Is it okay to have sex with someone you're not dating?

[Bunny876]

[Emiliamazing]

There are always repercussions, that’s good and bad and making any decisions about your body and relationships. It’s likely you both will enjoy your “sexy time” together, it’s what occurs afterward that you will need to address.
hopefully this is two consenting adults that are not related either by blood or work relationships.
How you both handle it after the deed is done is what will determine the simplicity of the act.

[Emiliamazing]

Thank you very much for the MHO! Whatever you decide, I hope it doesn’t get complicated and you enjoy it

[hotwife98]

Absolutely. If you both want it then go wild... you both have the right to do what you want.

[Gagname]

Hi, so you are a hotwife …when did you first start having casual sex with other men while w your now-husband—before or after you married him?

[laurieluvsit]

Yes. Problem solved... lol

[Beatrix7]

well i use to do it years ago just one night stands gave it all up a few years later and decided am not getting used a want a guy that loves me first and wants to be my boyfriend now like the last 2 exs i had but one explained he still loved me but started liking someone else wich i appreciate because he told me the one i just left cheated for 2 years the slime ball so am not getting pissed on nd tossed in the trash from another guy make sure he loves me nd gonna stick at it first so i suppose for some women its ok but do what i did by a 7 inch dildo nd fuck it when u need a fuck but i know what you mean to real cocks better but just imagine its something sexy or a guy u like cock nd uwl blow it on your dildo like me close those eyes nd talk thtough it ohh yeah that feels good see some guy u like nd ride that dildo like fuck like i do

[AndrewAzul]

Nice coping skills.

[Beatrix7]

yeah defos a would say

[Beatrix7]

thanks

[purplepoppy]

Yes but if he's dating someone else it can cause problems

[burlen]

Why not? As long it is consensual.

[petitedollbabee]

Ofcourse, thats fine. Aslong as there’s consent and neither of you are in monogamous relationships, otherwise that’s just cheating.

[menina]

Some people are ok with it and it's their choice, I respect it. But I would never have sex without dating.

[Weapon77]

Not really. Casual sex is ruining societies.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Haha pussy does wreck lives... of divorced guys

[Weapon77]

Not wrong lol I'm afraid to get married even if I find a good girl because of that

[skeetskeetskeet]

There's no reason to If your a guy... and a whole lot of reasons not to... it's amazing guys still fall for it... even best case where she doesn't take all your money is a small percent

[Weapon77]

Yeah, if you knock up a stranger or acquaintence, you could lose all your money and freedom. If you take the time to actually find a partner, that chance is always still there, but it's much lower.

[Weapon77]

The best scenario seems to be to get a girlfriend but don't get married and maybe even avoid living together.

[skeetskeetskeet]

I'm not saying you can't live with her or whatever... just don't sign. A PAPER saying you have to pay her to leave..

[Weapon77]

Agreed. I considered asking for a prenup if I ever find the right girl, but it might be better to just never get married I don't know

[skeetskeetskeet]

A very large number... like 3/4 of them don't last over like a few years... I've seen. to many guys get washed out by divorces... It I was a woman I'd be all about it... it works for them

[OlderAndWiser]

As long as they are past the age of consent, are not related within a prohibited degree of consanguinity or relationship, and there is no other relationship like teacher-student or psychotherapist-patient, it is not illegal.

[Seinna]

For me personally it is not, but everyone has to answer that question for themselves.

I will say thought that doing hookups is self destructive behaviour for the vast majority of people, especially women. I wouldn't deny that right to anyone, but be careful that you don't hurt yourself in the end.

[Bob92220]

But when I read and watch feminist material, they claim sexual freedom is empowerment.

[Seinna]

@Bob92220 Sexual freedom, it being able to chose when and with whom to have sex is empowerment. It's something that historically women didn't have. But I'm talking about abusing that freedom.

[Bob92220]

"Sexual freedom, it being able to chose when and with whom to have sex is empowerment." "I will say thought that doing hookups is self destructive behaviour for the vast majority of people" But isn't part of a hookup choosing to have sex with whoever and whenever?

[Seinna]

@Bob92220 There's a difference between having the control and ability to do something and abusing it. It's like with alcohol - you have the freedom to drink as much as you want but if you abuse it there will be consequences. Still it's your choice and your life, I can't take that choice away from you. But it's a choice that was frequently taken away from women, more so than from men and hence brothels exist. Besides, the freedom is also in NOT doing it. And in the past women weren't always in control of that, if they had to marry whom their parents chose or simply out of necessity. If they had to stay in an abusive relationship because they couldn't support themselves outside of it because working was considered immoral for women. Not to mention the social stigma associated with it. If they couldn't do much else than turn the blind eye when they saw their husbands cheating. Of course cheating is something that women do as well but the consequences for men in the past were pretty much non existent because women were completely dependent on them. For a woman, even the accusation would mean shame and very likely poverty because they couldn't get a normal job and have independence. TLDR: Freedom =/= abuse

[Bob92220]

@seinna I agree with what you wrote. I agree that hookups are self-destructive for both genders.

[Seinna]

@Bob92220 I'm glad we're in agreement :) They're also harmful to the entire society for a number of reasons. Alas, we cannot take that choice from people, just inform those that we can.

[erandal]

Yes, why not? Nothing wrong with casual sex in my book.

[ComingHere91]

Do u still have sex with gugs out of marriage?

[ComingHere91]

Guys*

[erandal]

No, I don’t.

[ComingHere91]

U have been doing it before as i remember I had nice chat with u in my old account years ago lol

[EmyyWolf]

I have. But it’s not a good idea cause you might get attached as a woman.

Nowadays I can’t even fathom the idea of spreading my legs wide open for someone I barely even know. Or know for less than a year or 6 months at least!

And I regret doing one night stands or BOOTY CALLS. Cause it was just too awkward and emotionally empty

[TwiNshichamp1]

But you enjoyed the ride. The problem is emotional attachment. Guys & girls controlled by emotions are likely to fall in love most 🥲

[EmyyWolf]

@TwiNshichamp1 NO. Majority of them were pencil d. cks. They send me catfish or closeup photo of their D, and then when I met up they had something else…. Then I had pity-sex with them. They were cute. But they had a disappointing tool. AND THATS MAJORITY OF TINDER DUDES.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Hahaha I get you now 😂😂 do be honest it's a BD thing to send the fake pic thou but also if they know you won't be down to bang them they better put the face one 😂😂😂🙌🏾

[mermaidcancermoon]

Yes. But I dont do one night stands, I prefer friends with benefits so if I pick a guy ill hook up with him pretty regularly for at least a few months.

[AmysQs5]

Yes, I do. As long as you keep it safe, consensual, and ideally not drunk

[lightbulb27]

what do you mean by okay? Whom is responsible?

At a certain age the hormal system says "do this", you can't control it much... and as well, you magically become responsible for your actions and the repercussions not long after... about 18 generally. There are consequences to your actions... this is an emotional, physical and reproductive activity.

In my view... no... would be taking on a bunch of risks that you don't want... do I need to list them? And for limited reward your glands insists upon. But, might get away with it.. many do. Maybe only problems some % of the time. But those problems can be life altering and some, are not fixable... just have to move forward. Note that the hormones shift and change, so feelings will change.

How about thinking differently... what do I want out of life, why do I want that... and what are the rules/values/boundaries you hold to attain those goals. That much better viewpoint.

Thinking back...18 is soooo young, I knew almost nothing at that age. note... just had a baby in the family... a lot of support, a lot of energy, cost, work. think twice...

I'll say this... you can fire "a bullet", but once you do... you cannot run out and catch it and put it back in the gun.. should you change your mind. the damage it does is what it is and must be accepted. that is reality. think twice! I'm sure Derek Chauvin and many others would act differently, in hindsight... if they had the benefit of hindsight.

The answer is no...

[LovingLoverReturned]

Okay meaning satisfactory? Not to me.

[Pinay_ako]

As long as it’s mutual agreement, and mutual satisfaction, 🤣 who are we to judge

[Biancam13]

Of course it is. Just be careful, it's probably better to at least know them a bit first because sex with strangers is usually quite risky

[StevieNix]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/60XTeHM9iLQ

If this is a serious question, and you actually think anyone gives a shit about you... they don't. You can do one thousand good things in life, and no one will remember. But if you do one bad thing, they will never forget about it. That's how the game works.

I love this song because it's a powerful message...

But it's all right now
I learned my lesson well
You see, you can't please everyone
So you got to please yourself

No truer words have been spoken.

[dustybiker]

As long as you aren’t with anyone else…

[LazerBean]

Considering the term "dating" is so loosely defined, indefii and inconsequential, I would say having sex with someone you're dating and having casual sex are essentially the same thing.

[Gagname]

Interesting original take.