What’s your body count?

[Pinay_ako]

Does body count make/break a relationship or during early stages of dating?

[ObscuredBeyond]

The story behind the body count, and her attitude about it, matter more than the actual number. But if she hits 7 or more and acts like she's learned nothing from it, that's a red flag. If she's had five kids by five different baby daddies before reaching 40, and she is a smoker, that's usually a flashing red light and a loud buzzer, like an inbound nuke alert!

If she's had four prior boyfriends, and been heartbroken by all of them, a little therapy - and seeing someone who isn't a douche - may be all she needs.

If she's the village bike, and is always drunk, that's a good sign to stay away.

If a smokin' hot Pinay who's had one or two trysts in the past because she got hopeful but couldn't control herself around certain friends, because they were too much fun, but has made strides to recover since, I can forgive pretty easily.

My actual body count is one. But I have a long history of crushing on women that unfortunately turn out to be self-destructive. And ever since I lost Sunny, I've tread very cautiously before giving serious pursuit to anyone else. Partially due to a belief that no one can truly replace her. And partially due to not wanting to get hurt again.

It's difficult to cultivate love in an environment of zero security.

[shamac644]

To be honest. I've slept with a lot of people for a guy that's almost 23. I'm not proud of it. I just never tell anyone I'm dating what my body count is. Don't judge a guy on his or her body count.

[Pinay_ako]

You’re being honest and that’s admirable

[shamac644]

Thank you very much. It's nice you don't judge like a lot of other females I've once told my body count to after they asked me. Lol. I will never share that info to a girl I'm dating again!!

[Pinay_ako]

Unless she tells hers…And honesty is the best policy 🥲

[love_conquers_lust]

Your options are lie or be a coward. That’s called laying in your bed.

[Dawty]

Body counts matters, at least for some.

[Lynn2001]

I’m glad you’re applying it to men as well. A lot of men who have slept around aren’t like that.

[Lynn2001]

I never judge people on their body counts as I believe the past is the past and it doesn’t always define who people are, things happen.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Less than a 100, but its classified except for extremely serious relationships when I insist on sharing my entire history and they should to with me, before we go any deeper.

I don't want any unexpected problems in the future.

We are who we are, through the past until now... so it definitely matters and the past is a good way to predict how the future may go with someone.

People say the past doesn't matter but it can very well break a relationship if later on someone finds out that number and then they are like, no way I never would of had I known. I've had guys cheat on me, cause of it... or leave me. Even in later stages when they find out, unintentionally or accidentally.

Most people who says it doesn't matter, seems to have a unofficial limit they don't really think about, that they have. They may be thinking 10 is a lot and won't matter, but then if they find out other has been with a 100 or a 1000 or 10000 then they'll be like, no thanks.

[Fuentes]

Bruh imma need to know if I date a chick off the bat like in a relationship I got a issue of she has more bodies then me I gotta fuck her and block her.

[Aerissa_Jade]

@Fuentes No doubt, I agree, equal is best but I'm not going to tell someone my number before dating or even on the first date... its around number 12 for me. So about two or three weeks tops... no point in sharing that info if we aren't going to make it that far for other reasons.

[Kerryk88]

16. Body count doesn’t bother me my unless it’s in the hundreds

[Roxxy99]

Body count is irrelevant. I don’t ask anyone’s number and I don’t reveal mine. That information isn’t anyone else’s business. Judge people in the present. Who cares if they’ve had more past relationships than you’ve had? People need to stop sabotaging their own happiness with insecurity. Life’s too short.

[Dawty]

It's about moral and mental damage, not to mention STDs, not insecuritys. It's the business of a potential partner if he cares and you want him. Life is too short for promiscuous partners.

[Roxxy99]

I’ll just agree to disagree. My past is not his business and his is not mine. A person’s present is not always the same as their past either. People mature and evolve. If I can’t give someone a clean slate and judge them by how I find them, then I’m not giving them a fair shake. People who get hung up on this stuff, in my experience, are either insecure or extremely judgmental. Either way, I don’t need those kind of people in my life.

[Dawty]

Fair enough, it will eliminate some good men though.

[Ευδεμονια]

Since there isn’t an option for negative numbers, I’d say 0.

[Lliam]

Body count doesn't make any difference to me, but you'll get a wide range of opinion on this issue.

I've never even asked a girl about her body count. None have ever asked mine, either.

My body count is eleven if I recall. That's because I was mostly with long-term girlfriends. I'm not counting a few BJs from non-girlfriends over the years. And I had a five year dry spell from about age 29 to 34 that resulted from work related self esteem issues. But I estimate that I've came inside women well over 5000 times. And that doesn't count BJs.

I think women should use the pussies that God gave them. They use their hands, feet, arms, legs and every other body part. Why shouldn't they use the part that is strictly for pleasure?

I do not use the word slut to describe sexually active women. I consider such women to be healthy and normal.

In high school, I wanted nothing to do with skanks who had been fucked by every guy at school. But I didn't care if a girl had been fucked 1000 times by a succession of boyfriends.

I like girls who like to fuck and I wouldn't date one who didn't. I always went for girls with self respect, healthy values, hope and dreams, and strong libidos. When they engaged in a committed relationship, they gave it their all. Sex when there is mutual infatuation is the best thing we can experience.

I respect women who have gone through a series of relationships. They know that relationships don't always last because each relationship is an experiment. So they keep trying until they find their perfect match. And, in the process, they have lots of fun.

[MTC29]

I never counted... and I never ask.

[wingattebaby16]

body count can make or break a relationship.

for me, bad hygiene and a guy that suffers from "little man syndrome" is a deal breaker. Especially the latter.

[OlderAndWiser]

My body count is 24, spread out over a period of 52 years, but only 10 over the last 37 years. I am much more sttled down now.

I never ask a woman about her body count. Instead, I try to determine her current attitude about the role of sex in a relationship. Is it just a recreational activity to be enjoyed with whoever is available or is it something special to be shared with a romantic partner? THAT is what is important to me.

Of course, if her body count was 20 over the past five years, she is probably just a recreational sex participant but that will probably be obvious to me when we talk. But if she had 30 partners during her first 10 years of sexual activity, and then five partners over the past 20 years, then her promiscuity is in her past and I can leave it there.

[Daniela1982]

I think even 30 in 10 years is too many. They would seem to not be able to maintain a relationship, or maybe just serial one-night standers. With everyone you sleep with you are absorbing some of their baggage and making it yours to a point. How many of these were from Tinder or Horny Matches?

[duttyjamagyal]

Thirty is a lot thats three a year, why u running through so many relationships in a year

[OlderAndWiser]

@duttyjamagyal I never said I had 30 in 10 years! I said I had 24 in 52 years. Read again: "But if SHE had 30 partners during her first 10 years of sexual activity, and then five partners over the past 20 years, then her promiscuity is in her past and I can leave it there."

[OlderAndWiser]

@Daniela1982 I never said I had 30 in 10 years. I haven't had 30 in my entire lifetime!

[Daniela1982]

I didn't mean you, just saying I thought that 30 in 10 years would be too much. But again, that is just my opinion.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Daniela1982 Okay. If the 30 in ten years was several decades ago. . . suppose I was single and I met a women my age - 67. When she was young, she had 30 partners by th time she was 26 years old. Then she had an awakening, got serious, settled into a LTR, married for 40 years, her husband dies. Now she's a widow and she had 30 partners in 10 years but she only had one partner in the past 40 years. Wouldn't you place much more weight on the past 40 years?

[Daniela1982]

If those facts had been given at the start I would have not said anything. But that is far better than the other way around and they had 30 in a year.

[Paulalove98]

My body count is 3 and I’m almost 24. Ehh it can but I’m not picky about it much as long as he’s clean and loyal to me if we get together:)

[Sirenboobzilla]

12. 15 if you include girls. My boyfriend's body count is 5 including myself.

[Lynn2001]

“15 is you include girls” Did you get past foreplay with the girls you slept with? (Ex: scissoring or some type of genital and/or body rubbing / etc)

[lightbulb27]

I honestly don't like the mentality in the question, almost sounds like "trophy" hunting., a thing of pride. something got messed up in our social thinking.

[SkyCastle90]

One.

[FreedMan]

12 that made it to actual dating about that many in just casual encounters. And it's not that important to me as such but I feel there is a limit. Age is a factor too. 20 people means a lot less to me if the lady is in her 40s as opposed to her 20s. I think it really just depends on the person too. If I bother to ask it's because they seem highly promiscuous/flirty with other men and I'm concerned about fidelity. Again this would be early stages of dating. If we're together and we've been together for years then I trust the person implicitly until she loses my trust through her actions. The other concern I get that other men have is about societal views which do have an impact on our psyche whether we want it to or not.

[summiter]

I'm in the 30 to 40 range with no regrets. I always used condoms. Happily married now so the body count will never go up.

[LazerBean]

1, and absolutely. It was very important to me that the man I married kept the same standards that I had for myself.

[spartan55]

That's classified.

[Pinay_ako]

Ooh no kiss and tell! Love it

[spartan55]

Greater than 5, less than 500

[Apple1996]

Only ever had sex with 1 but oral with around 15

[Pinay_ako]

15 oral?

[Apple1996]

Yess some people count it as body count. I don't usually since it's not real sex in my opinion

[Pinay_ako]

True

[Dawty]

Obviously oralsex counts, it's in the word... sex. Also STDs risk is increasing with higher oralsex body counts.

[Apple1996]

@Dawty some people count it, some people don't count it. Just depends how they define body count

[Dawty]

I suppose it depends on why you count in the first place.

[Mia-Wallace]

Mine is 2. Ex and my husband.

My husband is +20. I never cared.

[Dawty]

It is bad for the reason I said in mytake on the subject.

[FreyaRed]

It's not that "impressing"
If you meet someone who has a lot of short wiled relationship, it's just a matter of logic to figure out that you will be the next short wiled relationship.

[TazWax]

2seven

[ZS007]

0 🤪

[Pinay_ako]

That’s okay ❤️ . My first body was at 22 😝

[Zolly99999]

@zs007 that's great to hear..

[Zolly99999]

@pinay_ako that's because you are a good girl.

[Pinay_ako]

@Zolly99999 🤣 was i?

[Zolly99999]

@pinay_ako yes you waited and just didn't give it away to anybody. I respect that

[Pinay_ako]

@Zolly99999 🥰 really? Yea I did.

[Zolly99999]

That's what makes you a good girl and get my respect 😁

[Pinay_ako]

@Zolly99999 I’m a baddie 😈 😂 but thanks ☺️

[Zolly99999]

🤔🤔

[Pinay_ako]

@Zolly99999 🤣 what

[Zolly99999]

@pinay_ako that's me trying to picture you as a "baddie" lol

[Pinay_ako]

@Zolly99999 petite baddie 😝

[Zolly99999]

@pinay_ako stop it you are turning me on 😳

[Pinay_ako]

@Zolly99999 🤣 wtf 😝

[Zolly99999]

@pinay_ako oops did I say that out loud?😳