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Why do men cheat and still stay married to their wife?

My husband told me that he cheated on me because I wouldn’t suck you know what all the time.
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  • Because divorce is complicated and very risky. I mean I never cheated but I should of, and she did. But by the time she did the marriage was extremely toxic, she would never really satisfy me in the bedroom, but she cheats while I lived in sexual frustration.

    She did everything while we dated, but by year 1 in marriage she wouldn't do anything but vaginal, and by year 2 that was only once every other week just to appease me. Seriously she made it so difficult. She turned into such a terrible person in such a short time period.

    Sexual frustration is a big deal to men, it wears you out, and its demasculinateing. And if you have kids, and you know she's going to make divorcing as painful as possible... well screw it.

    So its probably got everything or something to do about that. A good women knows how to treat her man right, and a good man always treats and takes care for his women. Obviously, you and ours are not on the same page or someone isn't doing the right things for the other person.

    Who is to blame? On some level both of you, so end it, divorce and move on.

    • You should still look for divorce. Right now, you are living as less than you should be. Lose the money, lose the house, gain some self-respect. Why? That's the only thing you will actually keep until death. You can still lose the other things anyway.

    • @GreatnessBack I am divorced, sorry for not including that. And yes you are absolutely correct. I am the happiest I have ever been, and I do very well on the open market.

    • Great to hear.

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  • I would create a contractual agreement, in which we set terms for the relationship.

    Ultimately your making a choice between undesirable options which when listed out may be far more undesirable than you may recognize in an emotional state. So you must list them out before acting rashly.

    For almost everyone marriage provides several key securities they need which by themselfs depending upon age and circumstances are far more important.

    1: Security of children having parents who can between them fully support them emotionally and financially. This is extremely important because the propose of a marriage first and foremost is to protect children, if you have any stay for them.
    2: Future physical and financial security. Like it or not life isn't for everyone a smooth ride and usually requires some kind of support in the long run. Depending upon your age the need to have a reliable partner to help you and help is quite high.

    The main risk of an unfaithful man is that he may in fact become unreliable, however the law says the build of his responsibilities and resources belong to you. You have to judge the stability of that relationship on his end vs the odds of finding something better among the available unmarred selection.
    Your age is a major factor in this it changes the nature of those still available to marry who are more trustworthy.

    In no uncertain terms older you are the less likely you are to run into a potential suitor will have a good reason for not still being marred.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Because she it's her property. Because it's his property and he didn't get a prenup. Because society considers divorce bad. Because his D only responds to thrill seeking. Because he suspects she's doing the same behind his back.

    The reasons can be many.

    Word of advice is if you aren't happily married, get out before your secretary becomes the homewreaker and gets in!

  • I don’t think this is a husband only thing, wives cheat as well and still stay with there husband. Do you think some people my not let their heart of mind cheat and may see sex as just a physical pleasurable act, when with someone other than your partner?

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  • Why do women cheat and still stay married to their husband? Neither gender has a monopoly on infidelity. Cheaters cheat because of their character flaws, self-centerness in particular. Cheating is their excitement but they still want the benefits of being married. Cheaters want what they want, when they want it, and they don't have much regard for how that affects others. he only time they feel "sorry" is when they have been caught.

  • Your husband sounds horrible.

  • Because they can. Most men like varieties… if they can get away.
    most women stay due to fear.
    my college girlfriend stay with her husband because she convinced herself she can’t find better.

    • U don't think it's fear, women actively choose men that are good with women, so your biologically predisposed to liking men that are good with women, hence the higher licklyhood that he will cheat. I've never heard a girl say "eww look at that guy that all the women are fighting to be with"

    • @chris_987 I said it’s due to fear.

    • Oh sorry I meant to say what are women Afraid off? Being lonely or that a guy will flip out on them.

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  • Because most women are more willing to accept bs men than the other way around.

    • The older you get the fewer "Good men" are not already taken. There is a reason he is single after 30, its either because he wants to be, or he has issues.

  • Well not all men do that. Women do it too. Because they are DISGUSTING

  • Men cheat if the opportunity arises and women to replace their man

  • Some think they can get away with it, and some are simply feared of loneliness. Kids could be a reason too.

    • I think also because he make me feel worthless and that I wasn’t good enough for somebody else and he made me afraid and dependent of him. I was only 16 years old and he was

    • I'm sorry that you feel this way but you are good enough, believe me. You deserve better than him.

    • Kids are a major reason to remain married for the marriage does after all primarily exist to protect them NOT the parents. Thou parents benefits greatly from the added security, particularity as they get older, the benefits of returning to the market become ever more dwindled, as fewer and fewer better people remain available.

  • Because divorce is dpensive.

  • Maybe because they can. Many women are forgiving, and afraid they couldn't find someone else, just look at Hillary.

  • My only question is why do wives still stay married to those cheating men

  • Because you're a troll 🙄

  • Why do women cheat and still stick with their main squeeze

  • Guys usually get hosed in the divorce.

  • I don't understand this, I think probably because women don't go for loyal guys.
    That's how it's for me as a man, look we all characterize cheating as bad... And growing up as a boy, you set this for yourself because you deeply want to have a significant one to be loyal to.
    But then.. something happens, - You want honesty? I'm giving it - you eventually find out that women are so hung up with scarcity, You see them admire you more if you're machiavellian and your eyes are all over other women. So eventually cheating becomes a lot less than a crime to you,... I hope I communicated this well.

    Now I am well off without a relationship, but if in the future I get a wife, or a relationship, I am never going to be loyal at all.
    So this is your problem as women! not us, you have to solve this in your collective gender perception, that men who are loyal, or want to be loyal to one woman, they difinitely don't have less self-esteem or less value.

    Best regards to you 🌷

  • Yep. I get it. He desires you and for you to please him. You don't. It's unfortunate that the both of you are to blame for said actions. He is wrong to cheat. And you are wrong to not please him. Now, I'm not suggesting you be forced to do something you don't want to do. What I am saying is that there are obvious breakdowns in communication, trust, and intimacy within your marriage.

    I'm willing to bet you both love each other. If you want it to work, you're going to have to put your marriage first.

    Good luck.

  • People who cheat are doing so because they have some unmet need/want, and they either feel like they can't leave, or they're comfortable enough in their situation to stay.

    • Why he doesn't talk to his wife? Why cheating?

    • @gstyu Why would I know that? You should ask him.

  • once either side feels like their desires aren't being meet or they get denied by their partner regularly they are likely to seek out alternate means of pleasure. happens for both males and females over time.

    but males are often driven by a primal urges to spread their seed as much as possible. a good partner can help keep those urges in check over time with regular release.

    this explains it rather well.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/OaaoSxXa3Gc

  • So why don't you get to suckin?

    Seems simple enough

  • Divorce is expensive

  • Because she provides things the mistress can't. The wife might meet 70% of the guy's emotional needs while being unable or refuse to meet the other 30%. The mistress addresses the other 30%. The guy gets 100% of his needs met from two different women. If he left his wife, he'd only have 30% of his needs met and would be worse off than he was before.

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