Is there a way to tell a guy I want sex without sounding too desperate?

[Anonymous]

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[Kitten2Kitten]

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Is there a way to tell a GIRL I want sex without sounding too desperate? 🤔🤔🤔
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It's harder to ask the question than to be asked.

Don't worry. I will make it my best effort to help you.

I have an extreme fear of being rejected, so I can imagine what you feel right now.



Here are the steps I would take:

PRIORITIES:
* Gain a deep trust with your partner
* Gain respect for each other

THE MESSAGE:
* Ask or text your partner, "I am looking for ways our relationship could grow. I am open to discuss any topic, even sex. I will not pressure you to discuss any topic."
* For the above, be careful to show you are looking for a stronger relationship. Mention sex, but don't underline it. Give them the choice
* It is similar to interviewing for a job -- you don't tell the boss that you are here for the money.
* It might be a good idea to appear more human in your message. So before sending, add something like, "I'm sorry if this comes out as bold or ambitious. I just want to make sure I'm not leaving you out on my thoughts and feelings for you."
* It's also a good idea to make sure you aren't in a requesting tone. Although, it can be difficult to do that.
* Don't tell them to be secretive. Instead, tell them what YOU will do, "Hey. Just wanted to let you know, if you want to talk about our relationship, I will gladly be as polite and careful as I possibly can."

After all your hard work, your partner will see that you have constructed your message with care and they will appreciate that you are willing to work hard to communicate your intentions, whether or not they decide sex is an option.



The full message:

Hey. Just wanted to let you know, if you want to talk about our relationship, I will gladly be as polite and careful as I possibly can. I'm sorry if this comes out as bold or ambitious. I just want to make sure I'm not leaving you out on my thoughts and feelings for you. I am looking for ways our relationship could grow. I am open to discuss any topic, even sex. I will not pressure you to discuss any topic. Thank you for understanding. I love you, even if the ❤ is still 💙.

~ Your name



Feel free to modify or copy, lol.

[ohshee]

Speak from your heart it's not that you're being desperate and nobody should ever look at it like that you're being honest is what you're being and that is the best way to be there has to be rules in no matter what you do in life just because you want something if he looks at you as being desperate you don't want to be with him because then he's going to use that against you you need to just be honest straight up and tell him why you want to have it and if he doesn't want to it's not that big of a deal move on because there will be coming else it will be a reason why you didn't have it but I'm sure the guy will respect you hopefully and understand where you're coming from now for me that is one of the most beautiful things in the world I knew you and you're going to do it to me I would respect you five billion times more I would like you five billion times more and deeper just because you took the initiative to say hey can I talk to you about something I think that is so beautiful and I wish more people were like you you have just made me grow quite a bit and I appreciate you for this question

[Aerissa_Jade]

Depends are you friends, in a relationship or just some random guy you've never talked to?

If your friends, you can joke about things... like hey lets go for a ride up the canyon (on a hot day) when up there... walk over and go play by the river or lake, whatever... get in a little, start to get wet and then fall in... opps all wet. Better take my cloths off and throw them out so they can start drying... in the meantime I'll stay here. He might do the same.

Then I can pretend I don't know how to swim. Hey can you help me learn to float on my back? and keep slipping and falling into him.

That could work if your in a relationship or really good friends and yeah... I've used that method before.

If you just want sex with someone you don't know, not really a good way to do that.

[nice-girl]

Tell him to come in your apartment and fix your computer or something like this. Even if he doesn’t know anything about computers ask him to help you carry your bags.
Offer him something to drink or eat as courtesy. Leave him there and go take a bath. Come back completely relaxed. Move slowly.

[FunkyMonkee]

Snuggle up to him for a while, let him know you feel comfy with him, if you get the chance, look into his eyes for a moment and then slowly get close enough to kiss him passionately.
I thought girls knew all this shit!

[Adam1978]

This is one of the subjects that doesn't require talk, just seduce him. If you aren't in the position to actually physically do that. You shouldn't really have sex with him.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Kiss him. That should help get it started. Once it's started, take his hands and place them on your body in a way that would suggest that you want him. Do the same with your hands on his body. Have fun.

[katiesmuff]

Dress like a sweet school girl and don't let him see your penis till after he is in your butt! Best way I know for a Troll to get it done!!!

[mstbooblover]

I sincerely wish to meet such a girl telling me explicitely she wants sex. That sadly never happened ever... Please ladies, just tell me if you're in for some intimate fun with me :0)

[LiamSawyer]

Start kissing, then rub his dick through his pants then hand in his pants wear a short skirt without panties spread those thighs inviting him in.

[Reaper1985]

ask if they wanna fool around or not. if they say no then just play it off as a joke. that or just be straight forward with what you want. if he's interested in you he'll likely go with it.

[RogerTomas4534]

Its desperate if you're pushy about it.

Tell him you want to hook up.

Just understand that being that forward with men can cause them to not want anything more than sex. Prepare yourself for sex, and nothing more.

[ChooChooHaha]

Generally yeah. Depends on the situation and how you'd exactly go about it.

[slatyb]

After you dating? Do you have a place of your own? Invite him in. Then..."Would you like to stay?"

[one1wild00]

If his hands are already wandering don't discourage him, open a button or two to let him explore more, give him kisses and start working on he's pants buttons or pulling his shirt off.

[Red_Arrow]

Look at him a lot and show him a lot of attention. He will show interest in you and You show him you like the attention. He will make it known he wants sex with you and you can then have sex without seeming desparate at all!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Pull the naked girl trick , call him home an be naked that's all you need to do don't ask don't tell just do it and maybe it will work

[Ms_Facesitter]

I would make out and grind a little. Gets them going. Then it's up to him. Where to go from there.

[Anonymous]

Just ask him to hang out and tell him you’ll make it worth his while. That will get the point across.

[Kuressento]

A good perfume would work, a lovely smells will get most attention. Wearing darker colors also helps with attraction. For example it more arousing to wear dress burgundy than pink.

[kamalravi25]

Yes ask him this.
Do you want to watch a movie together at my place.

[OnTheLevel]

Men can be very slow at picking up clues so you may need to be pretty direct. That being said, you can be direct without sounding desperate.

[bamesjond0069]

Just be desperate. Men love this. I know i do. I generally won't fuck a girl unless she is on her knees begging.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Just tell him you want the dick! Were guys! I mean if he hasn't already tried to hit it, than dude might stick around after.