Girls, Would you date and/or marry a guy who can't have sex?

[insteadfew]

Would you date and /or marry a guy who can't provide sexual pleasure to you with his penis although he would do everything else he could do give you sexual pleasure and orgasm?

[SueShe]

If I was into dating or meeting men, then would ONLY date a guy that is not into sex.

The reason is simple.

- No STD/STI
- No cheating
- No obligation to have to perform
- No lewd talking/hints/innuendos
- No excuses for not wanting to be intimate
- No jealousy

Those are just a few of the advantages of not having to be physical with another person.

Since I have no intentions to marry or have children, this setup would be ideal. You can still have a partner that is not focused on sex/pornography but that you can enjoy the really important things of life with.

[insteadfew]

You plan to stay single and alone forever?

[SueShe]

That is the intention indeed.

[insteadfew]

Life would be really really boring and depressing if fully alone forever especially in later stage of life when parents depart

[SueShe]

That is true but if you know how to get busy and occupy yourself, this is something that you can live with. Also, being alone does not mean not having friends.

[insteadfew]

But friends have their own life commitments and family, hence they won't be able to provide much help or company at thay stage of life

[AssholeNumberOne]

So you partners.

[AssholeNumberOne]

*So do partners.

[Texasgal95]

I feel like if him not being able to keep it up is a dealbreaker than you’re in the relationship for the wrong reason. He erectile dysfunction can and will happen sometimes and you can’t always control it happening but thankfully there’s medicines and stuff I can help with

[insteadfew]

But don't keep hope that medicine will help him get erected. Then?

[Texasgal95]

True but I don’t really bother than y’all should go talk with a therapist and a doctor

[Screenwriter]

This is a genuine problem.

You could certainly love someone who couldn't have sex with you penis/vagina. And at some point in a long-term relationship, this could happen due to age or illness. But starting off early on, it's a disappointing proposition to never consummate in the ordinary manner.

BUT, I think I'd have to be IN this relationship to consider it. A "what if" is too vague.

[youngmix]

Does he have fingers and a tongue? Can he hold a dildo? Does he want to make me orgasm?
If the answer to all of these questions is "Yes.", then we're good.

Also, if he can still orgasm, despite not being able to ejaculate, then even better. I could still lick and suck his body.

[insteadfew]

Yes he uses everything else z fingers mouth tongue and dildo to sexually please you... but he remains flaccid throughout it. Then? You'd be ok with not having actual sex with a penis and never see or feel his semen... and not have kids?

[youngmix]

Experiencing his penis and semen is not necessary for me to feel great. Can I be with other people, like group sex? Could he be into swinging or orgies or polyamory?

[insteadfew]

No way. Not allowed to have sex with anyone else. Then?

[youngmix]

Yeah, still okay.

[Miss_Laura]

If i can have sex with other people then definitely not a problem. lmao

[insteadfew]

Obviously you " can" ... but would you have sex with other men?

[dustybiker]

A relationship without sex is a friendship. Woman like sex too. It would be unfair to marry someone without it. If something happened after marriage then it becomes the other persons choice. I feel the same with switched rolls too.

[insteadfew]

There is nudity, naked hugs cuddles licking you sucking boobs and everything else... how is this no sex and friendship?

[dustybiker]

It’s all in what a person wants in a relationship. That I feel works more for people already married.

[insteadfew]

You want penis in a relationship?

[dustybiker]

As a straight woman, why would I not?

[insteadfew]

I mean what's in a penis... basically it's the sexual pleasure that matters isn't it? Or the penis?

[dustybiker]

It’s biological. What is a vagina to a straight man? It’s primal. Now if you’re married and go through the process of “something” happening. I can see it being easier to detach either way.

[AssholeNumberOne]

Ouch.

[dustybiker]

@AssholeNumberOne lol

[insteadfew]

If a girl is ready to do everything else sexually, handjob, blowjob, kisses hugs and five her ass why would I worry about her vagina only!

[dustybiker]

@insteadfew I’m not asking you or trying to convince you yourself of anything. And there are always exceptions. To me it’s primal. I like sex.

[insteadfew]

You like male body specifically the penis? Or you just like sex and sexual pleasure which can be provided in any way and even by another woman?

[dustybiker]

And there it is. The Bi question. The original intent behind the initial question. Props for creativity and holding out. And I think my answer is more than obvious on what I’ve already given you. Again, I’m straight. ✌🏻

[insteadfew]

No you got me wrong. I meant the basic requirement is sexual pleasure and not the penis

[TransAm85]

My husband is getting to that point. He's 45 now and a functional alcoholic. Alcohol messes up some guys hormones I guess? We don't have sex as much as we used to, but he knows how to touch it and lick it so.. we're good. lol!

[insteadfew]

So he can't get erect at all... although he does feel aroused and hence is able to sexually please you in other ways?

[insteadfew]

Do you suck his?

[TransAm85]

Yea he can still get it up, but not like he used to. 11 years ago we used to do it almost everyday! Yea, he would drink after work or if we went out somewhere on the weekend and I drank also, it still wouldn't effect our sex life. I'd say since about '17, when he turned 40, things started changing. But, he knows my spot down there, knows how to touch it, everything.. yes I give him head

[insteadfew]

He still get some erect but not full boner hard erect?

[mandyfire98]

I mean if he's a miracle worker with his hands and mouth, I can probably look past it.

[insteadfew]

I thought many women already can't orgasm purely by penis... so...

[AssholeNumberOne]

@insteadfew this is true. At least for me

[Blackcosmo]

Sure. I mean sex is great but I'd deal with it and there are other ways to be intimate.

[insteadfew]

Yes true

[Adaeva]

I might date a boy, because how would I know since I'm not going to have sex with a boy. However, in a few years I hope to get married and have sex. Marriage without sex would not be acceptable to me.

[insteadfew]

You need actual sex with a penis only?

[Aurora1010]

Erm no. I want to enjoy sex with my husband.

[insteadfew]

And he is trying everything else to sexually please you...

[Aurora1010]

If I really love him for him and he loves me then maybe, but I would prefer everything with my husband. I mean if he can't get turned on it would be a bit of a problem for me.

[HumeyraHaktanır]

I've lost faith that there is such a man. If there is one, I hope I come across it.

[insteadfew]

You actually want a male who can't have sex and has some problems with his penis?

[HumeyraHaktanır]

Yes.

[insteadfew]

I mean you don't want sex ever? A man whose penis is sexually non functional and is only good enough to pee... That's how you want a male? But why? But then why want a man... why not get a woman for relationship then? Women would be more beautiful too