Can’t tell if I lost interest in sex or just the guy?

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Been having sex with the same guy for about 9 months. We hadn’t had sex in two weeks and I wanted to have sex with him. (I had feelings for him so I mostly just wanted to see him. I also started having feelings for a new guy.) Yesterday, as soon as he puts it in I only enjoyed it for the first five seconds. We had sex for about 10 minutes and I wasn’t enjoying it the whole time. He wasn’t doing anything wrong or anything different from the other times but this time I just wasn’t enjoying it. I felt more pain than pleasure (which I never felt before). I was doing all I could so he could hurry up and release. Two weeks ago I enjoyed it and felt good afterward. I felt like if it was another guy i probably wouldn’t enjoy it either. After sex I had a awkward drive home. I still feel disgusted and regret doing it and think I won’t ever plan on doing it again. I never had this feeling before. Any idea what is going on?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

Sometimes when you're with somebody and when things are really great you feel the energy between the both of you and that you are connected and there is no denying that your other because that feeling is so beautiful it is one of the most intense beautiful feelings you will ever feel when making love there comes a moment we're right before you're going to come you become clairvoyant you can almost read each other's thoughts you don't have to say a word you both know that you're going to come and in that moment you talking to that person without the opening your mouth you're just using your brain in that moment is when two energies become one and so many people mistake that as love because they've never felt it before and it's not it's when two energies connect and it is so powerful it does feel like love we are made of atoms an atom's broke down equals energy I believe if our body is our Temple it houses something very special our soul or spirit and our energy are energy is what carries this over to the next life it also guides us and it warns us if you pay attention sometimes with energy connects with somebody else and you break up you are sick to your stomach you can't eat can't sleep and it's unlike you it's because it's your energy that is falling in love and it misses it morons that other energy that's why it's so hard to get through a breakup but there are times where that energy feels something is wrong and doesn't want to have anything to do with that person or that energy and you can just walk away that easy

Be quite honest with you I can feel your energy from right here and you are not done with sex something that you're going through I think the if you paid attention to things around you you probably know a lot more things that are going on than you dunno meaning something has happened that you know about without actually knowing it yet in time you will find out but you were just listening to your intuitions but I think that you are probably a very good lover and I think you probably enjoy making love with the right person and for some reason I don't think this is the right person but I know it's not you know it's not anyway I hope you understand what I was trying to say it's kind of hard to explain it it's very kind of crazy but it is true and if you pay attention more to yourself you will understand a lot more about it I would also say that you were gifted in a couple different ways and I think that's cool so pay attention more to your thoughts because they are telling you something

summiter · Accepted Answer

Try slowing down and having some slower sex. It sounds like it is a quickie (which is ok for guys but not ok for girls all the time) How often were you two having sex before this started?

Use some lube next time ... with this guy or a new one... it makes ex waaay better.
Did he do a lot of foreplay with you... some is good more s better!

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I think going through with it when you were in pain and not into it is prob why you feel disgusted and could be interfering with your feelings on sex overall, temporarily. In general, If you are in pain and not into it, it’s ok to stop then assess yourself in your own later. If you were in a hike and someone hurt themselves you wouldn’t expect them to keep going just for you, it’s ok to have diff needs.

and I just think that’s too intimate a thing to he just doing to get it over with and I don’t think it necessarily means you’re off sex tho maybe “off sex for now”

20yearsolder · Answer

I'm guessing you didn't lose interest in sex, I'm pretty sure you lost interest in the guy that you've been fucking. You're ready for something new

exitseven · Answer

It sounds like a physical problem since there was pain involved.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Lifelong Monogamy is NOT NATURAL. Our biological predisposition is to be with many partners. They've brainwashed everyone that being with one partner for life is the quintessential form of relational bliss, only to find out it's a NIGHTMARE. This is one of the reasons why, you will eventually stop having sex.

Read the book SEX AT DAWN by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

If you felt pain be sure to check in with the doctor in case there is an issue. If that checks out you may have felt guilty having sex with one guy while being into another guy

Sparkie460 · Answer

It sounds like you are bored with him. Tell him to try spicing up the sex.

Philyouup · Answer

fickle and young? needing new dick? .

Sam_25 · Answer

Babygirl time to hire new guy...

Pudsmucker · Answer

Maybe you are having sexual burnout.

OddBeMe · Answer

So…here’s your problem: you’re not cumming. Your clit isn't getting stimulated right. Sometimes it takes different approaches. I dont think its 100% psychological.

Make him go down on you or do the dishes first.