My whole life I've been told to wait till marriage.. Is it really bad to just do it before?

[Anonymous]

[genericname85]

i'd argue it's bad to wait till marriage.

allow me to make a small analogy. for me, marriage is like the final game to a team sport competition. would you take part in a team sport competition without ever practicing with the partner you chose, to see if you can even work as a team? no. so why would you do that with sex.

i mean in a marriage, there's so much more on the line than just winning or losing a team sport competition. so you should even less wanna get into this unprepared.

[genericname85]

by the way: the standard to not have sex "before" marriage comes from a time, where people married 13 year old girls and there was no birth control. so that was a reasonable standard at the time.

[Berethor]

If you do it without marriage then what reason have the guy to marry you?

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/why_buy_the_cow_when_you_can_get_the_milk_for_free

[summiter]

It is not bad to do it before. I had a lot of sex before marriage to learn about it (and to have tons of great orgasms) However it is a personal choice that only you should make not what others tell you.

[integrale77]

It's not bad to do it.
It's your choice as to what you do.
If you wait till your wedding night and find your incompatible in some way it's going to be a unfulfilled relationship.

[Bardish]

No. Full stop.

[Avicenna]

No, it’s not bad to lose your virginity before marriage. It’s your life and it’s up to tou I’ve it as you see fit.

[SlothySlob]

Depends where your values lay. If you value having sex more than having a relationship with someone compared if you are already in a meaningful relationship with someone.

[exitseven]

I dated somebody that was waiting for marriage and I went with her for 4 years. I would not do it again.

[Johnagain]

In my opinion, not really bad to do it before...
You got to play the field a little; put your toes in and test the water; sample what's on the menu.

[Tztop2006]

It's not bad to do before, it's actually better to do before because what if you find out they aren't great in bed do u want to be married for life to little to no sex.

[jahaims]

That depends on your values

[EdwinLivingston_]

Not bad. It's upto you. Some people loves to have sex with only whome they share their whole life. Some do give less importance to the purity of sex and seek for pleasure before marriage.