Someone pls explain this to me cause I don't know how to react really?
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So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7years almost. We tried to have sex before in the past and I've tried to get him off by before too and it didn't stay hard. I've never experienced this in any of my relationships before. Well as of lately he's been rubbing his dick on me and etc but not attempting to have sex with me like just teasing for a couple days now. I've been thinking maybe he's a virgin cause his mom told me she's never seen him with another girl which is fine. Well I've been taken back on sex with him since he couldn't keep it up in the past I noticed none of us have tried anything and me if course thinking that he doesn't find me attractive or maybe there's something wrong with me I don't know. Well randomly today awhile ago he sends me these texts and I've attached what he said they're the ones in white. Can someone explain this to me I don't know if I should be offended or not I don't know how to react to this. He also sent me a text saying I can share.
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The part about the caramel is about the pie I made
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We also weren't talking about sex before he sent this it was random
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ZackBanGuru
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7 years is a LONG time to go without asking these questions especially considering you're 30 which means you dated him all throughout your 20's.
How do either of you get by without any sex? Have you ever tried different stimulations to get him hard? Did he go see a doctor about the errection thing? Do you have any reason to suspect he's gay or a cuck?
So many questions need answers before I can give you useful advise.
This whole "doesn't have to be mine" thing 7 years into the relationship is definitely alarming.
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Asker
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Yeah that's what I'm trying to figure out what to do you think about that it doesn't have to be mine thing
ZackBan
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I think if he went 7 years in a relationship with you and never had the urge to have sex it's a huge red flag and now him saying he doesn't care if someone else does it? It's either a sign to end it or to make the most of it. You can keep the relationship and have a sex life on the side with his approval. But it depends on what you're into
Asker
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Yeah not into that super weird though
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SkipPerkXper 5
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Is he using drugs? That can cause impotence. I got out of the hospital late last year and could not get it up. Even as i got better (slept with amazingly hot young woman in February), I could not get it up again until the next day.
drugs/medications are usually the culprit, but not always. Even now, I need to be warmed up (like many women). This was never the case before.
given the odd nature of those communications, I would suspect drugs are the problem. In addition, impotence is humiliating for men, so be careful with your language, and never share this with other women (they will tell everyone, and he will become dangerously angry)
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ZxoxoXper 4
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I agree w others. Cock ring may help, have u guys discussed sex? Fav positions, things that turn u both on? Things u want to try? Bc seems like he is either very inexperienced or has a low sex drive or maybe into watching or something seems off. But if u don't communicate u will never know and sounds like it will be a downward spiral if these texts are anything to go by.
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Shedzij567Xper 7
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Well my big D partner used to take long getting the huge d up, cockring plus pump helped me not spend so much time there
He is probably just nervous. Nervousness can kill an erection. If he's using a condom, a too tight condom can also cause him to go soft.
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wa1t1ngFutureXper 4
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i just love the way the two of you chat it's interesting you both look fun and entertaining to each other. I can not answer about sex. because I've never had sex
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BirdlegsExplorer
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Y’all been together for 7 years and you think he MIGHT be a virgin?🧐
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AvicennaMaster
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No, he’s just inexperienced. You’ll need to lead the way.
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Asker
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We also talked long distance before getting together and we both were dating and he was talking to other people and me too and well he made some comment like wasn't I sharing you before when you were with that guy twice I just feel it's all disrespectful
ImNoOne111Xper 5
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You sure he wasn't drunk? That's a terribly wrong behavior. I don't think you should be offended but ask him "what the fuck was you that time?". He should have an explanation. About not getting hard, 99% of girls think like you which is completely wrong. It's not about you, it's about him. He has Erectile Dysfunction (ED) which can happen for a couple of reasons and is so much more common then you think, and it is fixable. So ask him to see a doctor
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Straight2thepointXper 5
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Leave him ull dodge a bullet. Something is not right with him. Avoid the heart ache. U sound like a great girl. Run girl run.
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IsoUserExplorer
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To be perfectly honest your whole relationship confusing seems more like a friendship.
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In_TranceMaster
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I call bullshit
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Asker
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What you mean
ZygumExplorer
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He sexually weak, so he avods sex, tell him to get treatment otherwise you search other boy, no use to waste your sex life
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Anonymous
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You have to take charge, he seems like he's submissive.
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Anonymous
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He sounds insecure and maybe even enjoys being humiliated.
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Asker
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I don't know he's so mean to me too I pick him up and he's giving me the silent treatment and also telling me it wasn't disrespectful that I'm the only one that sees it as thay
Opinion Owner
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It's time to ask yourself if you want to be with someone that treats you so badly.
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