CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AND KINKINESS?
My dad was a little verbally abusive (maybe because mom was being shitty to him on some days) and had once hitting me with his belt that had rock studs on it and that’s all. Gladly he never hit my sister.
All physical abuse from mom ended when i was 10 (2010) and for my sister 9 (2015).
Now that i’m starting to become sexually active with my first boyfriend, i discovered that i’m so submissive and i like it when he is being rough with me, everytime. I’m so submissive to the point where i’m not even a switch at the slightest bit. It turns me on like hell, but also triggering me at the same time. I love it, but it’s making me cry later. I get the feeling of peace with my trauma with his roughness in sex, but i don’t quite get the “healing” although some say it could help me heal mentally. What’s worse is, i can’t cum if he’s not rough or fully dominating me. I feel crazy and fucked up in the head because of this. I wanna be able to cum when im doing the deed for him too. But i couldn’t. Therapy and counseling shit doesn’t do anything to me at all. Fucked up my brain in the end.
I wonder if this is caused by my trauma or have something to do with it with me being like this. Like i mean i hate my trauma but why is it the reason why i’m so turned on. I wanna be normal. I feel so sick. Fuck this.
Help me out?
Superb Opinion