Is it homophobic for a heterosexual woman to not want to date a bisexual man?

[Anonymous]

[TheSpaceGnome]

Your question is like asking "is it a phobia to not want a bacon cheeseburger because you don't like the taste of bacon?"

No, preferences are not phobias, phobias are irrational fears. You can find something to be gross, boring, unarousing, or otherwise unappealing, and not be irrationally afraid of it.

Not wanting to have sex with a given gender is not homophobia. Thinking all gay or bi people are out to get you would be homophobia, but pretty much no one thinks of gay people like some sort of boogieman.

Homophobia is just a term gay and bi people use to project blame on people for being straight, there aren't really any actual homophobic people short of maybe a few religious extremists.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Granted, in your case, you would be with 2 guys, so you wouldn't be doing anything gay. On the otherhand, he would be, and it brings the very rational fear that he might prefer men over you. So either way, not a phobia, because that sort of fear is valid.

[Bricealan]

I think not! A heterosexual woman would be putting herself at risk to be really hurt, by doing that. I was in a Threesome, before COVID with a couple in Fullerton, and the husband was bisexual. At one point her grabbed my penis, and although it did not freak me out, I took his hand off, and then wondered about how his wife felt about him doing that! She seemed okay with it, but of course I was not.
I wouldn't' think any 'straight' woman would want to have sex with a bisexual man when she didn't know where THAT penis had been prior!!!

[Biancam13]

I don't think so. It's only homophobia if you wouldn't be friends with them or think they are lesser people for some reason. You can not want to date certain people without being prejudiced against them.

[Asker]

Exactly, like I personally would never date outside my race. I’m not racist and I would associate myself and be friend someone of a different race, I just wouldn’t date them. I feel like it’s the same thing with a straight woman not wanting to date a bisexual man. I’m not saying it’s terrible to be bisexual and I just can’t stand being around a bisexual man, that’s not the case I just wouldn’t involve myself with a bisexual man in that way.

[Berethor]

You don't need to worry so much about being called homophobic.

[FancyPantz]

No it isn't. It's a preference.

[BeMuse]

There is no such thing as homophobia. People can choose to date whoever they please so long as the other person is in agreement.

[ColHathi]

Sounds like it, at least.

[Shedzij567]

Totally normal. In need of real man. One who is the man not one who sucks dick like a woman

[ArtemisSilver]

Hmm, not as such, but people make a lot of negative assumptions about Bi people.

[NorthwestRider]

My question is why get triggered over someone else sexuality? If he has the same views as you and you like him, why would you care if he's bi or not?

[Asker]

I mean I wouldn’t say it’s a trigger but more so a preference. If that’s homophobic then what is it called if a gay guy won’t date a trans? Or gays who don’t date bisexual men just men who only like men? Or lesbians who only date lesbians not women who are bisexual? It’s only considered bad when a heterosexual person has a sexual preference but it’s okay if any one from the LGBTQ has one which is what’s odd to me. It’s okay to prefer to date a man who only dates women. Nothing wrong or hateful about that.

[KostasKouvalis]

No, it's normal

[Straight2thepoint]

Forcing others to want u is psychotic.

[Shamalien]

Who gives a fuck

[Intothevoid666]

Not really but I know most women say this and it’s kinda massively hypocritical if u ask me. Sexual history isn’t allowed to matter until suddenly a guy fucks one other guy then suddenly women go crazy. But if men were to judge women the say way the world would explode. I’m not hating on anyone I’m just pointing this out.

[Birdlegs]

You have a point that is pretty hypocritical

[driven159]

no that's your thing

[Anonymous]

What if no guys would have sex with a girl if she ever did something sexual with another girl?

[Asker]

It’s not like they don’t have that choice but men are more willing to deal with a woman whose been with another woman. That’s just how it is. Doesn’t change the fact it’s still a preference for them to want to still deal with a woman whose been with another woman just as much as it is one for a woman to not want to deal with a man who she knows has been with other men.

[Asker]

Neither makes you homophobic

[Opinion Owner]

If only more women were straight and never did anything sexual with another woman.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't a straight woman want to be with a bisexual man is something I'd never understand.

[Anonymous]

Homophobic means fear of the same sex, not hatred of gay people.