What are some reasons a girl would think a guy is not interested in having sex with her?

[Anonymous]

What are some reasons why a girl would think a guy is not interested in having sex with her or getting intimate with her?

[its_amelia_c]

There are a number of reasons.


1. It could be his morals and values in life and if he has expressed these to her.
2. It could also be that he is not affectionate around her and doesn’t show affection.
3. The way he treats her, I guess that goes with number 2, affection. If he just treats her like a bro, friend, one of the boys, like he’s not that interested in her.
4. That he’s shy, not very experienced, distant, removed if she shows interest in him or affection towards him.
5. He avoids being in situations that could lead to intimacy, lead to sex, getting hot and heavy.
6. He always brings his boys around, again, avoids being alone with her.
7. He’s never been with anyone before.


Those are just a few examples, there are obviously more.

[Asker]

Number 5 is an interesting one. Would that also include a situation where the girl has invited/asked the guy to come round a few times but for whatever reason he hasn't managed to go even once?

[its_amelia_c]

Bingo! If the girl has asked on a number of occasions and this offer has been rejected multiple times, she is going to question why. She will then likely come up with various scenarios or ask her gfs for reasons why. This will lead to this being one of them.

[Asker]

Thanks. The thing is, she has invited me round multiple times but I don't know whether it's on a friendly basis or not because she asks so casually. She has given me her address multiple times. I'm not sure if she actually knows she's given it to me multiple times before or whether she's that forgetful.

[its_amelia_c]

Well there is only one way to find out isn’t there!! Go, find out once you actually accept her invite! I mean why not, what are you afraid of? You have nothing to lose!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Some guys are interested in just sex and they'll have sex with any woman, even ones they don't really like or want to be in a relationship with... Maybe the woman/women aren't sure if they're interested in more than just sex...

[Ghostluck]

I don't have sex with any woman, ever. Especially because it's her body, her choice. So if I get her pregnant, I have to deal with that it is completely her choice whether or not she has a baby? Hell no, no sex then, period. Strictly oral for me, if a woman is not down with that... see ya, I'm out. If a woman thinks I don't want to have sex with her, she is spot on, I don't.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You never heard of condoms? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Slartybartfast]

@Brainsbeforebeauty condoms %99 effective. Meaning if you have sex ten times you have a one in ten chance of getting pregnant... Condoms are better at preventing diseases than contraception. Men need better options.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Slartybartfast I agree men need better options, but you'd still have "some"men that wouldn't use. As several stated when I did a post about that

[Slartybartfast]

@Brainsbeforebeauty and we have some women who deliberately try to get pregnant (extremely common in my highschool by the way ). Lie about birth control (my first girlfriend tried this in fact I refused to have sex without a condom she cheated and got another guy to knock her up which was her plan from the beginning!!!)

[Slartybartfast]

@Brainsbeforebeauty the sad part is I wanted children but as a Man I know I don't have any legal rights to my children and am just a walking ATM which is one reason why I gave up on women entirely at 30. I don't date them, I don't sleep with them and I try not to work with them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Slartybartfast but because you chose/choose to believe all women are that way, you can't judge other people by the actions of "some"... My husband had a good partner, was in his childrens lives till he passed... And I had a good man (I still grieve the loss after almost 9 years) And, exactly why I don't judge "all" men as bad for the "some" that treated me or other women bad

[Slartybartfast]

@Brainsbeforebeauty power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Until there is some equality in dating and especially in family courts my only option is one of avoidance.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Slartybartfast if that works for you... Dating/relationships isn't about power and control... People just try to make it that way🤷🏼‍♀️ But then that's not a real relationship... Not to me anyways... Why do people try to control each other, or have power over the other, instead of just loving each other🤷🏼‍♀️ some people get it, some don't... I'll leave you to decide which camp you want to reside in

[Kreneman]

She knows for a fact that she is not physical attractive, she's know what type of attractiveness that gets him, she have low self esteem, he is gay or she doesn't find him attractive at all.

[MrNameless]

The guy isn't making a move. Not flirting, not attempting to kiss her, doesn't want to spend time with her or doesn't seem interested by the way he is talkig to her

[Flower7]

If he won’t see her at all.

[lilyanony1]

He's already in a happy relationship.
He's got a kink, he doesn't think she'll like.
She's not submitting to him.
He's looking for something different to her (casual /exclusive)
Erectile dysfunction.
He just doesn't fancy her...

[On_cloud_wine]

Maybe she makes you think that because she had a bad experience and thinks that if you got intimate with her, you’d find her appalling or smelly or really bad at sex.

[dustybiker]

Not showing interest.
Not listening.
Canceling on her.
Guys who are interested tend to have a look in their eye. Much easier to read that one thing then try to read other behavior which could be manipulating.

[DermalPunch]

Oooooh do describe this look!

[dustybiker]

@DermalPunch It’s like they pull up short, as if you’ve impressed them. They look into you, absolutely present in the moment thinking about you. Then they break into a small smile if caught.

[MagicCarpet1]

That it hurts our feelings to think about all the men she slept with.

[possumpi26]

He's either gay, can't get it up or completely repulsed by her. Another reason is that the guy has an STD and has simply sworn off sex for fear of spreading whatever he's sick with.

[lovebigwomen19]

I agree with some of these people are saying if you don't show the guy affection then they think the woman doesn't care and sometimes it's just if you do the same position too long the guy gets bored

[possumpi26]

Lovebigwomen19 yeah, but I was under the impression that the asker was meaning, reason for why a guy might not want to have sex with her for the first time. A guy who's not interested for various reasons will not make a move.

[Whatever2929292]

Well if someone is a Christian and is waiting until marriage. If someone is just a random person minding their own business. I can speak for me personally. I don't think about having sex all the time including if I see a beautiful woman.

[DiegoO]

*She may think she's not attractive enough for him.

*She may think he's gay*She may think he likes another woman

[KrakenAttackin]

That he's heard a rumor her pussy smells like rotten fish. No kidding.

[sasquatch111]

When he calls her "bro" and tells her that she's now his friend.

[MurkeyShadow]

Not everyone Is interested In getting Diseases.

[lovebigwomen19]

I won't know because I tried to please my woman before she pleases me

[Robbylee9]

Respect some men still beleave that a women is my best friend first and she women want the same first not all women and men are the same

[zikooo]

Often girls do fhat

[Anonymous]

She knows she has a high body count and has been with so many men.

[Anonymous]

Our US president can't tie his shoes.

[Anonymous]

Telling the girls he likes, wants to hook up with/ had sex before. I can be sure that i am new bro to him.