Why does he all of a sudden like black woman so much?

[Apocalips]

We've been together 10 years, and have a 2 year old. I'd say typically his type is very thin, but of course booty and boobs. He's more into the booty though. I'd also say he prefers Latina, white girls then Asians. I never would see black girls in what he browses. I'm mexican filipino. I'm short, I've gained some weight since the baby so i have a tummy, but it's not extreme, and never really had flat abs anyway. I dream of a mommy makeover but I'm confident I'm still attractive, and I'm still very curvy. So I'm curious why all of a sudden. I would also say im the one with the higher sex drive so it can't be he craves a freak. Now, All women are beautiful. And its okay to have a preference. I can't help but notice majority of the woman he browses are black instead of his usual. I also noticed his friend has this weird fetish for black woman. Not that it's weird to be attracted to black woman, but I've heard him make comments about woman he's hooking up with that are specifically racially motivated. Like it's cause their black that makes (blank) better. Not cause she's just bomb. My husband and his friend are both Latinos amd not even that close, so I'm wondering, where does a new interest or type come into play for guys. I don't he has a crush with anyone at work work since he works from home and only one Asian lady is in contact with him. Is it he wants something new and totally different? but to be honest I'm not that different from a black girl so what gives? I wonder if I should worry. And yes I go through his phone, and he knows I will and have. When I asked him, he said he doesn't, but they just "pop up". 😒 he hasn't cheated but I still... you never know.

[DonkeyDan]

What a someone browses doesn't necessarily reflect his/her preference, just what turns them on the most at that moment in time.
Pornography is escapism, and most people with go through different types of porn throughout their lives, he's just on a black girl stage at the moment.
This is one of the down sides of porn, what once turned you on doesn't really do it anymore, and you have to move on to something new. One of the reasons why people find it affects their real sex life, because they over saturate their pleasure centres with repeated exposure to the same kind of imagery.

[Anonymous]

It could just be a "phase" and "mean" nothing. Often women read too much into our porn watching. It's not as involved as in your head. My suggestion is focus on your relationship. Is it good? Regular sex, good sex, happy? That's all that's important. And/or talk to him about it if it's bothering you. But chances are good it's insecurities, or something missing in your relationship, or simply over thinking it. And if it's bothering you, talk to him about it. If he cares at all about you and how you feel, he'll do something about it.

[Opinion Owner]

But I've all of the sudden become interested in black women also (in the last year or two). Don't know why? lol But I'm also single. And in my head I know it's ridiculous (ie they are women period, no different because of race), but still. Like I say, could just be a phase.

[Apocalips]

I feel like everything's healthy and I'm very open. I've expressed my concern over it. Questioned him on it. Although he doesn't look as much as he did when he discovered the spotlight page on snapchat, he still does. And I feel like I can't expect him to never click... or get curious amd dive into different profiles of girls. I'm just worried it's the old saying "if you craves it enough, you're gonna try it". I also feel this way about him looking at any women online. But this just is newer so I'm discussing it and asking for opinions. :)

[Opinion Owner]

So what I'd look at then, 10 years together, that's a long time. Do you trust him fully? Any reason not to? Focus on that. It might be different if he was single (as to "craving it enough, wanting it"), but he's married. Unless you have reason not to trust him, then I say you have nothing to worry about.

[Apocalips]

Yeah I guess. I do trust him. But I'm also not naive. I know he would cheat if there was a 100 percent guarantee I would never know. I feel like that's human nature. I just hate that he's always looking, or he'll search the city we're in on instagram, so that he can see girls that have posted in bikinis in our area, a beach town. Which is more concerning cause why want to see who's close by?

[Opinion Owner]

Those are all signs you don't trust him. And if you really believe he'd do it given the chance, you really don't trust him (I don't believe it's human nature at all. The temptation is there of course, but people resist all kinds of temptations daily). And don't forget we're visual and like to look, and it often doesn't "mean" anything. Sometimes I don't think women can relate to that because you're not the same that way usually. But I think the bigger issue here is trust. Maybe you guys need to focus more on each other in general? Schedule some "alone time" more often? I know this is hard with a young child (and maybe other reasons such as work, financial etc), but try to work something out where you have some time together just the two of you. A vacation maybe, or even just an hour a day, or a day a week, you make it so that you just spend that time together. Have someone watch the child. Maybe you guys have got a little "disconnected" over the years, and with a new child etc?

[Flower7]

It does sound like your guy’s new interest is motivated by the things his friend has been saying.

[Apocalips]

Very very true. Lol.

[ChrisOfTheAlienRace]

Speaking for myself I tend to explore different types of women and I can have a preference for more than one type at the same time.
I think this all just comes down to whether he's a trustworthy individual or not.

[Avicenna]

Only he knows. Maybe he’s curious or bored

[Apocalips]

I agree with curious. Just wondering why this curiosity came about so fast and intensely. Makes me nervous he'll go off and actually attempt an experience. Eh. Time will tell I guess.

[Iron_Man]

Ask him

[Apocalips]

Yeah, I did that. Don't think he was honest about it. He says he doesn't, but it's like 80 percent of what he's clicking on in snapchat

[Iron_Man]

Oh I see

[Luckycharms12]

Women of all race's aww good looking

[Apocalips]

I never said anyone wasn't good looking. What I'm saying is typically people have a type. Tall, short, blonde, brunette etc. Makeup no makeup...

[Apocalips]

His type is changing, and that's where my concern lies.

[Luckycharms12]

I never had type take people as they come

[driven159]

I see red flags waving

[justsomemale]

Are you married?

And what is your and his religious status if you do not mind me asking

[Apocalips]

Married. Ages 30 and 31. Both catholic, but we're not in deep practice.

[justsomemale]

And what do you mean by he "browses" ?

[Apocalips]

It's not on porn, but on snapchat. He discovered the spotlight page and encounters profiles that advertise girls who creat racy content. I see he's clicking on profiles of black woman more often than any other. He doesn't pay or sign up just clicks and looks at their pics and goes to the next. Which is already upsetting g for me but I feel like maybe I'd be pushing it in expecting him not to look.

[justsomemale]

Okay for once i have we have no idea to know anything for sure so this is all speculation But if he watching something for fleshly satisfaction it either means he thinks watching that is better than watching porn because of you or he does watch black porn but deletes history You said he and his friends talks about black woman For starters a married man should not be talking about another girl sexually period same for women.. in this day and age i noticed how this is common for married men and woman to lust ov er other people besides their spouse while with their friend groups.. one thing i know for sure as a guy he has talked about them sexually with his little boyfriends for sure (especially that he admitted it) I am not sure you if this will or has excelled into adultery but he may just be consumed in this fantasy of his right now.. as husband ans wife this should be handled with communication which i know you tried already but approach it this way "am i doing something wrong? Are you starting to dislike my body?" This should invoke a different kind of conversation Lastly bust most urgently i ask that you start to take your relationship with Christ more seriously.. i know catholics do not believe in being born again but Jesus said that it is the only way into heaven John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. I know catholics also rely in works for salvation which again goes against scripture Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.

[justsomemale]

(continued) I ask that you repent wholeheartedly and put your life in his hands.. because we need Gods help with situation like these and for our salvation.. part of being in a godly marriage comes with resisting temptation.. the fact that he does this so casually shows that he is comfortable in this in against his wife which should not be Romans 13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. ( I exceeded 2000 characters oops)

[Anonymous]

I think yes it’s possible you should be a little concerned. I don’t think this is an all of a sudden thing. Maybe he’s been hesitant as to what people think. Maybe things aren’t like they used to be w the baby around. Not getting enough attention I don’t k ow. It could just be curiosity. A man could have the hottest chick on the face of this earth, he’s still going to check out other women. I can only go based off of what you tell us. Maybe you’re mean to him I don’t know.