My boyfriend and I are no longer virgins, and now I feel so guilty. Was I at fault?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I (we are adults) have been dating for 2 years, and last night he wanted to get me drunk for the first time, so we were drinking. I wasn’t waisted because I was aware of what I was doing, but at the same time I felt like I had no control over my decisions and words.

We went to bed, started making out, and then I got on top of him and we started rubbing with clothes on… he told me after a few minutes that “we could do it if you want to, but i dont have a condom” After this I had a break down, I felt so guilty, maybe 20 minutes later we were making out again, and he started rubbing my pussy and I showed him my boobs. This is when we had sex, neither of us cummed or orgasmed, so about 30 minutes after he started rubbing me and then master-bated. (We were both virgins before this)

Now I feel so so guilty. I feel like I forced it on him, and made him do it. He told me he wanted to, but didn’t want to instigate it and risk hurting me, but I can’t shake the feeling that it was all my fault and I forced him into being sexual with me. I don’t know how to get over this.

Honest opinions... Was I the one at fault? What do I do now?

[summiter]

It is not your fault. You did not make him put his dick inside you. Next time.. slow things down a lot. Have tons of condoms around all the time (one less thing to worry about). Maybe start out just getting naked a few times and have some fun orgasms with fingers, handjobs or oral.

Do toy want to have sex with him again?

[Red_Arrow]

Nobody was "at fault". You both wanted to do it and you did it. Kind of stupid with no birth control. Now that you have done it, you will do it more in the future, so get a birth control plan and use it. Condoms or pill, whatever you want, just use it to be safe.

[LazerBean]

Everyone is responsible for their own actions.

[Berethor]

It's your both faults, he was getting you drunk and you agreed to drink.

[mrmonogamous]

Neither of you did anything wrong. No one was forced, coerced it lied to. It’s natural and normal. Remaining a virgin is a personal choice, but it had its roots in medieval times when it represented a woman’s value. I’ve been with 5 women in my life. I married the fifth almost 34 years ago.

[ImNoOne111]

No. You two just had a little fun together! Maybe take a look at plan b to make sure nothing bad happens but otherwise everything is fine, no one was forced, you both were drunk and had a little fun, take it easy

[baserunner611]

No, it not your fault.

[Luckycharms12]

Both wanted to do it. Drink hurry things up

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Not at all. You are not responsible. No guy will ever feel guilty to have sex.