Does being too physically attractive as a guy make it harder to find casual sex, maybe that sounds counterintuitive but let me explain my theory?

[Intothevoid666]

Attractive men are just more attractive than attractive women. The maximum cap of attractiveness for a guy is higher than for a girl for a few reasons. One men are typically judged on a lot more things than women are such as income and intelligence and maturity and social skills. Also being tall as a guy is much better than being tall as a girl in terms of what it does to ur dating life. If ur like male model looking getting most women to believe u are interested in them is generally a losing battle and is going to take lots of effort, especially if the girls u r going for are also attractive because attractive women are typically more insecure and feel uncomfortable dating a guy more attractive than them. U need like perfect social skills to convince them ur genuinely interested in at least being their friend. Even if u do want to be their friend it’s like convincing them if that is a real struggle. U don’t text back quick enough or u text back too quickly or u say something that sounds dull it’s very difficult to get these things right and I’m not saying other guys don’t have this issue but it’s particularly bad if ur really attractive. What do u guys think of this?

[DaveJord]

Depends on the guy. I am 45 now, but in my younger years I was pretty hot. I never had a problem finding girls and at 45 I do even better, especially in my own age group. But always like women my own age. I would not say attractive men are more less attractive than women in genuine. I mean I find women far more attritive then men.

I think women in general are judge more harshly when it come to looks, and men are judged more harshly when it comes to personality and wealth. So in a way it all evens out between the sexes on that scale.

I just think most attractive people in general have inflated egos, because as an attractive person I never considered myself unattractive and that made me a lot more confident with the ladies. So if you're attractive and down to earth and you avoid the ego thing... then you do much better and find some really awesome women.

With that said lots of people have insecurities about a lot of things... and dating someone who is confident and attractive can really bring some of those insecurities to the forefront. I always start out asking a women early on, are you a confident person? Because nothing brings out a persons insecurities more than dating, and I am very confident man, so if you are a insecure person there is no way it will work out between us.

But I hear you on the lost battle of trying to get a women to trust you, but you can root that out pretty quick and move on to the next one without much trouble. You see for attractive successful men like myself there is always a next one... so it really hard to make the case that its harder for attractive people.

You learn to avoid the ones that you know are hung up on themselves or running from their own problems.

[turnpost]

whats your height?

[DaveJord]

I am 5'8

[turnpost]

Hey me to :)

[zagor]

Just not true. A very attractive guy, assuming he has at least average personality and social skills, will get women handing their hotel keys to him. Literally.

I went to dinner with a VGL friend (he also had a good personality and a good sense of humor) and three waitresses invited us to go clubbing with them afterwards.

[Intothevoid666]

Women on here have said they don’t want to have casual sex with a guy they really like tho.

[zagor]

I hope you have been around long enough to realize that what women say and what women do are two different things that aren't always related.

[Intothevoid666]

Average to below average women seem to go for it but attractive women are too insecure to possibly face rejection from who they like

[zagor]

Not all attractive women are insecure. I think you are putting too much faith in stereotypes. Fortunately the world is more diverse than that.

[Intothevoid666]

They are more insecure about their looks than unattractive tho? Why would anyone put effort into their appearance if they weren’t insecure about it?

[zagor]

For a naturally attractive woman it doesn't require much effort beyond basic hygiene. I was dumped out of a raft and washed down a river with a very hot river guide and she looked just fine afterwards.

[humpbackjack]

Dude I think your issue is more of an attitude or personality or something and I’m not trying to bag on you I just don’t think that you’re aware of how you come off. Maybe you’re going into it feeling defeated or lacking confidence or something because I’ve never had a problem pulling chicks I mean maybe it’s your approach. Maybe look at it like this no woman owes us anything if they’re not feeling you it’s no big deal cause she doesn’t even know you so don’t take it personal just dust yourself off and move on. But don’t give up and don’t let yourself become bitter

[Intothevoid666]

No one is simply naturally attractive there is at least some work literally everyone has to have put in

[Intothevoid666]

@humpbackjack I go into it with that attitude thank u tho.

[Intothevoid666]

No matter how naturally attractive u r u have to watch ur weight, u have to go to the gym, u have to take care of ur oral hygiene and probably whiten ur teeth a bit, u have to dress well, the list goes on. U see my point?

[Intothevoid666]

@humpbackjack where do u even get this from? Like why would u even say that?

[Bellafioref]

The one problem I see when an attractive guy would approach me is when they talk too mucu about themselves, their gym or diet routine, their self care, how they're amazing etc etc. I would be much more interested if they were funny, laugh about themselves and of course show his interest by always treating me nice, being a gentleman, complimenting me, etc, to make me feel like he's really invested and not just looking for someone to hook up.

My man is handsome, but his looks wasn't what made me fall in love with him. It was the way he was humble, his great sense of humor and self depreciative jokes, and ALWAYS making me feel like a princess and the only one for him 🥰

[Intothevoid666]

So u wouldn’t assume he isn’t that into u just cuz he is really attractive?

[Bellafioref]

No, as long as he doesn't behave the way I mentioned above. I literally met guys who would brag about how many women were into him and how easy it is for him to get laid and stuff. So just take time to speak to the girl and get to know her, be clear about what you really want from the beginning without sounding like a dick and you will be fine. She might end up wanting it too.

[Intothevoid666]

I feel like I need perfect social skills or something to talk to most women. Like I can’t be too interested but I also have to show enough interest and I can’t be dull and I can’t be too eager to have sex I don't know getting women to go on a date seems like waaay too hard for some reason and I don't know why.

[Intothevoid666]

And there is like no second chances

[Intothevoid666]

If they don’t like ur initial energy that’s it it’s ruined forever unless ur down for them to play hard to get until the end of time

[Intothevoid666]

Cuz if I ask them too detailed of questions that’s not good but also if I don’t ask enough questions that’s not good either. Like idgi. I am genuinely curious if they like philosophy or what types of music they like but when I ask them that I don’t ever get a good response it seems like. But if I text too quickly back that’s an issue but if I don’t text back quick enough also an issue like I feel like absolutely just walking on egg shells every time I try to talk to women.

[WhitneySnow]

I would think being an attractive guy would make it easier for him to get sex. But I haven’t had that much personal experience with guys like that so I don't know for sure.

[Intothevoid666]

Yeah I mean I would think so too but it seems like it makes them even more hesitant to go on a date with u cuz they assume I just wanna fuck them but I don't know

[WhitneySnow]

Huh. I didn’t know that. But again I don’t have that much experience with guys like that, especially older guys in their twenties. Sorry I couldn’t help.

[Intothevoid666]

All good at ur age most women still don’t know where they stand in terms of looks and tend to shoot as high as possible ime. But like at my age women tend to know full well where they stand and if they perceive u to be above their league they won’t feel comfortable dating u. Just my theory.

[WhitneySnow]

Oh ok. Thanks.

[MrNameless]

Nope, it would be easier. Women are more likely to have casual flings with attractive guys.

You need to be social/have game too of course.

[SapioLuna]

Physical attraction are for those who haven’t had that many experience with orgasms. For some reason, people think that being with someone hot can help them climax…biggest lie lol

[Intothevoid666]

Well I mean it def helps lol

[Shedzij567]

I didn't read all of it but being physically attractive would at least make me want to F a guy

[rachel776]

yeah i wouldn't care if i wasn't attractive enough for a good-looking guy if he paid attention to me

[Intothevoid666]

Women on here have told me they don’t want casual sex with a guy they really like. If being really attractive makes girls like him then why would women want casual sex with him?

[Intothevoid666]

@rachel776 so if u like a guy and he doesn’t like u back you’d still be down to just hookup?

[Shedzij567]

Depends on what I need

[Intothevoid666]

Care to elaborate?

[ArtemisSilver]

Paragraph breaks man, and no it doesn't lol

[IsoUser]

It seems to me like you're just a douchebag looking for a handout from some group of girls you're looking to ripoff.

[Intothevoid666]

Bad day huh?

[Jltakk]

As one of the women said, I'd think physical attraction gained you more casual appeal. Good take, though ngl

[Intothevoid666]

But most women aren’t looking for casual sex.

[Intothevoid666]

Women only want “casual sex” with someone they would possibly date

[RandomGuy1030]

Yes, a guy needs something "wrong" with him. Never ever make yourself look "perfect"

[dolemite89]

no of course it doesn’t make it harder girls wanna fuck attractive guys but if u lead with only ur looks girls don’t like that. No girl wants to be with a guy that thinks he’s as pretty as she is 😂 Guys always need to remember the saying that men like what they see women like what they hear. Learn to talk to girls, have some back bone, and don’t come off as thirsty and you should be good 👍

[Intothevoid666]

Ok but what if he is obviously prettier than her?

[Intothevoid666]

So what if I have lots of experience talking to women, have a back bone and try hard to not come off thirsty what do I do then?

[Anonymous]

Attractiveness doesn't matter really. Some people just have a sex aura or something. No matter my situation or current physical fitness I can get sex, from a quality woman, on any given night. Not sure why. I don't pressure or push for it. I just spend time with someone and we end up having sex.

[Anonymous]

Sure, if you're attractive, women will open their legs for you.

[Intothevoid666]

Average to below average women yes. Attractive women not so much

[Opinion Owner]

Who do attractive women want to open their legs for?

[Intothevoid666]

Generally No one they want to play hard to get cuz they are massively insecure. Or they’ll go for guy they don’t actually like and make the guy invest Tons of time energy and possibly money to have boring sex a few times.

[Opinion Owner]

You're right, they pole jump until they are 30 and then complain they can't find someone. Don't let them take advantage of you like that. Pussy is over rated.

[Intothevoid666]

Yep that’s what I’ve noticed and maybe they’ll like fuck that ex they can’t get over once I. Awhile or something too. But they actively avoid the guys they want cuz they are scared of rejection and only go after guys they don’t actually like and use as a self esteem boost free ride and emotional tampon. It’s mind blowing how insane it is but I swear that’s exactly what most attractive women do.

[Intothevoid666]

So if ur an attractive guy ur caught in the mix because these women are just gonna play hard to get with u while going for their emotional tampon in the meantime and the only girls that u can get are average to below average. Maybe I’m crazy but I swear that’s how it is.

[Opinion Owner]

To be honest, I'm attractive tall and strong. I can't tell what the hell women want. Some just want to get pregnant they want my genes. Some just want a tall guy. Some just want to fuck with a guy's mind, lead you on, play with your feelings. I would just go after a shy cute girl that isn't loud mouthed and a beauty queen or princess, you will get hear broken. And I would rather be alone than have casual sex with bitches.

[Intothevoid666]

Yeah the shy girls are much easier to date in my opinion. They play far less games

[Opinion Owner]

Yes good luck, don't get heart broken.