Honestly it would come down to how my relationship was going , if things in my relationship weren’t going so well and her and I were having troubles I would probably lean into more on doing it and if I did it , that would be my answer to end my relationship with her, I am not going to keep it a secret , I already answered my own question that I don’t value my girlfriend if I can bang someone else but if things were good in my relationship and she respected and valued me and loved me then I would deny that hot girl and say I am flattered but my heart belongs to someone else , Cheating is a horrible thing to do to someone , people that can lie and cheat on their partner and keep it a secret are the biggest pieces of shit on the planet , I never understood people that can cheat and act like nothing happened and live with the guilt that they are a piece of shit , I cheated one time in my life when i was younger and tried keeping it a secret , that was my turning point of realizing how wrong that was for me to do , one thing I learned was the fact that I couldn’t look at her the same knowing what I did to her and realized she deserves better than me so I confessed to her and told her the truth that she deserves someone better than me , My thing is why be with someone if you can’t sacrifice for them the same way you want them to sacrifice for you? What would be the point being in a relationship with someone you truly don’t love and value? One thing I learned in life is it’s better to be honest and admit that you aren't a perfect person , when people have to lie to their committed partners you are only hurting yourself living a lie , life is to short to miss out on true love , I have never cheated again after that , but I been cheated on and lied to , so before I get in a committed relationship with someone I make it clear to her if she cheats on me just end it with me and move on don’t string me along for your selfish desire , my thing is if you can’t remove selfishness for me than I sure as hell can’t remove selfishness for you
42 guys (57% of male respondents) would never do it, even if no one would ever find out? Honestly that is difficult for me to believe.
It is mesmerizing with wonder, yes... lol
Why?
If I was in a closed relationship going steady Fully committed no I would not do it. So I answered A
But my biggest problem with the question is that I could never be attracted to an extremely physically SEXY attractive person WITHOUT having a bond and a deeper connection with them.
So honestly even right now in my marriage of convenience therefore an open relationship I still would not do it because I need to have a mental or emotional connection to the individual who is flirting with me.
NOW Plot twist I could have Answer E because...
If it was someone I was attracted to because of a connection with them mentally or emotionally, IF IT WAS a person who I share a bond and a deep connection with... Under those circumstances and in an open relationship where we have no ties to each other physically or emotionally but just financial obligation then yes without hesitation I would lay with the other person... Even under the presumption of no ties attached... Just Two lonely people having a moment of passion a moment to let go of pain and sorrow to be able to have at least one night after so many years of lonely nights in someones arms to make love to and hug kiss caress spoon and cuddle until dawn... YES My God YES!
Thank you for the MHO 😊
You're welcome, thank you for another great opinion :)
I chose the not cheat option because cheating wouldn't be an option, whether they'd be able to find out or not is irrelevant. I respect my partner too much to do something like this.
There once was a moment where we both felt a certain sexual attraction towards someone else and we talked about it. Set some boundaries and rules. And it worked perfectly. Communication is key. If you can't be honest to your partner then what's the point in being in a relationship?
So true!
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I've been in this situation more than once, and I never cheated. I'm not saying that resisting the temptation was easy - it was not - but I take loyalty very seriously.
In one case, me and my then roommate had thrown a party, and this was in my early 20s when drinking among my friends was common, and we had about 20 people over, mostly people we worked with and were all 19-24. One of those was a girl who I would talk and lightly flirt with when I would go to my roommate's job - we all worked closing shifts.
She came to the party and had some drinks and was one of the drunk girls showing off for the guys - making out with other girls and flashing her boobs at one point. My girlfriend was invited but canceled because she had a 6am shift, and so the other girl was flirting with me much more obviously at the party.
Around 2am, she was falling asleep, so I told her to go to my room and sleep, while the party carried on. Several hours later, everyone was gone (many being driven home) and I went to wake her up to drive her home. Upon waking her, she pulled back the sheets to reveal that she was naked and tried to pull me into bed with her.
My roommate was drunk and asleep and wouldn't have woken up if a freight train drove through the apartment, so I easily could have slept with this girl and no one would have known (assuming SHE kept her mouth shut), but I found her clothes, and got them and her to the bathroom, got her dressed, and drove her home instead.
Again, it would be a lie if I said I wasn't strongly tempted - I was! She was 20 and looked like a lot of the girls in Laurie's pictures - any guy would have been attracted to her. But I just don't accept cheating, even from me.
Has I been single, well, it would be a very different story...
But wait, have you flirted with said EVIL BITCH when you were with your girlfriend?
Someone being really attractive doesn't indicate good sex and there's always the possibility of it coming out when done in secret. There's never a 100% guarantee. Unless the relationship is already dying, it's not worth the risk. A satisfying relationship is worth a lot more than just sex, not to mention that if wanting to sleep around is something one wants, one should just aim for an open relationship and find a partner that's compatible with one's sexual desires
Salt in the wound much? "If the relationship is already dying." Maybe use that energy to fix the not dead relationship, or end it.
This world can, more or less on a whim, make you rich or poor, beloved or reviled, injured or crippled or dead. But it can't make you dishonorable. God Almighty stands helpless before the task of making a man dishonest if he does not consent to be.
Why would I throw that power away?
I knew they had an emoji with a halo on it for a reason... lol
I had that situation back in 2002 maybe?
I went to the lake to visit my old high school buddy who was down for the weekend.
It turns out his super cute sister was there and I had always thought she was hot.
Meanwhile my girlfriend was working at a convenience store and we had just had an argument, and we were mad at each other.
My friend's sister was making comments about how I was still cute, and she wanted to get laid while she was down. She said I looked good shirtless swimming that day. She even said that she wanted to get with me before she leaves.
I was still completely loyal to my angry, grumpy girlfriend who hated me at the time, and I left to go home to her instead.
I passed the ultimate loyalty test in my opinion.
Sounds like you did, yes :)
Yeah, I'm kinda proud of that actually, because it makes me feel good in 2 ways. I wasn't a guy who got hit on a lot so the fact that his sister wanted to fuck me is a big ego boost. The 2nd way I feel good is that I am a fucking good boyfriend!! LoL!
How many times did you wish you went for it?
Are you coming onto me? 😂 Seriously though, all I'd have to do is tell my man that a super hot guy is coming onto me and he'd be like go for it. If it was a girl, he'd be like... is she bi, I want join in to. We are pretty open like that. In reality I wouldn't cause I'm pregnant and working towards the family life.
Oh Wow! Congrads!! Do you know if it is a boy or girl yet?
A few more weeks, we also got married too... but thanks.
Wow, I am so thrilled!
My wife knows when I sleep with other women, though as we've gotten older she's lost interest in threesomes.
Oddly other women prefer the cheating husband to poly. If it was going to be a ONS I think I'd pass regardless though. Even if it doesn't insult, or make my wife feel bad, there's just too much to lose over a random fling.
Relationships bring tangible benefits, ONS and NSA don't. I've never been approached by a woman sexually and had it lead to anything other than ONS or NSA. So I'd do it, but only if we had more background than "You, me, tonight, that dick"
No cheating for this gal.
Me neither
My first boyfriend cheated on me. Not ok, fun, or good. Plenty of people asked me out. I didn't trust ANYONE, much less DATE. Hot or not, if you're monogamous, stay that way. ffs.
So sorry you got hurt :(
Don't be. I had the ULTIMATE VENGEANCE. I lived, and still live, so well. I ultimately let it all go, and I had the last laugh. He has no power over me.
And make no mistake, once he and I were done, I was just trying to feel better, cause I was going through the grief process, especially from that scenario, to ultimately heal. It wasn't even about him, it was about me.
I voted A, to me sex is meaningless if there is no emotional connection, and I don't care for meaningless sex.
I would know it, and that would be enough to make me feel miserable for the rest of my life. I've never cheated and I'm not going to start now.
I've actually had the opportunity once. I was working out of town for a month and became close with a beautiful waitress at a bar/restaurant I went to every night. She made it clear she was interested but I couldn't do it. It actually pissed me off because my wife at the time was accusing me having an affair. If she called and I didn't answer by the third ring, it was because I was fucking someone! So I told her about the opportunity I did have but of course, to her, that meant I DID do it. If I had it to do all over again, I would have fucked her cross eyed!
By the way, I voted yes!
even thought i do not see inherent worth in monogamy, i do see inherent worth in honesty and not even potentially hurting my partners feelings (especially on purpose) so no, i would not cheat
Hmmm... This question deviated my mind.
I would to think a lot. I would torn between doing or not doing it.
I wouldn't do it because I don't want it done to me.
So I guess I wouldn't☺
It seems like every relationship that I have ever been in I get tested just like that as I read your question the first thing that popped in my mind is to be honest and say sorry but I'm dating somebody without even a thought about it
That's just my choice it's who I want to be and that's what makes me who I am it's something very powerful that I believe in when you are true to yourself you are true to everything else and that's what I strive for it's the interconnection with yourself and who you truly are and want to be in this world
I would know, that eat me up and I wouldn't want to hurt my woman like that.
I'd move on.
The battle of love and lust... wants and needs.
A pastor once told us of the time a woman came into his office and sprawled herself on his desk. It's not like he was the hottest pastor around. You better be careful out there... people don't have your best intentions in mind.
No, never. The fact that he’s hot has nothing to do with it. For me it’s not the physical appearance that is attractive.
You can see that more girls have voted no. Girls have this opportunity every day.
I think you are right. There should be more to it than just physical appearance.
I'm pretty much asexual, so I don't think I would fall to their charms.
However, I did risk to "cheat" without sex, as in, getting very close platonically to someone and confide more in them than my partner...
Is that cheating, or could be considered as such?
None of us would miss an opportunity. The first thing we would do when we come home is to tell it all to the other one.
You want honesty Laurie, ok then, here's a first for me.. absolutely no joking around.. a straight and honest answer!!!
I'm already dating a woman who is way too hot for me, why would I do anything to risk hurting her or the relationship for someone after a cheap thrill?
I wouldn't. Besides, I have been cheated on many years ago and even the thought of doing that to another person (because I wouldn't be able to keep it from her) quite frankly sickens me.
The last paragraph. Thank you. KING.
And the first 2 paragraphs: XD XD XD XD Fantastic. I died as I read the second one. XD XD XD
@ChooChooHaha Thank you CCH
NO. Have some integrity and in real life there is no guarantee and even in this hypothetical situation it is still wrong
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