I want sex more than my boyfriend. When is it becoming an issue?
1) Lately I've been stressed and couldn't come at all- tried to exercise mindfulness to bring my orgasms back. He has been very compassionate and trying hard to help me come but we haven't succeeded so far I am still without any orgasms.
2) I realized that I can come only on a missionary or being on top and certainly not with a condom cause it takes me longer to reach orgasm. I was taking contraceptive pills but due to side effects I had to stop them, and my boyfriend is very keen on me not drinking them again since I have been having heavy periods and pain and so he told me he's more than fine using condom than me having all these side-effects from the pills. I am thinking to explore my options such as device in the vagina that functions as contraception- he is again worried of the side effects.
3) I know that he loves me a lot and cares about my well-being which makes me horrible when I act like a nasty bitch and want sex urgently, especially when he wants to cuddle & talk and connect. He told me many times that not everything is sex and our relationship is much more.
4) I am not sure if I have higher sexual drive or I am acting like a kid that discovered ice-cream since he really turns me on & it is the only guy that I am insanely attracted to and with whom I reach orgasms- before this relationship, I didn't know what is an orgasm. As a bisexual woman, I only experienced it with a woman.
Any ideas on how can we constructively make our sex life work for both of us? It seems to be an issue for him and I hate making him feel inadequate or frustrated.
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