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- I met this guy off a dating app (not Tinder)
- his bio says he's looking for friends or something casual
- in my bio I said im looking for friends and we'll see where the friendship goes
- we talked for a bit there was 4 days of conversation between when we matched Friday and we hung out today
- today we hung out, I wanted to tagalong as he worked (he does delivery)
- we has a great time, there were 2 times when sexual conversation came up, both were kind of initiated by him
- he asked what I was looking for, I said not a friends with benefit thing, friends and if we vibe that well something more
- way after the conversation ended, out of the blue asked what friends with benefits is, and I told him
- at some point he asked how many relationships I had, then clarified to say he meant to ask how many sexual relationships I had
- I answered and asked why he asked, he said he was curious how women were nowadays
- when I got inside he was like if I were to be your boyfriend id need to know how you are sexually
- I replied I dont need a boyfriend, but if I did have one I would ofc have sex with them
- he said I wouldn't want to have a relationship title until he knows the sex is good
- I again said I dont need a relationship and im not pressuring him to be my boyfriend
- he said but he was horny the entire hangout because of my personality
- I said he is attractive but I dont know how comfortable Id feel having sex outside a relationship
- he said we would hang out more before we would ever do a thing anyway
- I said sex leads to pain if it doesn't work out
- He said so does a relationship
- I reiterated I dont need a relationship and both sex and relationships lead to the opposite of peace which is the my core principle in anything (if I can't have peace I dont want it at all)
- He said he thats true and we'll "just go with the flow"
- I reiterated I dont need a relationship and both sex and relationships lead to the opposite of peace which is the my core principle in anything (if I can't have peace I dont want it at all)
- He said so does a relationship
- I said sex leads to pain if it doesn't work out
- he said we would hang out more before we would ever do a thing anyway
- I said he is attractive but I dont know how comfortable Id feel having sex outside a relationship
- he said but he was horny the entire hangout because of my personality
- I again said I dont need a relationship and im not pressuring him to be my boyfriend
- he said I wouldn't want to have a relationship title until he knows the sex is good
What Girls & Guys Said
0 2Think that’s a long time line
my bad
Have you given this a lot of thought?
not really, but I am a bit annoyed. he could really have just been horny though. i dont know how hard it is for a guy to control his urges
Well when a guy is horny then def he can say things he might not say otherwise
You were not horny?
I don't know tbh. But I want something genuine
If you don’t know then better find out
then the answer is no. im on my way to cut this off, sex shouldn't have been in the picture when I specified "friend", unless he really couldnt have controlled himself.
His bio said he wants something casual. That’s him saying he wants sex and no relationship. Pay attention to that when you next match a guy
He actually said he didn't even know what casual meant. The fact of the matter is that we both had the friends tag indicating that we were both looking for friends, so no I dont think the mistake was on matching. Especially since I reiterated I was looking for friends later on.
He lied. He knows that casual means sex. He did that hoping you wanted sex too
Do you want only sex or romantic relationship?
relationship tbh, but thats only if we get along well, which me and him do. id also be fine staying friends with him
You can ask this question your boyfriend