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Is it ok that my father saw my boobs?

so my dad accidentally saw my boobs so i was changing in my room when my dad walk in and saw me top less and i think he look at it for a sec and my dad is drunk at that time so im so embarrassed what do i do know?
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this is kinda a big deal to me because in such a young age i got assaulted and nearly got raped by my uncle's when i was 8 and i am afraid that my father is gonna do that to me I know you will think i am being dramatic but i have a trauma about what happened when i was young and until now i blame myself and until now i still think it's my fault that i got assaulted and nearly got raped and father doesn't know this that's why i am asking y'all's opinions
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  • If he's your real Dad he's seen you completely naked plenty of times. When you were born you were ass naked, as a kid he probably had to change your diaper on occasion, wipe your ass, check on you in the bathtub to make sure you were not drowning or flushing things down the toilet and clogging the plumbing, when you were a kid you probably ran around the house naked like a mad man during some phase, he had to make sure you were potty tried, hold your naked body in a swimming pool in the back yard to try to teach you how to swim so that you didn't sink like a stone to the bottom of a pool or some other body of water and end up dead, he may have had to check on you in a dressing room to make sure you didn't put your clothes on backwards or something, etc. He's your Dad, unless he's a pedo seeing you naked isn't the end of the world, he probably was just trying to tell you dinner was ready or your friend is at the door and you happened to be naked... So now he's like great, now she's going to be weird and not talk to me for a month... This is awkward. Maybe next time, try locking the door. Your Dad has enough on his plate trying to make sure you make it to adulthood and don't end up in prison, on a stripper pole, drugged out walking the streets trying to make money selling your body, doing internet porn or whatever... Give the guy a break, he's probably working really hard to make sure you eat and don't screw up your life.

    • And guess what when he gets really old and feeble, you will probably have to do similar things like make sure he eats by fixing him meals, you might have to pick up his body and put him on the toilet, you might have to wipe his butt, help him shower, help him get his clothes on, etc. If he loses his mind he might even walk around naked, pee in a garbage can, or you might get calls from the police from a silver alert that they found him wondering aimlessly in a park... if he gets really old and can't do things himself the rolls will be reversed... You're family, don't make each other's lives harder than they need to be.

    • *It's your family...

Most Helpful Guy

  • So much depends on how your dad behaved when he realized that he had invaded your privacy. Did he quickly leave your space? Did he act in a way that made you feel vulnerable or violated?

    There's no way to un-see what he saw. Accidents happen. All of us hope this was an accident and that he behaved respectfully and will never do anything to cross this line, again.

    Think about how he acted. Hopefully, you're comfortable that it was an accident. If not, it's important for you to talk to someone. That could be a councilor at school or the nurse. It's the first step to healing. Either way, get help for your uncle did. That's horrible. And, it's still hurting you today.

Most Helpful Girls

  • As a woman, I certainly understand how you’re feeling! I would be mortified if my dad saw my breasts accidentally. But accidents do happen. Have you talked to him about it?

    I would at least request that he allow you to get a lock on your door for privacy seeing as you’re a woman now. Or at the very least, have the courtesy of knocking before entering.

    Hopefully he was too drunk to remember!

    • @limariolmaol Sorry to hear about your uncle at eight. When I was nine or ten, my mother fondled me, and I still cannot forget it. @wavvygurl Yes, getting the air cleaned is the best for both parties here, I guess.

    • we didn't talk about i hope to that he didn't remember

    • @Mikeybear i hope you're ok

  • I fully understand that...
    Have you told anyone you trust, like you mom or a grandparent?

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  • I dont really see any issues really.. i always been used to walk around topless at home. Maybe not when i was 12 ish.. i think it gets more casual after a couple time at first i was also scared or over thinking it.. don't worry about it.. he is your dad!! He definitely will look but as same as he looks at your hair or dress when you get a new one.

    • Seeing is not bad. It is happens normally in many families and often in families that are comfortable when nude at home. Some adults have sexual interest in their children and that is bad, but most do not. I am one who has had to care for my adult daughter including bathing and I have absolutely no sexual interest in her.

  • That would make me nervous too…If my Mom saw my thing like that. That would never happen to me because I’m one of those paranoid door lockers. Locking the door when I’m in the yard even…locking the door when trying to use the bathroom 🚽….

  • in families it is often common for members to see things people outside the family normally do not see. In many families members often see each other naked once in a while, and in some families nudity is common. He may have looked for a longer time that you would expect just because it surprised him to see you in a state of dress he normally would not see.
    What bothers me is that you never told him about the experience with your uncle. Parents are protectors of the family and he should have been told so that he could address that situation. I hope that you at least told your mother.
    I really think that there is nothing to fear from him, but I also recognize that you had an experience that scares you. If you can't talk to your mother about it, perhaps a school counselor could help you.

  • He walked in on you and YOU'RE embarrassed? Nah Nah he's the one who should feel embarrassed and perhaps you should tell him in future, when he's been drinking you're going to lock your door.

  • Sorry this happen to you. 😿

  • Yes, it's nothing at all. Drunk, sober, so what?

  • Well it was by accident although he never should of just walked into your room without knocking or asking if it was OK to come in.

  • Just ask him to knock before entering. Don't blame him or ruin your relationship with him based on what someone else did.

  • Wow! I’m so sorry that happened to you at such a young age! I can say though that I doubt that your father was being pervy when he looked at your breast. Especially if he was drunk. You should not blame yourself and I do sincerely hope that this doesn’t turn in to a problem with your dad! Most men are terrified of the day that their little girls become woman and don’t know how to treat them after that point. But i think he was just realizing that his daughter was growing up and I have a feeling that he will leave you alone more now.

  • In the first place, if he was drunk, he probably won't even remember it. Secondly, if nothing ever changes between you two because of it, there's nothing to worry about. Thirdly, as your nipples are the only parts you girls are interested in hiding, for some reason, and he's probably already seen them dozens of times when you were little. I seriously doubt it's any kind of a big deal. Lastly, it's just your dad! I really doubt he's gonna get horny over seeing your nipples.

    • Why the hell would it have been YOUR fault?

    • because o think if i didn't talk to them it wouldn't happened

    • So, if I never talked to my next door neighbor, Norbert Carr when I was 13, he would've never molested me when I was 14?

  • I understand why you’re scared, but don’t let that fear control you. Not all men are like your uncle. There are a lot of good men out there and right now all you can do is trust that your dad is one of them. If not then you need to reach out to your school counselor, not strangers on the internet. I know it’s scary to open up in person like that, but your counselors are trained for situations like these. You can trust them.

    • i am scared to tell my family what if they will never believe me and blame me for it i am think like this because my family is toxic please understand

    • that's why i ask here in this site because i have no one to talk about my situation

    • If there’s anywhere you should feel secure, it should be at home. So if you continue to feel unsafe, please reach out to your student counselor. No one deserves to live in fear inside their own home.

  • I mean... it's not like he hasn't seen boobs before. Boobs aren't sexual organs either. I'd say it's probably not a big deal.

  • He is your dad. There shouldn't be anything sexual. It's like going to a gynecologist. And it's important that you tell your dad what happened in your past so he can protect in case something happens in the future.

  • Your fine, I'm guessing it may have been an accident. all gals have boobs of one shape or another so your body is a female, he's seen female body before if he is your dad. he may like what he saw but if he is a good dad he will ignore it and not comment on what he saw. so don't worry about it. As I've aged it took me a long time to get over every random accidental peek of my body to and oh well, its a guys body they've probably seen one like it before. in your case it's a gals body, they've probably seen one before, no big deal.

  • He's seen a lot more than your tits, daughter.

  • It not uncommon for accidents to happen but in you situation I would talk about it with your dad along side another adult you feel safe with. Also have you had any therapy for what happened with your uncle?

  • Most dads see their daughters naked at some point or other. Not a big deal.

  • He was drunk, so chances are he won't remember anyway, just be more careful from now on.

    • Very sorry to hear, does your mother know what happened?

  • It was a drunk accident. If this was the only time it’s happened the only thing to worry about is your dad’s drinking in general.

  • If he was drunk, more than likely he may not remember.

    • i hope to

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