I don't want to, but I'm afraid I have to... What do I do?

[JHNS98]

I'm scared and it's becoming really unhealthy. I'm struggling with this fantasy about a friend that I also have/have had a crush on.

I got this crush after having known her for 18 months or so, but I knew from her Facebook profile that she was in a relationship, so I couldn't pursue her. This broke my teenage heart, as you can imagine.

I got through most of this on my own, but after more rejections, I would dig it up in my mind again. I've already told her about this, which she didn't care much for, but I think we're fine now.

As I was going to sleep one night, I reflected back on a moment when we were alone with each other in a classroom, applying a sexual fantasy to this moment. This caused difficulties for me later on, as evident by the title of this question.

I can't think of a solution to this. If I keep doing nothing, I will deteriorate further. But if I try to even kiss her - let alone touch her - she wouldn't let me and it would definitely break our friendship.

I am going to take therapy for this, but can I overcome this urge in any other way? Is it the old adage "get over [someone] by getting under someone new"?

[WhitneySnow]

You need to remind yourself that she is your friend and she doesn’t like you that way

[JHNS98]

I already know that, and that's the issue. I wouldn't call it limerence, but almost... I do know the context of the past and all that, and I also value our friendship. This is what bothers me.

[WhitneySnow]

Now I know what limerence means. Thanks.

[JHNS98]

Just found this:

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLomHSMe/?k=1

... which makes me doubt that it actually is limerence that I suffer from, I don't feel like all the parent-related stuff applies to me..

[Changiis07]

So you’re trying to get over someone correct?

[aguyliknon]

If you don't take the chance u will never know.

[JHNS98]

She's basically had the same boyfriend for almost as long as she has known me. The boundary is clear, and I don't want to break them up, nor do I want to hurt our friendship more than I already have from when I told her about the initial crush situation.

[aguyliknon]

Well cum over we can talk

[JHNS98]

She doesn't want to talk about it. She didn't like it even when I told her. Besides, I don't want to manipulate girls/women in general, especially not her.