If a man and a woman have legal age to have sex, Do you consider is important the age difference?

[kitty71]

or is important the maturity and attitude of the person regardless if the person have legal age? That is because even if the person has legal age for sex, in his or her mind he/she stil behaves as a young person cause it is inmature. Im talking here 2 different scenarios: Sex in formal and steady couples or sex just in a casual way. nothing committed. In either scenario even if the age is legal, the age difference could be big.

For example a 20yrd old having sex with a 50 yrd old (30 years of difference), where the man is 20 and the lady is 50 or a 30 yrd old woman and a 65 years old guy (35 years of difference), or a 40 years old. Like the producer David Foster and her wife there is 34 years of difference, he is 72, she is 37. Examples like those. I heard some say age is just a number then I ask myself Really age is just a number? I dont think so, age is very important in these cases even if all are adults and of a legal age to be a couple and have sex or even just dating.

[ChrisMaster69]

There is a moral, and emotional maturity thing here.

While the age of consent various globally, as does age of getting married, having alcohol etc, these are based solely on agreed legal numbers, which at times could be the flip of a coin.

Not everyone develops and matures at the same rate, however it’s been known for a good few years, that mid 20’s (age 25) is when our brains have pretty much all developed as far as they will do.

https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=141164708&t=1652109251871

https://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/

The counselling centre I worked at for 8 years, had 25 as a cut off as it was accepted that was Adult brain stuff and our centre was 12 - 24 for counselling and other types of help.

it is noticeable when you do date someone closers to 20 than 30, how much is experience and how much is maturity of the brain I don’t know.

As per @smashingdoozy 25 and over, fill your socks.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Let me ask why is age so important between two adults? Maturity responsibility accountability and consideration is all that matters. I think basically what's being said is to you and maybe a few others there should be boundaries when it comes to age and consensual sex are exclusive sex relationships sex or marital sex, however how do you actually do that or the better question would be why? Again two adults are able to make adult decisions, I get it perceptively everybody is going to look at them sideways because perhaps it is something that they would not do. But because they would not do it doesn't make it wrong and because they are not doing it that means that's something that is not for them

[kitty71]

For me a 20yrd old even if he has a legal age or is already an adult does not mean that person is ready for sex, he is j ust coming out of his adolescense, one year does nto amek a difference of 19 or 20

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Intriguing thought. But we're also speaking of the same people no matter what is an able body intelligent individual capable of making their own choices and decisions. They're also held accountable for actions they take by others and by the law. I understand it's a few in years in your eyes from adolescence but that individual has every right to being adults that he is, he is able to now as an adult own something such as land property car vehicles goods. The same individual is also able to go and get a job or own a home or at least an apartment as well go to war votes and many of other things. That individual should be respected no matter in whom eyes he is an adult. But I get it in your eyes and by your preference he is still very much a child and that is because we are very much older than that individual is so therefore he will be seen as so much younger because he has an experience life but here's the thing that's one aspect of it he has to have experiences and if he is being stagnated or boundarized then how will even attempt to grow into an evolved adult. You shouldn't stagnate one's growth because we don't feel it's appropriate and what's the path that he or she chooses.

[Smashingdoozy]

I think once you hit 25 you can fuck whomever you want who is also over 25. At least then your prefrontal cortex is fully developed.

[Djaay]

WTF... BS.

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/.../

Nope. Fact.

[Djaay]

BS...

[kitty71]

And if the person is just 20 even if he is an adult?

[Djaay]

By your definition , feminist under 25 have 0 mentality to be a feminist... even tho the feminist always get the super young girls to indulge in the indoctrination.

[Djaay]

And NO women under 25 is avaiable bc she's not mentaly developed enough for consent

[Smashingdoozy]

If there's like 2 years difference its probably ok. But the prefrontal cortex affects long term decision making, including impulsive decisions.

[Djaay]

So you dont know what your talking about till 2 more years.

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay tell me you don't read what people are telling you without telling me.

[Djaay]

Whats that got to do with anything?

[Djaay]

Everything your trying to learn , im trying to forget.

[Djaay]

But hey , your underdeveloped mentally according to yourself , so...

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay ah so you choose to be ignorant and actively work towards it. Interesting.

[Djaay]

Ignorant of what exactly princess

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay you know you're just admitting that you want to fuck young women who don't have full decision making capabilities. I know you don't understand science, but just because you personally don't understand something doesn't mean it's false information.

[Djaay]

Resd you Bible little one and enlighten yourself with nothing but the truth of humans. Might frighten you tho... correction idnt easy to handle for the weak.

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay I should have known you would be a bible thumper. Makes so much sense. Your brain can only comprehend a sky daddy that magically created everything. Simpletons are after all whom the book was made for.

[Djaay]

Science says the big bang happened from chemicals and gasses. You know how many people sometimes all day I've seen smoke chemicals with gasses? Not once have i ever seen a planet pop out of a pipe. And how many times have i seen the monkey at the zoo go round and round on the bamboo stick and he never just turned into a kid.

[Djaay]

And the book was designed for those who did'nt want to be part of the herd (simpletons ) .

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay hahahahahahaha wow you really never did pay attention in school wowowowow. I'm dying 😂😂

[Djaay]

Your right... school (indoctrination ) . I dont listen at all to dead in spirit hyphosesis.

[Djaay]

Then again thr brain is underdeveloped all through anyhow... correct? So what does school even matter.

[Smashingdoozy]

@Djaay yeah keep talking. Show us all how low your IQ is.

[Djaay]

Sure... hit me with your best shot

[DizzyDesii]

If they ask me, im gonna express my disgust. If they dont ask me then i have no reason to speak on their behalf

[Meadow4272]

no I hate that society makes things difficult and label things creepy!

[FreeMan6354]

My girlfriend is actually a lot older than me (she's 15 years older) and we have sex very frequently. We've got a pretty big age gap and we have great sex. She's actually way better at sex than ex-girlfriends I had who were my age. Our sex drives are also much more compatible. On top of that her body looks incredible naked.
But to be honest I don't think I'd go any older. The reason why it works out so well between my girlfriend and myself is more so because of us specifically and not because I generally am super attracted to older women. I don't think I'd ever have sex with someone 30 years older than me.

[Snsl153]

Age doesn't matter. At all. Why should it?

[kitty71]

Maturity and emotional maturity that is what age matters

[Snsl153]

There is no direct link between a person's level of maturity and the number of years they've been on Earth.

[Chiarac2003]

Is this question done with google translate? It not “have legal age” it’s
“are of legal age” that just in the heading. It and more continued.
sorry I don’t mean anything by it…. Jus feel the translation could be better.

[DonkeyDan]

I think if we are talking about casual sex here then age is probably irrelevant. But for couples in a relationship I definitely think it is more relevant, as long as the emotional maturity matches then it's probably not an issue, but there can be big personality divides. Personally I couldn't date anyone under 35 because they're outlook on life is different and and their emotional responses are not the same as mine.
With all this said, it all comes down to the 2 people involved, if they get on and are happy and well matched then age is largely irrelevant.

[VanillaSalt]

What about men and women that are attracted to younger or older personalities? My niece is 8 and she’s def more mature then most teenagers. What about these types? Not 8 yr olds but people older then their age.


Counter point… we need standards for society for the betterment of society… how far is too far?

[TheLoneTerran]

If they're above 18, then they can do whatever. It's none of my business.

[Avicenna]

Not if they are both of legal age

[HighValue]

Legal age and the other person can be old enough to be their parent, but not their grandparent. Either way, the older person shouldn't have kids within 15 years of the other person's age or it is weird and seems wrong. Plus it should only be within a relationship.

[Dargil]

I see no restrictions at all within legal ages.

[AviatorTom]

Age is just a number and age difference doesn't matter. If the two adult partners want to have sex, who cares what their ages are?

My father was 30 years older than my mother and their marriage lasted 40 years, until he passed away.

[SlothySlob]

If it's purely just sex, I don't think age gap is that important unless it's a kink. If you're talking about an actual relationship, it depends, like you expressed, on the mental maturity of both parties.

[kitty71]

Even for just casual sex mental maturity is important especial for justa kid of 19

[SlothySlob]

I don't think casual sex and just sex is the same thing. For casual sex you need to form some sort of friendship with the other person, whereas just sex you can buy an hour or whatnot.

[Reaper1985]

if their both of legal age to consent while being of sound body and mind. then why should I try to stop people from having sexual encounters with each other if they want to.

[Andres77]

If it's just sex and both are consenting adults... have at it.
My biggest age difference was about 20 and she was highly appreciative of my enthusiasm.

[one1wild00]

As you said given both are of legal age. I see no issue with them having sex or being in a relationship.

[Just4ThisNow2]

Although people of different ages are in different stages of their lives, there are multiple factors that far outweigh age differences. I've known many happy couples with large age differences between them.

[AimeeKyle]

No, not at all.

[EdwinLivingston_]

Age doesn't matter. If both of them are happy nothing else matters

[Twalli]

My view us if the older person was going through puberty or past puberty when the younger person was born, the age difference is too large.

[Pudsmucker]

Age is just a number. If you really love somebody. It doesn't matter.

[kitty71]

and if love is not included age still is just a number then?