

    • , however, the fact that you guys are hanging out platonically and growing together post Sex suggests Relationship. It seems like that you two have something more than raunchy sex alone happening here. You two are practically dating. What’s the problem?

    • It’s a unique situation for sure- we are so comfortable with being friends, maybe one day it may develop. Maybe we will be tested if either of us meets someone new? We said we will always be honest if we met someone new, I guess that could determine what the situation really is

    • Both of you…”grow some nads and ovaries”. It sounds like the underpinnings of marriage that everyone hopes for…whatever.-I’m sure you two will figure it out. Let’s hope it’s not a rear-view mirror “WISH I had” view. Best!!!

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  • Once that line has been crossed, at least for myself... there will be FOREVER a layer of deeply personal firsthand memories that lie just below the surface, dormant. I suspect the same be true for her.

    Knowing how she likes kissed, the scent of her flesh along that sensitive nape of her neck, ... how her 'goose-bumps' waken when I caress or nibble certain places, ... what she's like when she first surrenders her self-restraint and complicitly lets herself grind in response and her nails dig in as her 'animal' wordlessly says "Oh HELL, YES!"
    "Hungry like the Wolf" ~

    • Oooh Mrs!! 😂

  • This wouldn’t be a good idea, especially if one or both of them starts dating someone.

  • It can last. However I think it fades. I always go back and think about my first. I was her first too. We had sex a bunch of times, then stopped and remained friends. Then our friendship relationship faded. We are still friends but not close... I think new relationships on each side got in the way

  • I’m friends with my 1st boyfriend and he’s also friends with my current boyfriend. So I’m okay

    • Nice to see figure like you also getting boyfriends...✌️

    • @Sam_The_Savage huh. I don't know what u mean.

    • I mean you have nothing sexy in your figure and yet you get boyfriend... so I'm surprised. ✌️

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  • Well it is possible of course, but the chances are that at some point it will somehow become an issue. Normally with a future partner that doesn't like you being friends with someone you used to fuck.

  • Me and my girlfriend started as sexting partners. A relationship wasn't practical so we went for friends with benefits instead. We utterly failed at the just friends part haha.

  • Depends how mature the two involved are. It's certainly possible.

    • Needs to be a basic level of respect for each other as well, which often isn't there by one or both.

  • I’m not sure but if you both just wanna be friends I don’t see any reason why it can’t last

  • Nope. Because they're usually already in love and well I was probably drunk 🥴 so they expect them.

  • Well, she and I did not fuck. She seemed to think we were better as friends, and stayed that way for a long time, swapping sex stories and masturbating to each other's sex life stories. (She told me she did)

  • Yes after having sex it will last about 5 mins at most , I mean the friendship

  • I feel like it can work until on of you have a partner and the partner finds out about your past affair, they will not be comfortable with y'all being friends and tbh you can really blame them because in that situation, who wouldn't be uncomfortable in that situation

    • One of you have a partner

    • can't*

  • I can see this working out. I can also see a drunken night where you both end up in the sack together.

  • Depending on the person, Sometimes it can work, and Sometimes it can not, because there's a lot strings that means something when you become intimate with someone that is only your friend. The key factors of successful friendship after sexual experience are learning and utilizing wisdom for yourself & your friend by communicating, understanding and learning your emotions by taking turns to listen to one another without criticising on why you both decided become friends, be mature and respectful, and dont dwell on trying to change on one another (Arguing to prove a point) especially if you or that person is not ready be in a relationship or on the same page.

  • Haven’t been there but it seems obvious it wouldn’t last.

  • It is not an impossibility, it takes two consenting adults to have consensual sex. So that being the case how could two individuals feel are being different even after sexual interaction? It shouldn't be that complex however if one desires to go further then they should make it known to the other.

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